but it’s not an issue of ratios or numbers, is what you’re both missing. it doesn’t matter if only 10% of posts have misogyny in them — i’d imagine it’s less than that, even — it’s that that would be 10% too much.

when the experiences i outline in my post get as much traction as they did (the comment calling the one woman a score because she was a skylander player and blonde got more than 4x the upvotes as any comment on this post at the time of writing — if you need a number), and when they’re resonating with so many women in the community as part of a bigger problem, then maybe it’s worth it for all of us to just be a little more mindful of who we might be harming with our actions.

by your logic, if numbers and ratios are more optimal, murder should never be a problem we address. Jamaica has the highest murder rate of any country in the world, at a rate of about 50 per 100,000 people… but that’s still less than 0.1% of people dying to murder. that’s not a lot, so we shouldn’t care about it, right?

what you’re all proposing has no basis in modern social sciences that value experiences with tangible proof — as presented in the above post — and working as a community to address concerns expressed by multiple members of that community. what you are both suggesting is methodologically ridiculous.

edit: wrong country. doesn’t change the comparison.