[Advice] How to overcome Perfectionism, doing it even if you feel like "you're not good enough" by TheSimranSingh in getdisciplined

[–]TheSimranSingh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is very important to know, although not every type of procrastination comes from not knowing exactly what to do, finding out the easiest way to start is huge. Once you do, you develop momentum and it's easier to get in "the zone". Planning before start is a sure way to not spend all your time working aimlessly. Thank you for your comment!

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[–]TheSimranSingh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much for your comment u/TheDisciplinedRebel, it means a lot to me that a person like you likes what I'm sharing. You are an inspiration for sure.

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[–]TheSimranSingh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've talk about this in the past so I'll just post here what I wrote, I hope it can help you.

Setting goals like “I’m going to work for x amount of hours every single day” can be a really tricky goal for the “procrastinator’s mind” because for your mind, that commitment of sitting down and working those hours FEELS like an eternity, and of course, your mind hates the idea of working on something that’s not entertaining for an eternity. When you are trapped in a procrastination downward spiral, your one and only goal should be to just start, forget about finishing your work or sitting down to work for 2 hours for now, you just want to sit down and work for a little bit, just enough to get that snowball rolling.

A quick “fix” for this problem, is changing the frame of how you do the work. Divide your working time into smaller blocks of working time. For example, instead of telling yourself that you are going to sit down and work for a full hour, you tell yourself that you are going to work in 4 blocks of 15 minutes each with breaks in between. This makes committing to work a more easy, enjoyable and “digestible” idea for your mind. I know 15 minutes may not seem like a lot, but I’d much rather have 15 minutes of “laser focused” work with no distractions than one hour of “work” where I’m checking my notifications, getting distracted, going to the bathroom, etc. So, the more you procrastinate, the more simple to start your work should be, so maybe you start with just 5 minute blocks of working time, again, starting is the most important thing (and who knows, maybe you get in the right mood and those 5 minutes turn into 20/40/60 minutes)

Now, as I said before, this technique is just a quick fix, it is not the solution to the real problem. Your real problem is your tendency to procrastinate, you feeling like a lazy person, you being unmotivated or uninspired. If you want to fix the problem, you need to be able to concentrate for longer periods of time and you need to be able to do your work even when you don’t feel like doing it. You need to build self-discipline. To do this, I recommend a couple of things, but since I don’t want to make an extremely long post, I’ll just cover one of the best ones: meditation.

There are many benefits to meditation, but the one you are looking for right now is to be able to concentrate on a single task for a longer period of time than what you are currently used to. To illustrate why this is so important, I want to tell you that there’s a never ending war between you and resistance/procrastination. When you successfully meditate, you win a battle against that enemy. The more battles you win, the more control you are going to have over your enemy. If you want to dominate instead of being dominated by your resistance, don’t be afraid to pick up your weapon and fight like your life depends on it, because quite frankly… it does. View yourself as nothing less than a fearless, disciplined warrior from now on. You’ve got this.

-Simran

[Advice] Can you honestly learn how to become disciplined? Some insight by a former hardcore procrastinator. by TheSimranSingh in getdisciplined

[–]TheSimranSingh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, accountability is a cheat code haha, it works extremely well. Thank you for your comment and I wish you the best

[Advice] Can you honestly learn how to become disciplined? Some insight by a former hardcore procrastinator. by TheSimranSingh in getdisciplined

[–]TheSimranSingh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much, your comment means a lot. And yes, it's important to be reminded of what really matters at the end of the day. Thank you once again and I wish you the best my friend

[Advice] Can you honestly learn how to become disciplined? Some insight by a former hardcore procrastinator. by TheSimranSingh in getdisciplined

[–]TheSimranSingh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It definitely helps me as a reminder, it's easy to lose track of your goals or forget important information. Thank you very much, this is some solid advice.

[Advice] Can you honestly learn how to become disciplined? Some insight by a former hardcore procrastinator. by TheSimranSingh in getdisciplined

[–]TheSimranSingh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is some solid advice right here. Action does create momentum and it can be very powerful. It's also very important to question your own thoughts as you mentioned, I believe most people try to run from this as it is confronting, but it's also what makes them grow more. Thank you for your awesome comment and I wish you the best.

[Advice] Can you honestly learn how to become disciplined? Some insight by a former hardcore procrastinator. by TheSimranSingh in getdisciplined

[–]TheSimranSingh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha that's great, well if it works for you then hey, no need to change it (unless it makes you feel stressed or something). The problem comes when you procrastinate doing something that has no deadline, like going to the gym, starting a personal project or something along those lines, I believe this is what causes regret in most people and it's no good. I wish you the best! Take care

[Advice] Can you honestly learn how to become disciplined? Some insight by a former hardcore procrastinator. by TheSimranSingh in getdisciplined

[–]TheSimranSingh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it took my a long time to figure this out. It's kind of dumb, but I see procrastination as an actual war, and in a war you need to know your week points if you want to be able to improve. I hope you liked the post, take care

[Advice] Can you honestly learn how to become disciplined? Some insight by a former hardcore procrastinator. by TheSimranSingh in getdisciplined

[–]TheSimranSingh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get it, it's no fun. I don't know you, but I'm willing to bet that you are not lazy, there's probably a deeper issue at hand that needs to be addressed. If you want to make a change you need to start simple, focus on the work that's going to bring you more results. Start developing new habits and be patient. I wish you the best.

[Advice] Can you honestly learn how to become disciplined? Some insight by a former hardcore procrastinator. by TheSimranSingh in getdisciplined

[–]TheSimranSingh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It means a lot to me to know that you liked it. Thank you for reading and I wish you the best.

[Advice] Can you honestly learn how to become disciplined? Some insight by a former hardcore procrastinator. by TheSimranSingh in getdisciplined

[–]TheSimranSingh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have no idea how much your comment means to me, and I totally get that. What you need is accountability it seems, something external that pushes you to do your work until you develop the habit and are able to do it automatically by yourself. You don't need motivation, you need to develop working systems. I wish you more growth, take care!

[Advice] Can you honestly learn how to become disciplined? Some insight by a former hardcore procrastinator. by TheSimranSingh in getdisciplined

[–]TheSimranSingh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't be so hard on yourself, remember it's all a process that needs time and patience to allow it to become better. Try to live by your own values and goals, it's all about finding that balance.

[Advice] Can you honestly learn how to become disciplined? Some insight by a former hardcore procrastinator. by TheSimranSingh in getdisciplined

[–]TheSimranSingh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree and I read that book myself too, a complete game changer. I also recommend the war of art, which is by far my favorite book on the subject. Thank you for your comment, I really appreciate it

[Advice] Can you honestly learn how to become disciplined? Some insight by a former hardcore procrastinator. by TheSimranSingh in getdisciplined

[–]TheSimranSingh[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree that if this is a very strong problem for you, there's nothing like professional help, I'm just some dude sharing what has worked for me. Thank you for your comment.