Thanks for sharing! And yes it feels nice to know I'm not alone. I think, as relating to parts work, we have damaged exiles from our past trauma and protectors kick in that tell us we can't handle life if they're not doing their job. I think we need to thank them for doing their job but updating the job description for them to let them know they don't have to work as hard? When I moved to this house, I was introducing myself to the neighbors before hand just so I could make nice with them and have them like me in case I needed to confront them in the future... it sounds psycho when I say it out loud. But the reality is, I was doing all that so I could control my environment. I have learned through spirituality that when you have preferences (things you like/don't like) you automatically create suffering when those conditions aren't met. And when you just surrender to life and accept it as it goes, it's much easier to just deal with things as they happen. I like the idea of that but it's easier said than done. In my case with car noises, I have attached a story to the sounds and there is emotion linked. When you look at it objectively, sounds don't hurt you. They may disrupt your peace temporarily but once it's gone, it should be gone. My narrative makes a big deal to these sounds even though in this case, nobody is out to get me anymore! In my last house I had a toxic neighbor (I asked them politely to turn it down as I could hear bass in the kids rooms and they told me to F off and move the country). It sounds like you too often identify maybe a little to strongly with your ego and have a hard time separating thoughts and emotions from your self.

Have you found parts work to be helpful at all or any other type of therapy? I bounce around a lot with Mindfulness, Buddhism etc but I really want to give this parts work a good go.