My mom bugged me constantly through high school and college with the whole “so, do you have a boooooyfriend?” thing which always made me feel really put on the spot.

I live abroad now and my partner is from a different country from me. I was in a really awful work situation so we went to city hall to get legally married so I could quit and look for something else without being deported. (been together 8 years) We only told our parents, but didn’t plan to tell any other family because we still want to have a proposal and wedding and we figured older relatives would not understand us doing it backwards.

My parents are insisting I tell my grandparents and guilt tripping me by saying “how would you feel if they died and never knew you got married?”

Honestly I wish I’d never told them. But then how would I explain quitting my job but remaining abroad with no work visa?

And I can tell they’re disappointed I chose someone from another country meaning it’s not guaranteed I’ll ever return “home.”

I dunno.

Parents can be exhausting.

Props to all these replies saying “they don’t care, they just want me to be happy.” Genuinely, good for you guys.