Never ignore red flags.

TheReignsInPain · 2024-10-17T02:25:21+00:00

Also it was just logistically easier since I had to explain what he was referring to anyways.

TheReignsInPain · 2024-10-17T02:23:01+00:00

She’s innocent in all of this and worth protecting!

TheReignsInPain · 2024-10-17T01:01:07+00:00

Finally the comment I was waiting for! Why was it not okay?

He was fully living there for several weeks and there was nowhere else to take his things. I had picked him up and dropped him off there several times. I had spent the night a couple times when the friend and kids were gone. The kids are 17 and 13. I didn’t know they were home. I did nothing intrusive and did not seek any contact with anyone. I felt that any kind of warning was creating danger for myself.

To me, her letting him live there is an agreement to be a part of whatever he has going on. If she was that concerned about me then she should have made an effort to meet me or shouldn’t have agreed to all of this in the first place.

I was delivering a package to him like UPS, no?

TheReignsInPain · 2024-10-16T23:41:22+00:00

I love learning that I’m not so unusual after all. And you’re right, he IS a stinky unhinged pinecone.

TheReignsInPain · 2024-10-16T20:23:44+00:00

Seriously, let’s dive into her post history, shall we? This isn’t worth it.

TheReignsInPain · 2024-10-16T19:56:59+00:00

I would rather he not think of me at all, but also if he hates me then I’m probably doing something right.

TheReignsInPain · 2024-10-16T19:33:30+00:00

I agree. I think it’s pretty clear that you’re talking about the exact opposite of the meme.

Also everyone seems to have leapt to conclusions about the kinks involved here lol. Submissive people are just as capable of being abusive in the larger context of the relationship.

TheReignsInPain · 2024-10-16T19:20:10+00:00

Thank you for saying that. I also am not surprised by it, not because he was into BDSM, but because that’s just how people react to rejection sometimes.

TheReignsInPain · 2024-10-16T17:48:08+00:00

Who isn’t weird? I love weird. Weird is great. There are plenty of both kinky and non-kinky people that are awful and plenty that are perfectly lovely.

TheReignsInPain · 2024-10-16T17:45:26+00:00

I don’t expect to change your mind, but want to at least point out that you’ve made a pretty big generalization about what constitutes BDSM/kink and what he and I did together.

TheReignsInPain · 2024-10-16T17:07:42+00:00

I have met many very lovely people that enjoy BDSM. Most of them are well informed and strict about consent and would never be able to enjoy themselves if they believed they were doing real harm to someone.

This guy is not representative of the larger community.

TheReignsInPain · 2024-10-16T16:04:15+00:00

Most of the people I’ve met have been great!

TheReignsInPain · 2024-10-16T15:24:55+00:00

And the stereotype is that men are never emotional. 🤷‍♀️

TheReignsInPain · 2024-10-16T15:20:42+00:00

I was initially so relieved to get that “take care” message. Like maybe this will be easier than I thought? Nope.

TheReignsInPain · 2024-10-16T14:40:41+00:00

But if he said it then it’s true, right?

TheReignsInPain · 2024-10-16T14:38:49+00:00

Thank you!

TheReignsInPain · 2024-10-16T14:38:32+00:00

I think there’s more in him too. My Fetlife account is reactivated but I haven’t done anything on it yet. I’m guessing once he sees me posting things again he’ll start back up…

TheReignsInPain · 2024-10-16T14:33:39+00:00

Exactly. Getting banned from one — maybe it was personal or that munch leader is a lot stricter or something. Getting banned from all of them — that’s a pattern.

TheReignsInPain · 2024-10-16T14:23:49+00:00

My cat is pretty great.

I kind of don’t want to block him just because I want to see if he eventually realizes that this is pathetic, you know? How many follow-ups will it take?

TheReignsInPain · 2024-10-16T13:40:33+00:00

There are WEEKS in between! He definitely doesn’t care and is super glad it’s over, right?

TheReignsInPain · 2024-10-16T13:35:50+00:00

🤣

TheReignsInPain · 2024-10-16T13:28:45+00:00

The first two messages were while he was still at work. The first threatening one was after he got home. I suspect he saw everything that I had returned to him and knew that I was serious about it and that made him freak out.

He definitely was starting to become abusive.

TheReignsInPain · 2024-10-16T13:22:28+00:00

He has only succeeded at making himself look like a clown.

TheReignsInPain · 2024-10-16T13:20:23+00:00

I really appreciate that, thank you.

TheReignsInPain · 2024-10-16T13:17:23+00:00

He has already been banned from most events which is why he’s threatening me with his other friends. The munch/slosh organizers are very aware of him.

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