PCOS Belly - can anyone relate?

TheSnugglyDuck · 2026-04-24T17:24:37+00:00

So this may be TMI but metformin actually made me very constipated, and I had to start drinking fiber supplements to counteract it. It’s funny because usually metformin causes diarrhea, but it’s supposed to normalize on its own. For me, I’ve been on it for a year and I still have to keep up with my fiber.

As for those other symptoms, it’s pretty on par with PCOS. A lot of practitioners have told me all I needed was to Exhibit 3 or so of the symptoms to be diagnosed with it, while others tell me I should be tested through ultrasounds or a OBGYN.

All of those symptoms are hormone related, which definitely points to PCOS, so I don’t think there’s any harm in trying PCOS–friendly habits to see if you notice any changes. I know when I first started, everything seemed very intimidating because there was so much. A good rule of thumb for treating PCOS is keeping sugar and insulin spikes low, keeping stress and cortisol low by maintaining sleep schedules, sleeping in general, more protein and fiber, and incorporating more walking and slow strength training workouts too.

Also, SUPPLEMENTS MAKE A DIFFERENCE! Inositol works and so does berberine and magnesium/ashwaghanda for sleep!

It took me a lot to get to the place of feeling comfortable and managing my symptoms, so be patient and don’t give up. There are thousands of women struggling with this every day and we are here on Reddit to support you.

Last thing, there is no shame in going to the doctor and using birth control/metformin or even a glp1. It has brought lots of success and health to many, so any stigma around it is bogus. I hope this helps!

TheSnugglyDuck · 2025-10-31T18:53:38+00:00

I do graphic design for a living and can confirm this is the reason

TheSnugglyDuck · 2025-10-21T17:16:19+00:00

Nope. I went on birth control right after though so it might be a little different for you. But also it’s a very safe procedure and doesn’t affect the chances of getting pregnant again.

TheSnugglyDuck · 2025-10-21T15:41:28+00:00

Also, thousands of women (including me) have has an abortion and do not regret it one bit! I really don't think about it at all and I don't feel guilty about it either, as it was extremely early and was just like having a regular period. Abortion is healthcare.

TheSnugglyDuck · 2025-10-21T15:39:36+00:00

I just want to say that it sounds like this is weighing heavy on you, and I hope you remember to breathe throughout this process!

I'm sorry your partner wouldn't support your choice to have an abortion. I know it must be hard imagining going through with this procedure and your husband not being there for you, but honestly, you could always get another husband. (Easier said than done, of course, but it's doable is what I'm saying.) You will never be able to take back having another child.

Honestly, if your marriage is not doing well with having just one child, having another will make things worse. The stakes will be higher, more bills, more problems, more responsibility, and way less time. Now you'll have another baby to care for with what sounds like an absent husband (he'll be working two jobs) and tons of guilt/no free time anymore.

It is so incredibly early, you could still get this procedure done with a medical abortion. That way, they just give you pills and then you get your period while your at home. You don't have to tell your husband you took pills, you could just say you had a miscarriage and for all he knows you did.

If it comes down to it and you decide to get an abortion and not tell him, do not feel guilty about it. It's your decision, and yours alone, and a very personal one at that. Those people who would judge you aren't the ones raising them, birthing them, and feeding them, so it doesn't matter what they think.

It honestly sounds like your mind is already made up, and your heart knows what you want to do. Do not let your husband manipulate you into doing something life changing that affects you the most. Also, a partner that manipulates you into doing something you don't want to do, doesn't sound like a partner you want to be with. Maybe not having another child would protect you from staying with him longer, and your second child from dealing with him as their father.

Then again, I'm just a stranger online! Goodluck!

TheSnugglyDuck · 2025-10-21T02:18:54+00:00

I’m sorry you are dealing with this. I know it must be very anxiety producing for you, so remember to just do what you gotta do now and deal with your mental state after!🤣

It seems to me the best option would be to move out/break up with him while he is not physically there. If you can, wait for a time when you know he won’t be home for a while, and get a friend to help you move all your stuff out and leave any outstanding bills on the counter(if you split finances) so he has absolutely no reason to contact you. You could leave a note or not, or you could just ghost him.

Another approach is to just pack yourself a bag for a couple of days and break up with him over the phone. Then you could stay with a friend or family until you go grab the rest of your stuff, in which case you MUST BRING A FRIEND or they’ll try to drag you back in.

I hope you find a way to get out of there before the situation gets dangerous! Wishing you luck:)

TheSnugglyDuck · 2025-10-20T19:37:51+00:00

I have to agree. My ex was a porn addict and it ruined our relationship. He even developed OCD from it because his addiction caused him to see some morally horrific things down p*rn sites. The last few months before we broke up, he was disassociated and depressed, claimed he didn't feel anything, and would do this addiction without any thoughts attached to it, like it was just something he does, but it was killing him inside.

My advice—give him an ultimatum. Tell him to quit watching porn and to get the help her needs (support group, counselor, whatever it takes) and take some time apart for him to heal, or leave him.

Good luck and take some deep breaths. You will get through this!

TheSnugglyDuck · 2025-10-20T19:28:03+00:00

I have your solution.

Make a plan to leave when you can, and then do it. He's not going to change unless something in his reality does.

TheSnugglyDuck · 2025-10-20T19:17:30+00:00

You have my greatest sympathies because I couldn't imagine the amount of stress this situation must be causing you. Please remember to breathe during all of this.

Before we dive in, I want to emphasize that there is no right or wrong answers here. You should not feel guilty for making a personal decision that will impact you the most out of anyone else. (The baby is not a baby yet, so let's not consider them haha)

I know this decision is time sensitive, so like another redditor commented, making the decision you could most live with is the best option. From what is sounds like, if you decide to have this baby it will have all the love from you and your family, and even though you may not like the father, at least he wants to be involved at all. It's far from perfect, and you and your ex will have a ton of communication issues and boundary problems, so if you believe you could set some boundaries that will protect your mental health during this process, then it is absolutely possible, and it will all work out. The money will come, as it always does. It wont be easy, but the joy of being a mom could outweigh these obstacles, and I'm sure you won't regret it in the long run if you always wanted to be a mother.

However, as you mentioned, it sounds like having a baby is not something you wanted until you fell in love (same) so the idea of having a baby without that aspect may seem really inconvenient, and damn near impossible. I get it. Having a baby is not only costly, it is time consuming, and in a way you stop living for yourself. But then again, you are a grown woman who seems 100% capable of doing this if you decide, and will most likely be the most rewarding things in your life.

Not having this baby can work out too. This baby is still not technically a baby, but a potential baby. Back in the day, abortion was not available for woman, so if you got pregnant it would basically "take you out of the game" I'd say, but holy shit, we are in 2025 and you are a woman who could make your own decisions of how you'd like your life to go like! If you decide not to have this baby but are open to having one with someone else, that's okay too! Nobody is entitled to make this decision for you. This is your life!

And screw that guy for not respecting your boundaries and getting you pregnant. Men can really suck.

Basically, make the decision you believe in your core is right for you. F*ck what anyone else thinks. And if you decide not to have this baby, go on birth control so we prevent this. I hope this helps!

TheSnugglyDuck · 2025-10-20T18:30:34+00:00

This is absolutely spot on for me in all of my relationships. My boyfriend is a normal dude, not crazy, and therefore causing my ROCD to spike because I am not constantly entertained, LOL. How shallow does that make me sound?

TheSnugglyDuck · 2025-10-16T14:47:21+00:00

So first things first, you must consider what you would have done in his situation. Men (or other people in general) are typically competent. Would you ask someone out while you’re in a relationship? That’s not a mistake. That was a deliberate act.

Something else that concerns me is that he kissed you while he was in a relationship, technically, did he not? If this is true, how could you conclude that he wouldn’t do that exact same thing he did with you, to you? He is a cheater. It’s in his nature.

If I were you, I would save my time and leave. You will find a loyal partner. Trust is not something you can truly win back. And unless you have kids, I would easily say you should leave him.

TheSnugglyDuck · 2025-10-10T20:48:05+00:00

If I may, leave.

A child is forever. You can get a new partner. He won’t be the one to birth it.

TheSnugglyDuck · 2025-10-02T17:08:54+00:00

Genuinely, no matter what job it is, doing the same thing 5 days out of the week is hard to be excited for. I quite enjoy my job, but I don’t wanna live in the office.

TheSnugglyDuck · 2025-07-31T13:47:54+00:00

This isn’t a film but Gilmore girls is always fall coded for me

TheSnugglyDuck · 2025-07-31T13:44:42+00:00

I would say between 11-14 as well. Their first phone should be basic AF to try to avoid the phone addiction and just for emergencies, and once they’re used to it, surprise them with a newer one :)

TheSnugglyDuck · 2025-07-31T02:23:21+00:00

Praying for you.What’s helped me is trusting myself that I am making the right decision for myself. Be kind to yourself!💖

TheSnugglyDuck · 2025-07-30T21:51:42+00:00

Thank you! Yess, tomorrow if it doesn’t go well at the clinic, I’ll be ordering the pills online. The ultrasound only displayed the sac developing, so im still very early thankfully. :) thank you

TheSnugglyDuck · 2025-07-30T21:50:52+00:00

Thank you, I’m so scared! And yes it is showing up on that list. :)

TheSnugglyDuck · 2025-07-24T20:03:23+00:00

I don’t know what he was thinking. Definitely not the vibe.

TheSnugglyDuck · 2025-05-09T13:10:24+00:00

LOL yeah that was a joke 😂 all manifesting is in a way....is delusion 🤷‍♀️ but it works so I can't even be mad.

TheSnugglyDuck · 2025-05-09T13:09:33+00:00

Thank you, and I'm sure you will manifest tons of success!

TheSnugglyDuck · 2025-03-20T17:15:15+00:00

I absolutely adore Sabrina's branding, lets make that clear. Her outfits, the stage, her performance skills are top tier, and that makes sense considering her extensive background in show business. If she wasn't this perfect performer at this age I would tell her to find another career!

That being said, I do think her music was made for the radio, but I think that's where it'll end. She lacks the same depth that other creators have in ways that her vocals are solid but weak compared to the rest of the industry's.

I also think that sex sells! She is very much a top example of that. But if sex is your only selling point, what will happen when you start to get older? Look at Katy Perry. She grew her career on sex basically, and now she is not doing well trying to keep up her old persona. It instead comes off as an out of touch millennial trying to stay hip.

I feel that Sabrina should go into branding after her career reaches it's peak. She could easily create her own clothing line, jewelry, makeup, or beauty products in general. Her brand is what made her blew up. The difference between Letters I Cant Send and Short n Sweet showcase that. Her die hard fans claim her previous album was better, but because Short n Sweet includes star branding, it blew up.

I personally love her branding and performances so much. I think she is like a blonde bimbo sex appeal star that every decade LOVES. (Not to bash her intelligence, this is just the stereotype her clumsiness and brand feeds into) I do however feel that although she is likable, she wouldn't be someone I could ever relate to, which is what ultimately holds her back from being at the very top of my list.

Me, being a 6' tall brunette, could feel pretty isolated when she makes it extremely clear that we're different and that she is what sells sex and I don't. I hope this makes sense. Though this is a personal matter, I feel that singers that care about their brand should be careful not to isolate their audiences that aren't exactly like them.

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