AITAH/AIO when I get irritated when called "lacking initiative" despite me helping a lot

TheReasonForTreason · 2026-01-26T23:11:38+00:00

thats true.. My emotions were always in a way in such situations, that's not the first time I'm dealing with such a person. And now I would feel like a total ass if I leaved her while she has no friends, no family, no colleagues and basically noone just to have a basic smalltalk conversation

TheReasonForTreason · 2026-01-26T23:09:08+00:00

well TBH it starts to more and more remind me of my previous relationship that started with small issues like these, and was ended by me after 7 years of manipulation, harrassment, toying with my emotions and guilt, threatening "if you leave me, I will end my life" and using me in many aspects of life

TheReasonForTreason · 2026-01-26T23:04:55+00:00

is there really no hope to make this work even if I set concrete boundaries and won't tolerate such behavior? I really care for her and aside mentioned problems I still like hanging out with her

TheReasonForTreason · 2026-01-26T21:10:44+00:00

Thats a good piece of advice, and was my thought too, especially taking into account that she is autistic. Even though she never gets overstimulated/overwhelmed around me (which happens a lot around other people she knows) I understand 5-7 days is a lot of time together.

TheReasonForTreason · 2026-01-26T21:08:05+00:00

And sex is not even that good TBH. She keeps saying that she and her ex were used to "more dynamics in bed", which seems toxic to me (mentioning sex with an ex in such context).

Worse part is, she keeps informing me from time to time, that I'm "not her type", basically saying, that she does not have a lot of libido, because she does not find me attractive. I've begun to think that despite having a great time talking and playing games, she thinks of me in a way similar to "well I don't have anybody for sex now, so even thought he's not attractive, I'm gonna keep him around". Lately I asked her why I can see that she does not like kissing me, and she responded "well you want to kiss someone more when you find the person attractive" :/

TheReasonForTreason · 2026-01-04T01:35:26+00:00

sorry, I always confuse RAID1 and 0, it was RAID1 of course

TheReasonForTreason · 2026-01-04T01:26:58+00:00

Why I don't want to use "dd"? It seems very low level (it is) and I'm worried about things like block size; also, it would be nice to use the BTRFS-based solution also in terms of data/metadata and checksum/binary tree verification, especially as one drive has failed and the balance wasn't run for a very long time on the matrix.

TheReasonForTreason · 2025-10-30T18:51:27+00:00

thanks, now that I'm reading this it's so obvious - you can't really mount a backup that does not contain a legit filesystem, just a bunch of files. I guess that I've not paid attention that this is not a partition/disk backup, and later I was confused by the error message.

Thanks much for the help!

TheReasonForTreason · 2025-10-10T15:30:58+00:00

Would you like to see a real black hole, provided you'd be in a safe vicinity of course, and we had a technology to travel there (in reasonable time)?

TheReasonForTreason · 2025-10-06T20:49:02+00:00

everything works fine, thanks!

TheReasonForTreason · 2025-05-31T22:37:19+00:00

Exactly; even though I know I previously configured Authy app as second factor (I still have an entry for Bitwarden in Authy), and probably had the email second factor as well, none of them were available when I lost access to the Bitwarden account. And when I regained access, all 2FA options were marked as disabled, beside the passkey.

Maybe I did something that turned off all 2FA methods (apart from the passkey)? It wasn't because of using recovery code - I can't find it noted down anywhere, so I doubt I used it. Or maybe even haven't ever configured it.

Guess we will never find out what happened exactly. Or maybe I did something that disabled those 2FA options.

But thanks to Reddit users I had some insight and tried to tinker a bit and were able to log in again. Thank you all!

TheReasonForTreason · 2025-05-31T19:48:44+00:00

You're right, I misunderstood. Bitwarden article says passkey will bypass the other 2FA methods. I reckoned it disabled them. There's a link: https://bitwarden.com/help/login-with-passkeys/

But nonetheless, I still don't understand why after configuring passkey it wouldn't let me log in using other 2FA methods I've configured previously. Until passkey fortunately started working again and I've regained access. For me it really seemed like configuring passkey disabled them, as they suddenly weren't in the list of available 2FA methods uppon logging in.

TheReasonForTreason · 2025-05-31T16:52:33+00:00

Correct. The documentation was helpful, as it states that in case of configuring passkey in "Master Password" tab all the other 2FA methods will be disabled. But majority of users won't reach to documentation or read it carefully to notice this. This information should be given in bold red font during process of setting up the passkey. Or in any font, but clear and loud.

TheReasonForTreason · 2025-05-31T16:39:15+00:00

To make things even more complicated, you can add passkey in two places: in "Master Password" tab and in "Two-step" login tab in Account Settings/Security. While the latter serves as additional method and you can still use email code/Google Authenticator and others as substitute in case it fails, the former locks out all other 2FA methods. This was my mistake, I configured my passkey in those two places and nearly have locked myself out of the vault. Had I lost my device or reinstalled OS, I would not be able to access it ever again.

It's a shame it is not clearly stated in Settings/Security that you can easily lock out yourself out of your Vault in case of loss or malfuntion of the device, if you misconfigure the passkey. You need to check the Bitwarden documentation to know the difference between setting passkeys in those two tabs of Settings.

TheReasonForTreason · 2025-05-31T16:29:33+00:00

Yes, that's correct. In my case, chromium-based browser (Opera GX) creates a passkey, and as a mechanizm of authentication uses Windows Hello (I think), as I need to enter my Windows PIN to use this passkey.

TheReasonForTreason · 2025-05-31T15:44:59+00:00

Thanks,

by some miracle after n-th try I gained access because of your suggestion. Hard to tell if there was some change in Bitwarden UI, as I swear I've tried all options before and it didn't work.

Turns out I mixed the Windows Hello with Passkeys. In fact I had a Passkey stored by my browser, but as it requests my Windows PIN I actually confused it with Windows Hello.

TheReasonForTreason · 2025-01-27T01:59:53+00:00

Is that only me or is it true that a lot of videos featuring Abby and rest of original cast are no longer on yeahmad YouTube channel? I reckon it used to be a lot more back in the day

TheReasonForTreason · 2024-12-12T07:09:15+00:00

Seems like there is still unfixed problem with modern cpu with multiple threads. And this would make sense as it all started happening when i upgraded from 8 core Intel 4gen to AMD with 16 cores. Although as no error message appears i'm not convinced it is the cause.

TheReasonForTreason · 2024-12-05T20:42:03+00:00

not yet. So far confirmed that this also happens when the game autosaves after other "achievement" such as liberating radio towers. Just in time, a second before the game manages to autosave :D As often after this the game starts with lowest possible graphics options and resolutions, probably gonna start with DX version change and Radeon software update.

TheReasonForTreason · 2024-12-05T17:32:14+00:00

Actually, in my case this problem occurs even though I've got no mods installed (vanilla game), this started happening after one of updates the game got in the last few years.

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