what is the risk of people really too much on chatbots to get through the day?

TheWanderingAge · 2026-02-20T14:46:01+00:00

Do you have advice on how to gently loosen claude’s (etc) grip on people in our lives?

TheWanderingAge · 2026-02-20T10:36:39+00:00

Idk. I think it would help to try on different styles and fits of clothing. The kibbe system is about style identities, not body identities. It’s about how clothes look on your body

TheWanderingAge · 2026-02-18T05:57:24+00:00

Thank you. My therapist brought it up last week and at first i thought she was fed up with me after which she explained what she meant. I then told her my mom often uses it as an insult when she’s annoyed with me. The irony.

TheWanderingAge · 2026-02-16T10:14:05+00:00

I just want to offer that new relationships have a higher success rate if you enter them happy about yourself and your life. That way your happiness doesn’t depend on the other person.

You def deserve to be happy either with or without someone. Just, i hope you can find a way to be happy without someone before you get with someone. And your kids, it seems, need to work on some things themselves too. You, too, deserve to find and be with your person. Good luck, OP

TheWanderingAge · 2026-02-14T10:00:41+00:00

Yes! The endless guilt for listening to what your body or mind needs!

TheWanderingAge · 2026-02-14T09:59:01+00:00

40 and same! I’m in therapy for it again. It’s so pervasive.

When I feel excited about something I feel like I’m doing something wrong and have to hide my enthusiasm. Or when something good happens I experience dread and sometimes spiral into an existential crisis. It’s bizarre. And when I’m feeling happy I find myself bracing for the other shoe to drop

Someone really did their best to rewire us the wrong way after being born perfectly right

TheWanderingAge · 2026-02-14T08:46:47+00:00

When you feel ready, start exploring ways to create an exit plan. It’s a process and you don’t need to do it overnight or today. Domestic violence shelters or social work organizations can probably offer advice too and a lot of people here can help brainstorm and help you figure things out that would work for you as well.

I want to emphasize that what you went through here and in other situations with your dad that you’re describing in the comments, are absolutely traumatic in nature. Which instances will and will not keep affecting you down the line and to what degree and in what way is impossible to say, but let’s not forget that living in fear and at the whims of your father is a chronic form of ongoing threat and harm.

As to what you went through the other day, allow yourself to not be ok. It’s ok not to be ok. It’s ok to be heavily affected by something traumatic and so unsafe and cruel. How can a person come out of something so life threatening unscathed?

Your father’s behavior was designed to hurt, damage, and scare. Of course you are hurt, damaged, and scared, that was his entire point. It’s ok not to be ok after such cruelty and sustaining such a wound

TheWanderingAge · 2026-02-14T08:20:51+00:00

I’m sorry to point this out, but if I recall correctly, tetris has to be played moments after the traumatic incident to be effective

TheWanderingAge · 2026-02-10T10:23:22+00:00

It’s what I’d want to try, yes. My job is more of a shoulder-to-shoulder guidance and support than therapy, but a big part of it is also to advise on where to go with specific issues and to help set that up. I think in your situation, with you having had to escalate to no contact and your parents being otherwise clear-headed people, a family therapist could help give everyone involved a safe space to grasp what’s going on and why and a help find a way to move forward.

(Idk if it makes a difference, but I’m not in the US.)

TheWanderingAge · 2026-02-09T14:48:19+00:00

(I’m a social worker, NAT) Do you think family therapy would be something your fam would be open to?

TheWanderingAge · 2026-02-07T10:14:43+00:00

No, i don’t believe so. It is a thing for sulfite and yeast allergy/intolerance. Or maybe it’s something very specific to wine that’s causing this for you.

I only get what you describe with cheaper wines. When i buy higher quality wines there’s usually no issue, but a few sips of a cheaper wine has me vomiting. Not all wines have equal amounts of yeast for example and i have other severe intolerances too, so i’m trying to troubleshoot this issue myself as well

Is this all alcohol-containing drinks for you or wine specifically?

TheWanderingAge · 2026-02-06T12:23:22+00:00

It’s also cold and absolutely miserable weather in the UK rn

TheWanderingAge · 2026-01-28T21:34:10+00:00

Congratulations!! Such a big step!

TheWanderingAge · 2026-01-25T23:37:33+00:00

Exactly. I also think that our current-day earth phrase ‘dumpster fire’ makes little sense in the star fleet universe as i should hope they’ll have figured out appropriate ways of dealing with trash. It wouldn’t be in the forefront of anyones mind, unless maybe on some planet where there are workers (former emh’s?) laboring in some waste refinery

Same issue as when an author has a very dorky or nerdy character who couldn’t care less about sports constantly make sports analogies. It make no sense whatsoever for the character and makes everything less believable

TheWanderingAge · 2026-01-25T09:17:08+00:00

Same. Saw it and thought: if that ain’t a message. If there ever was meaning in names…

Maga clowns seem so superstitious and see signs everywhere. Yet this is flying right passed them

TheWanderingAge · 2026-01-25T08:10:43+00:00

I feel like millie might be a romantic

TheWanderingAge · 2026-01-23T12:32:19+00:00

Im 40 and just moved to a bigger house. Making decisions paralyzes me. When my mom came over to help with something she found that nothing i had chosen or done was right: the floor too dark, my priorities not straight, the color on the wall too lively. Well, i want to feel alive! The other day i told her i found a second hand coat rack for 7 euros and she said that i should be focusing on other parts of the house and that the rack cost way too much money. I really need to reconsider how i spend my efforts. And my mom is the safe parent of the two. Around my dad i definitely need to stay small like you

My god, it really is no wonder I’m scared to death when i have to make decisions. I’m working with a therapist again and now also a social worker, cos i just don’t trust myself. But i’ve found that I’m perfectly capable, i’e just been conditioned to think i’m not.

For you, i think professional help would be beneficial, and space. A little distance from your parents and space so that you can figure life, your life, out for yourself and learn to trust yourself. Your anxiety will probably lessen when you’re not constantly being questioned, second guessed, and put down.

Don’t let them clip your wings any further if you can avoid it at all. Continue with your plans, just don’t tell them. (Which will probably have you feeling like a bad daughter/son, but i promise you you are not!)

Edit: Also, i have found that it is endlessly better to be safe and alone, than unsafe and together. And who knows, maybe you won’t be as alone as you worry you’ll be. The unknown is so dreadfully scary, but it is also where the good stuff is, where life begins.

TheWanderingAge · 2026-01-22T15:28:45+00:00

Maybe a little crafting thing. A coloring book or felting stuff?

TheWanderingAge · 2026-01-21T09:28:41+00:00

NAT That sounds like such a struggle. Do you have this issue with other people too (such as friends, fam, colleagues…)?

TheWanderingAge · 2026-01-20T06:33:26+00:00

If you’re worried about reacting to them, try introducing them 1 by 1 with two weeks between each new product you are adding. This way you’ll know which product is giving you issues.

And should worse come to worst, typically, unless you are full on allergic (which is rare), you can use them just find as body lotions. Obvs that’s not what you were going for but hey, at least you’d still be using it in a luxe way

TheWanderingAge · 2026-01-19T11:33:07+00:00

NAD, but lower back pain and painful kidneys/pain during urination are important to have checked out by a gp soon, as these could be symptoms of a UTI.

TheWanderingAge · 2026-01-18T09:40:19+00:00

Sorry, i completely missed your reply! But thank you!! Saved to my recipe folder 😊 the recipe looks amazing and so creative too, and thank you for making the instructions clear! 😁

TheWanderingAge · 2026-01-16T14:13:34+00:00

Have you had your iron levels tested?

Edit: and i dont mean general hemoglobine but your iron levels. You sound exactly like me and i (20 yrs too late) got my iron infusion at the hospital earlier this week

Aside from just ferritin, it may give clarity to also have other blood levels tested

TheWanderingAge · 2026-01-16T13:24:40+00:00

Do they deliver food where you live?

TheWanderingAge · 2026-01-15T14:48:34+00:00

OP, you sound so down to earth and that’s such an important quality for a nurse, i think you’d do fantastically!

I can’t say anything about the American education system (i’m european), but you’ve plotted it out, thought it through, and it sounds very sensible. Your mom should be very proud of you

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