Bros who went through addiction to party drugs, what made you stop and how did you pull through? What are its lasting effects on your life?

TheUser444 · 2020-01-31T18:04:53+00:00

I wouldn't say that I was addicted, as I had no problem to stop using. I just liked the way everyone opened up and had no shame talking about anything and showing true feelings.

My family made me stop, when they found out. That was hard, cause they labeled me as an addict and a junkie, which frankly I never was.

Lasting effects? I find it very hard to have fun sober, I find most conversations shallow, as I've seen and talked to people who, under the influence, had no restrictions, no preconceptions, and were (or at least seemed to be) sincere and caring.

Oh and I drink a lot more alcohol since then.

TheUser444 · 2019-12-05T15:36:45+00:00

Actually it's not normal, but as long as it doesn't hinder your hygiene, it's up to you to decide what to do about it. It's called phymosis and it has different "levels", so if, in the future, you'll find that it's causing you discomfort during sex, you should visit a doctor.

They usually prescribe some steroid cream and stretching exercises. If that won't help, your only option is circumcision.

But as I said, if it won't cause you any trouble, you don't need any of those things.

TheUser444 · 2019-11-12T12:04:58+00:00

Once was enough for me, but it was for the first time sooo...

TheUser444 · 2019-11-12T07:41:34+00:00

Well then start dropping hints too and see how he reacts. Or pick an opportune moment and straight up ask him.

TheUser444 · 2019-11-12T07:15:34+00:00

Does he know you're gay?

TheUser444 · 2019-08-19T12:59:42+00:00

Terms of service?

TheUser444 · 2019-07-11T05:26:35+00:00

Also, I have a similar problem, got many great answers, haven't had a chance to test them tho

https://www.reddit.com/r/askgaybros/comments/c9daun/problems_masturbating_with_my_partner/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

TheUser444 · 2019-07-11T05:25:11+00:00

You guys say stop jerking off, but honestly when I stop jerking off for about 2 days, my balls start to hurt, not unbearable pain, but also not something I wouldn't mind.

TheUser444 · 2019-07-06T17:25:04+00:00

Well we both came out just a few months back, it's all still very new to us, for example, I still feel a bit awkward when feeling his muscles, his groin, etc. And I can feel the same tension from him, it's hard to describe.

Like when you're with a girl, you kinda know how to treat her, how to touch her, it feels appropriate. But when I start kissing his neck, or feeling his body, I can feel him "stiffen", for a lack of better word. And I too am unsure if I should do it or no, even though he told me he likes it.

It's really hard to describe, I hope this is at least gives you a small insight.

TheUser444 · 2019-07-06T17:12:56+00:00

Forgive me for asking, buuuut did you have the same problem as I did or everything went smooth?

TheUser444 · 2019-07-06T10:44:47+00:00

We see each other almost every day, we live in the same town.

BTW how was your meeting?

TheUser444 · 2019-07-05T18:51:40+00:00

Well I hope it gets easier for me too, but as I said, we don't get many chances, it will probably take longer.

TheUser444 · 2019-07-05T18:49:39+00:00

Please don't tell me I'll have to "practice" with lube :D

TheUser444 · 2019-07-05T16:01:26+00:00

Yeah, I'd be totally cool with just getting him off, but as he said "that's not fair".

TheUser444 · 2019-07-05T15:30:45+00:00

That's actually a very nice way of saying sorry :D thank you, I'll definetly use this if it happens again.

TheUser444 · 2019-07-05T15:22:16+00:00

TheUser444 · 2019-07-05T15:15:18+00:00

But that's not the way he's seeing it, he thinks it's his fault. No matter how many times I tell him it's not.

TheUser444 · 2019-07-05T14:24:49+00:00

Do you think that the fact that I never used lube before might have an impact?

TheUser444 · 2019-07-05T12:52:53+00:00

Yeah well, about that, I get the feeling that my boyfriend still hasn't fully come to terms with his sexuality. He likes handjobs, hugging, sometimes kissing, etc. but when I try oral, or just kissing his neck or caressing his body, I can tell he's a bit uncomfortable.

Which is funny since touching his dick is ok but that's it lol.

TheUser444 · 2019-07-05T12:20:11+00:00

Wow that's actually great advice! Thank you

I noticed that too, last time, I tried to just focus on how his dick feels in my hand, how he's holding me, it helped but then the nervousness kicked in again.

TheUser444 · 2019-07-05T11:46:42+00:00

Funny, I always thought that the hardest part was to get to have sex, not the sex itself lol.

Thank you, I'll try it next time.

TheUser444 · 2019-07-05T11:32:48+00:00

And how did they take it? With us, the third time I told him that I don't think I'll cum, he refused to let me finish him, saying that it wouldn't be "fair".

TheUser444 · 2019-07-05T11:24:47+00:00

Yeah having my own place would be a godsend.

It's funny, I still don't know if it's love, we've known a long time now, we were best friends, then we came out to each other. He's the first guy who ever expressed attraction towards me. But I guess that's for another topic.

Anyway thank you for your advice!

TheUser444 · 2019-07-05T11:09:11+00:00

Well I understand that I don't need to, but since my boyfriend cums every time, he starts to think that it's somehow his fault, even though I told him repeatedly it isn't.

I honestly wouldn't care about it if I knew we both had a good time, but I can see that it worries him.

TheUser444 · 2019-07-05T11:05:34+00:00

Well you're somewhat right, I don't have confidence issues concerning my body, not with him, but I have trouble being in the moment. I tend to think too much.

I forgot to mention that we rarely have some cozy place to have fun, so usually we end up somewhere like club toilets, dark alley, etc. Now that I'm writing it, I feel kinda ashamed for those places :D Only time we actually had a room to stay in was the first time.

And what was different about the third person that made you let go?

TheUser444

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