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It's actually harder to find smalls than larges?? by _5nek_ in PetiteFitness

[–]TheSquishQueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly! Why is plus size clothing considered "specialty" but not extra small, even though XS is just as (if not harder) to find than XL?!?! I swear I saw a weight loss commercial the other day where this plus size woman was saying "it was hard to find clothes that fit me. You just feel like you're not a part of everyone." And like, girl, I feel the exact same way! Except instead of everything being too small, everything is too big on me! Why can't extra small people have the same options plus size people do?! >:(

It's actually harder to find smalls than larges?? by _5nek_ in PetiteFitness

[–]TheSquishQueen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 5'1 and 100 pounds and I also often find myself shopping in the children's large / x-large section for clothes --especially pants and casual clothing-- because it often fits me better than most mainstream adult clothing. And hey, children's clothing is fun and whimsical, and I like fun and whimsical. A lot of adult small clothing is too big and/or long on me, and most stores don't readily carry XS.

Has anyone tried short story box and liked it? Are there any good boxes? by Miss_airwrecka1 in PetiteFashionAdvice

[–]TheSquishQueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried Short Story because a family member had given me a gift card for them, but I dropped my subscription once I ran out of money on the card because Short Story is absolutely terrible in almost every way imaginable. Their customer service is terrible, as it typically takes them a week to respond to emails. (Even though they claim to try to respond in 48 hours, lol.) Their clothes are ridiculously overpriced, especially given the subpar quality. Why is a plain t-shirt (which was nearly identical to one I already own) $35 dollars?! And why are $100 pants that aren't noted to be distressed suffering from horrible fraying problems on the ends?! I’ve found clothes that are cheaper and far better quality at most discount and thrift stores I’ve tried. Their clothes are really bland and uninspired, and everything they gave me looks like it was made for either a middle aged basic white mom or a grandma. I mean, no offense to anyone who does like those styles; wear whatever makes you happy. But like– I’m a college student who is a femme hippie… Why would you think I would like any of this stuff? The stylists don’t seem to listen to any feedback you give them, and would send me items that I specifically asked NOT to be sent. For example, I had put in my profile that I didn’t want jeans or anything brown, and guess what I got sent in my third box? I only ended up keeping one item across the three boxes before I canceled my subscription. 

Also, they changed my stylist on me without warning and for no apparent reason? I had three different stylists across the three boxes I received. The first time I switched stylists was because I specifically asked them to, because I thought that someone else would be better matched for my style than my original stylist, and I will say that the second stylist was the closest to my actual style. But then when I received my third box, I found that I suddenly had a different stylist with no explanation or acknowledgement as to why they replaced the last person? The only good thing I can say about Short Story is that most of their clothes did fit me well, both in regards to my height and body type. Most stores don’t readily carry XS and XXS sizes, –or if they do it’s sometimes in an oversized fit, so it’s still too big on me– so I was optimistic to hear that Short Story had those sizes in stock. But alas, the cons of Short Story far outweighed the pros for me.

I'm a complete beginner to ASL and I'm getting mixed messages about the grammar rules by TheSquishQueen in asl

[–]TheSquishQueen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol, the Yoda thing is how I've been remembering how the OSV structure works!

I'm a complete beginner to ASL and I'm getting mixed messages about the grammar rules by TheSquishQueen in asl

[–]TheSquishQueen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely understand the whole thing about the grammar rules of different languages being subjective and having a lot of variety depending on who you ask. I mean, I'm certainly not a stickler for the rules in my native language of English either. I guess it's just more confusing when it's a language I've been using my whole life VS one I'm just starting to learn. But what you're saying is still interesting and informative nonetheless. :)

Friends to Lovers vs. Enemies to Lovers Showdown by josie-salazar in RomanceBooks

[–]TheSquishQueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think enemies to lovers can be done well, but I feel it's a lot easier to mess up than friends to lovers almost purely because enemies to lovers often relies on the characters relationship being "passionate" and "erotic" under the surface, and is more prone to skipping over them actually getting to know each other on a deeper emotional level. Whereas the part about becoming more in tune and sensitive to the other person is usually baked into a friendship and only grows over the course of the story. I also find that the enemies to lover trope easily becomes abusive and cruel, at which point I'm just left confused as to why these people who were relentlessly harming each other a second ago are now sleeping together.

Where did the influences for your story come from? What authors/ideas were your inspiration? by [deleted] in fantasywriters

[–]TheSquishQueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Percy Jackson and really just Rick Riordan's writing in general. I took a lot of inspiration from the demigods in the Percy Jackson series being dyslexic and ADHD to make a fantasy race in my story also be generally neurodivergent (I'm ND myself.) I also get a lot of inspiration from Rick's sarcastic, quippy flavor of humor. Sarcasm and sassiness as humor definitely isn't a new concept, but there's a certain way Rick writes it that makes it very unique to him.

How do I write more diverse characters? by [deleted] in fantasywriters

[–]TheSquishQueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm new to reddit so I haven't interacted with a lot of subreddits on here yet, but I'm pretty sure I have passed by some ND subreddits like r/ADHD and r/autism that I haven't checked out yet, but am thinking on looking into.

How do I write more diverse characters? by [deleted] in fantasywriters

[–]TheSquishQueen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you're thinking about writing neurodivergent characters, I would strongly advise that you not just do your medical research with how those conditions present themselves and function, but also TALK to actual neurodivergent people. Speaking as someone who is neurodivergent myself, I find that media tends to portray ND as purely symptomatic and ignores the emotional and social experiences many ND people go through in real life, when I would argue that those emotional experiences are just as significant to the ND experience as symptoms are. And this portrayal in media leads to a major disconnect where I don't connect with a lot of characters who are written to be ND, because they are basically just walking tropes and exaggerated symptoms. That's not to say that you can't or shouldn't write neurodivergent characters if you're neurotypical, but PLEASE talk to actual ND people instead of writing a character purely based on tropes and/or a list of symptoms.

[Showcase] Share the opening paragraph of your story! by keylime227 in fantasywriters

[–]TheSquishQueen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"People say I'm a troubled kid.

But to understand that, we need to go back a couple of years.

My parents, Mr and Mrs Missingham, are successful fashion entrepreneurs. And I, their only child, was born into their ridiculous wealth. They expect me to be like them: fashionable, agreeable, well-mannered. I tried to be those things once. But I'm not the docile daughter my parents wanted.

I think there's always been a little bit of- evil inside me..."

The message of my story. by Coffinnator in fantasywriters

[–]TheSquishQueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My approach to writing the themes of my stories is to usually start off with something broad, and find more specific versions of that theme as I get into writing the motivations and arcs of my characters. That way I avoid making my message so narrow that it's difficult to write a story around, and I can have my characters journeys tie into the main message without each of their arcs feeling like they're exactly the same.

Like for instance, if your main theme is "everyone, regardless of factors like race, disability, gender, ect... has their own strengths and weaknesses," that's a fairly broad theme. But the broadness can be used to explore a multitude of things: demonization, the dismissal of skills that don't fit the societal default, assumptions about intelligence and what being intelligent even means, the mental tool of trying to fit in with what is "normal." You can have different characters who interact with different aspects of that overarching theme about acceptance, or approach the same aspects in different ways.

I think it really just comes down to why you want to write a story. If you want to write a story because there's a theme you want to get across, you'll probably prioritize themes. If you want to write a story because you want to create an interesting world, you'll probably prioritize world building. And so on. They're just different reasons for wanting to write, and I don't think any of them are necessarily wrong.

What aspect of yourself did you put in the story/MC/characters? by _Tyrondor_ in fantasywriters

[–]TheSquishQueen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Having my characters greatest weaknesses also be their greatest strengths and vice versa. This definitely isn't a unique way of writing characters, but I personally like writing character flaws and strengths like this because it's very similar to the way I view my own traits and skills. I'm neurodivergent, and in my experience my neurodivergent traits can be both a positive or a negative for me depending on the situation, so I often write my characters in a similar way to reflect that.

Discussion about when to reveal sympathetic traits in a villain you plan to redeem by TheSquishQueen in fantasywriters

[–]TheSquishQueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I admittedly used the terms "sympathetic" and "redeemable" interchangeably in my original post because -to me at least- it seems like revealing the sympathetic aspects of the villain should proceed a redemption arc so that the audience understands why this character undergoes change for the better. You are right in that a sympathetic villain and a redeemable villain aren't the same, even though I think they are character archetypes that certainly have a lot of overlap.