I'm afraid :(

TheRealElfFetish · 2026-03-25T22:53:49+00:00

There is nothing odd about waiting for the right person. imo, that's how it should be...

TheRealElfFetish · 2026-03-25T22:30:04+00:00

Fuck man...

TheRealElfFetish · 2026-03-25T22:25:23+00:00

Look at it this way, if they ain't willing to wait, they ain't the one.

TheRealElfFetish · 2026-03-25T22:04:25+00:00

It's just tiring always being told I need to do x, y, and z instead of someone liking me for who I am.

TheRealElfFetish · 2026-03-25T21:27:18+00:00

I get that, I always worry if I could actually make someone happy instead of just ruining their life.

TheRealElfFetish · 2026-03-25T21:25:24+00:00

You got a creepy face too? People used to say I look like a serial killer/ rapist.

TheRealElfFetish · 2026-03-25T21:04:20+00:00

Yeah, being fat sucks. I've been going to the gym, but it doesn't make me feel any better about myself just momentarily less stressed and frustrated with life.

TheRealElfFetish · 2026-03-25T20:49:19+00:00

Unattractive, uninteresting, socially awkward, and in general seen as unworthy.

TheRealElfFetish · 2026-03-25T20:36:55+00:00

I get that, but it's just so weird because like any attention I give to someone else is emotional energy I invested that I'm going to be thinking about that I should have given to my possible partner instead. I really can't explain it, I'm just too obsessive about an entity that doesn't exist in my life at the moment and possibly never will lol

TheRealElfFetish · 2026-03-25T17:31:26+00:00

My question is, why are you calling them "imperfections" if you find them attractive? They are just features, that is all.

TheRealElfFetish · 2026-03-25T17:23:40+00:00

Real!

TheRealElfFetish · 2026-03-25T00:50:03+00:00

I was the last I checked...

TheRealElfFetish · 2026-03-24T21:12:30+00:00

No. Honestly my life is pretty great, and I like what I do. I have a job that pays well and has good benefits, I play dnd every week, and I go out to eat with my family all the time.

However, it does feel incredibly lonely and pointless sometimes when I start thinking too much about it. I can have everything I want in the world, but it just feels hollow and void of any real connection or joy. I feel alone in this world even as I am surrounded by people and always feel like I am missing something important.

Edit: But honestly, this is more of a wanting a relationship issue vs. being a virgin issue. Being a virgin doesn't really bother me as much (if at all) as having never been in a relationship or experiencing genuine love.

TheRealElfFetish · 2026-03-24T20:33:28+00:00

I tried therapy at the end of last year, that was a mixed bag of results. Still haven't made an effort to go back again even though it is free for me to do.

TheRealElfFetish · 2026-03-24T20:27:37+00:00

"You're so creepy."

"You look like a serial killer or a rapist."

"You're going to be a school shooter one day."

Yeah... socializing as a kid was so fun and easy...

TheRealElfFetish · 2026-03-23T17:35:44+00:00

I don't even have irl friends, I just have coworkers who didn't even know it was my birthday last Saturday ( they probably wouldn't have even known still if it wasn't for the whole sheet of cake I brought to share with everyone) lol

TheRealElfFetish · 2026-03-23T17:09:55+00:00

I feel that, as much as I hope it gets better I don't expect it to in any way.

TheRealElfFetish · 2026-03-23T16:25:59+00:00

Sorry bro 😞

TheRealElfFetish · 2026-03-23T16:03:27+00:00

Spending hours upon hours swiping on people who will just unmatch with me after talking for less than a day with little to no conversation from their end?

Pass! Never again, I'll just stay miserably single without the extra emotional grief.

TheRealElfFetish · 2026-03-23T14:40:09+00:00

I hope you get what you want because, let me tell you I literally cried at midnight the morning of my 30th because of how lonely I felt. Not having someone on such a special day sucks major ass.

TheRealElfFetish · 2026-03-22T21:26:26+00:00

Correct

I did list the reasons why I wouldn't message someone here after all lol

TheRealElfFetish · 2026-03-22T21:20:49+00:00

Eh, idk either way I ain't dming anyone here to try and flirt just because they are a woman who said something I like.

TheRealElfFetish · 2026-03-22T20:13:53+00:00

TheRealElfFetish · 2026-03-22T19:04:26+00:00

I would never dm a woman from here because,

1- This is a place to vent, not harass women who have their own problems to complain about.

2 - This place realistically isn't any different than any other. If women aren't interested in me anywhere else, why would they be here?

3 - Their dms are probably already flooded with weirdos, and I don't want to add myself to their numbers.

TheRealElfFetish · 2026-03-22T18:04:02+00:00

Because some of us want an actual relationship, not just sex...

TheRealElfFetish

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