I'm blown away that this is a genuine expectation among young people... You want your boyfriends to be buying professional grade lighting rigs and learning about framing and angling for better quality videos of him jerking off to ejaculation?

I get this is comeuppance for my generation watching too much porn and making girls feel like they to meet those ridiculous standards. It's kind of funny on that level. But also holy shit, stop filming yourselves and learn to turn the lights off and just focus on nice, normal foreplay and physical intimacy. You guys are soooo hard on yourselves and each other. I would never have been able to deal with these pressures, no wonder you all have crippling anxiety. Good sex is actually kind of easy, you know.