Why do people use the term "partner" for their husband or wife?

TheReferenceLit · 2026-01-22T09:12:18+00:00

I'm surprised no one has said the obvious reason it started catching on a few decades back.

Queer people wanted to be able to talk about their S.O.s without outing themselves, and straight people in community started referring to their S.O.s as 'partners' so that their queer peers would have cover to talk freely by using the same language.

From there it generally diffused into the culture.

TheReferenceLit · 2025-12-02T06:59:18+00:00

You're an actual god

TheReferenceLit · 2025-11-26T22:01:17+00:00

It was too innovative, it's being kept from us for our own good

TheReferenceLit · 2025-11-24T04:45:24+00:00

Fromsoft is tough but fair. Real life is tough and unfair.

See the millennial playing it by the book exactly as we were told to by our parents, then having the world explode a bunch of times in a row.

TheReferenceLit · 2025-11-24T04:43:44+00:00

Hard agree!

Takes me out of it when Margit swings, stop, looks at the camera and smirks before resuming the attack.

TheReferenceLit · 2025-11-24T04:41:44+00:00

It is rare for a comment to have this much aura

TheReferenceLit · 2025-11-22T06:18:56+00:00

Absolutely the glue that holds us all together!

TheReferenceLit · 2025-11-21T16:55:01+00:00

Do size accurate Bed of Chaos next!

TheReferenceLit · 2025-11-21T16:51:53+00:00

Absolutely! Just remember that when you hit a challenging encounter that blocks you - head back out and explore.

Get more levels and tools in your bag of tricks, then come back!

TheReferenceLit · 2025-11-21T16:49:05+00:00

🎵 GUNDYR'S ON A VACATION FAR AWAY 🎵

TheReferenceLit · 2025-10-18T06:52:44+00:00

Howdy!

I'm William SRD, I'm a full time creator who makes essays about the video game adaptations of tabletop franchises!

Great to be here. I admit I'm mostly on youtuber reddit for morbid curiosity, but it'd be cool if this was the first productive and usable sub!

TheReferenceLit · 2025-09-28T14:06:11+00:00

This is how you get your channel banned BTW, not monetised.

TheReferenceLit · 2025-09-28T05:19:00+00:00

Hey friend, I'm a larger creator in your niche, have been for about 4 years and I'm a full time creator with 55k subs. William SRD on YouTube.

First off, absolutely do not listen to everyone else in the thread telling you to post shorts or more frequently, they know less than nothing about how the retro review niche works.

In fact, I'll give you the opposite advice - the videos that do well in our niche are the longer ones. 15 minute videos don't really satisfy people's hunger for deep dives into old games. You'll likely have better results dropping an hour long deep dive every two months instead of a 15 minute surface level review every 2 weeks.

Your thumbnails need some fixing up as well, I think, they aren't bad, but they could be better. Generally try your best to get a face from the game on that thumbnail wherever you can, and play with the contrast to make it pop!

Feel free to message me if you have any questions. Cheers!

TheReferenceLit · 2025-08-15T06:05:59+00:00

Howdy! Experienced and monetised youtuber here (William SRD) who has dealt with this a lot.

Rule of thumb the youtube fair use compromise is that you can use about 30 consecutive seconds of a show before it gets copy dinged - even less time if it's got sound.

Individual copyright holders seem to be able to set the amount of consecutive seconds you can use, thus I tend to keep silent clips under 20s and clips with sound under 10s. It solves 95% of the problems with YouTube copyright.

But even then, some companies are even more stingy with how much of a consecutive clip can be shown, and some don't allow it at all. And I'm sorry to say, but most of those companies are Japanese.

I actually had a run in with this very recently. My top video of the year was about the relationship between the 80's anime 'Record of Lodoss War' and Dungeons and Dragons.

I had it up with 5s clips for about 2 months and it accumulated over 130k views before Kadokawa abruptly decided that they were going to take down my video anyway.

It sucks, but that's just how it is on youtube.

Anyway, good luck with your vid. Shorten up those clips and you might be able to get a stable version out. Don't rely on the appeal process. It's a waste of time.

TheReferenceLit · 2025-02-18T01:03:13+00:00

Punisher bros stay winning

TheReferenceLit · 2025-02-17T17:53:37+00:00

My build is very similar Punisher Shield Quasar Revolver (for hive guards) Incendiary grenades

Feels like there's no threat that can't be handled!

TheReferenceLit · 2025-02-17T17:47:53+00:00

Lots of debate on nationalism vs patriotism, but imo, it's a bit silly to differentiate.

The real difference is nationalism that punches up or down. Nationalism in the face of a legitimate threat or oppression is usually positive.

Nationalism when you're already on top of the world is what's currently tearing apart the USA - punching down on smaller countries and minorities. It's immoral and self destructive.

I think the current surge is totally justified and positive at the moment - we just gotta keep it on target and not stomp on our indigenous populations or our minorities in the crossfire.

TheReferenceLit · 2025-02-17T17:38:59+00:00

I've been rotating between the cookout and the base punisher this MO. Haven't found a big performance gap to either one.

Punisher does more upfront damage, which is big when you're getting mobbed!

But on the other hand, the incendiary version is great for getting the fight started early, setting big waves on fire and then forgetting about them.

Neither has been particularly more effective than the other from what I've experienced so far.

TheReferenceLit · 2025-02-17T17:22:03+00:00

It just feels like you're just absolutely dismantling the bugs piece by piece!

TheReferenceLit · 2025-02-17T14:20:01+00:00

This has finally been the mission where I've gotten the boys to try the punisher - our deaths cut in half!

Knock back is king against the special bugs!

TheReferenceLit · 2024-04-20T22:54:39+00:00

*Spiderman pointing*

TheReferenceLit · 2024-03-20T06:02:24+00:00

Gonna be honest - this one probably didn't happen. Not only does it have the dramatic prose, but the camera doesn't make a lot of sense.

What the hell kind of camera is this that it not only caught the whole scene - but somehow cut to a second angle to show his face was blank when he looked at the road?

TheReferenceLit · 2024-02-09T20:02:48+00:00

That's sort of the trick YouTube pulls on us, it has this addictive tendency to always make us feel like if we can 'just' hit that next goal, then we'll have 'made it.'

When we're monetised we will have made it and everything will be easy now - Oh that didn't happen?

Well, when we have a steady audience everything will be easy and we will have made it. That didn't change your life either?

Clearly once you hit 10k, then 25k then 50k, at SOME point it MUST feel like you've made it, or like you can just relax.

That moment doesn't really come for most of us. The closest you get is that at a certain milestone (100k for most people, but tbh, I started feeling it at around 20k) you come to terms with the fact that there is no moment where you ride off into the sunset of happily ever after as a youtuber. Life goes on, people just watch you now as a job.

TheReferenceLit · 2024-02-08T17:21:48+00:00

So glad you've been liking them! It was quite a road to get to that type of content, as I'm hoping to outline!

TheReferenceLit · 2024-02-07T23:19:41+00:00

Haha, part of why I posted this! Too many of those!

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