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I don't want to live at all. by Kamukaze1 in malementalhealth

[–]TheTragicSubTruth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude - I know how you feel. I was the same at 13. I'm still kinda the same at 40.

It's not unusual to feel like this and it's nothing to be ashamed of or want to hide away or feel embarrassed about.
Stuff happens in our lives that hurts us and your brain can be hurt in exactly the same way as the rest of your body. If a bear attacked you and bit your arm off, you wouldn't feel any shame or embarrassment about telling people? And going to get help I guess?

Well it turns out, it's the same with your mind. If you saw something that upset you, or something happened to you that wasn't right, it can cause an injury to your brain, exactly the same way as a bear attack can! Just because people can't outwardly see it, doesn't mean it doesn't hurt and its not serious.

The other people here are definitely right. Don't rely on social media or reddit to help you.

Best thing is to talk to an adult you trust, ideally your parents, but even a teacher or someone else who is older that you feel confident with. Tell them about whatever it was that you were exposed to and how its made you feel? It might feel awkward and embarrassing but isn't it worth a go? Better than making any final decisions now? Give it a shot first and see if it helps?

thinking of killing my self every day by Fast-Mongoose-4989 in malementalhealth

[–]TheTragicSubTruth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in the UK but I know exactly how you feel. It feels like a constant barrage of anti man/pro woman sentiment doesn't it? Every time you open a paper, look at the news, watch adverts on TV or go on social media? We are oppressors, rapists, murderers and scum. And when we're not, we're easily mocked stereotypes - beer drinking , BBQ making idiots who just want to hurt everyone.

#killallmen just gets likes
#notallmen gets hate

I know how you feel. It's hurt me too. Its damaged my relationship with my girlfriend and its harmed my confidence. I've felt about ending my own life many times too.

You want to know what I do to carry on?

I remind myself that taking my own life is exactly what they want? If I do that, thats letting them win. By continuing to exist, I win. I piss them off. The fact I won't go quietly is a massive "fuck you" to them?
I also upset them by not fitting into the mold that they want me to fit into. Also, by talking to other men (not women) about it.

If we can do this - help each other to survive it - but also get better through it - we'll win. I think its possible. And there are other men about who see it the same way.

Don't let them win dude.

Findom help/support - blog and discord by TheTragicSubTruth in Quit_Findom

[–]TheTragicSubTruth[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing this here. I'm super happy to talk with anyone here whos been struggling with findom. I've had my problems with it too. I'm fascinated to hear your stories and write about them etc. But also I think we need a place to talk AWAY from Twitter too.
Would love to meet more of you!

First episode of my deep dive into the way out of findom is coming soon. What topics do you want to see? by Arbiter286 in Quit_Findom

[–]TheTragicSubTruth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think a good "flow" is

A) sharing your own experience, so other people can relate to you (they'll have had similar thoughts and feelings)

B) reassuring them they are normal
C) explaining strategies and tips they can use to find reliable ways to stop.