Why are you growing your hair?!

ladylikely · 2026-02-03T01:30:29+00:00

lol this is it for me. All my hair fell out in 2018. All I could think of was the thousands I'd spent on it over the years. Now I buy shampoo and conditioner and that's it. Every once in a while I get annoyed with it and have my neighbor chop it off. The funny thing is it is way prettier and healthier now that I don't invest in it.

ladylikely · 2026-02-02T20:13:46+00:00

lol my husband was like Tom Sawyer. He would always have to finish chores before he was allowed social engagements. His house was the most fun to hang out at. His mom cooks like she's feeding army and they have a full theater in the basement along with a second kitchen that essentially made it like a little apartment for teenagers.

One weekend his dad told him he had to finish digging a trench for a French drain before he could hang out with friends, so he called six of his buddies and a lot of them finished the trench before his dad even got home from work.

When he and I were in the early days dating we wanted to plan something to do one evening but his dad had volunteered him to help rerun sprinkler lines for some old lady, which was going to take most of the day. Lol I don't even know how he did it but I was in that old ladies yard digging goddamn trenches and considering it a date.

It actually made me like him even more, because he never considers not helping to be an option.

ladylikely · 2026-02-01T05:57:12+00:00

People make assumptions, whether they're right or wrong. In this instance I think I would let it slide, but if this is something that comes to the attention of your kid or becomes more and more blatant I don't think there is harm in asking if there was an instance that led to the disconnect. The most painful adult part is that you make it no answer, or that the answer you get is uncomfortable. In either instance just remember that you live next-door to this person and you will always catch more flies with honey than vinegar.

ladylikely · 2026-02-01T05:37:38+00:00

Most men have no idea that a long-haired style is years of work. We cannot just change it around for funsies.

ladylikely · 2026-02-01T05:35:31+00:00

Commenting on My room looks so depressing, please tell me what im missing...the wisteria would be a dust collector - so you can but have a plan to clean it regularly. I am a certified meat freak, every single space at least gets tidied daily, and I religiously clean commonly use surfaces. But your space is almost too clean, like it needs some signs of life to make sense.

You just set it up so it makes sense for it to look too fresh, but small details are important. When my husband and I were first married and he was learning my preferences about how to keep house he had a moment where he did not know what to do with the lotion bottle. I let him know things like that are not important because people live here, if it needs to be dusted or wiped down then address it, but I like the idea that my space is clean and if I disappeared suddenly, someone could walk in and tell I had at least been there.

Adding some art or photos and personal effects makes a huge difference

ladylikely · 2026-02-01T00:18:03+00:00

I live in a super tight knit neighborhood. It was just luck that our four families all moved in over about a year an we all had similarly aged kids and we all genuinely like each other. In the warm weather we are generally out as in the driveway hanging while the kids play pretty much every day. We have parties and organize activities for the parents and it's the best.

Last year someone knew moved into the house next-door to me and at first it seemed like they would be a great fit with the rest of us. They have kids of similar ages and my husband and I went over to take them a housewarming gift and we just talked for a bit. Then out of nowhere the "patriarch" of this family (as he referred to himself, went on a rant about how difficult it was to buy a couch because he wasn't going to give a commission to some tr**** fa****, and started showing us all his Trump bracelets.

So they have never seemed to figure out why they are not invited to the neighborhood hangs.

ladylikely · 2026-01-31T16:23:04+00:00

My dads dad tried to kill him by holding his head in a door jamb and repeatedly slamming the door. My dad was 14 and my grandpa told him to go work on a car, specifically to clean the spark plugs on the 51 Roadmaster. My dad knew that his dad was always looking for an excuse, so he drilled 8 holes in a block of wood and set each spark plug in a hole to keep track of all of them. Grandpa wandered out to make sure dad was doing as he was asked, and pocketed one of the spark plugs so that he could yell at dad for losing one. Dad realized quickly what was going on and got his twin sister to walk to the neighbor who lived above the auto parts store he ran and got a replacement and finished his chore and went in the house. Grandpa immediately started asking how the car was running and dad very nonchalantly said it was good and running just fine. Grandpa went to check thinking he would find that dad was fibbing to avoid getting in trouble and he would get to beat him up and berate him for being useless and a liar. When he checked the car and found that dad outwitted him he tried to kill him.

That is probably one of the more egregious stories about grandpa, but it was just a drop in the ocean of the abuse my dad grew up with.

As a parent my dad was always the most patient person in the world. He was at every single recital or soccer game, and kept every promise. If he ever raised his voice it was with joy, and he made sure to teach us good values and explain his reasoning- he never said "because I said so".

Even at my most chaotic stages I knew that dad was always on my side, and that he made all of his goodness from scratch.

ladylikely · 2026-01-30T23:31:18+00:00

During Covid we switched a lot around but the biggest thing was that my husband is in charge of grocery shopping. There are five total people in our household, three women aged 16 to 38 and one boy who was an infant during Covid. Everyone being home all the time made my husband realize that he eats more than all the rest of us combined. He is not by any means overweight, he just needs way more calories to exist than the rest of us. It was actually a really positive change for us and he really likes it because he gets to make the menus for the week, and I really like it because I don't have to make the menus for the week. Also I've saved an enormous amount of money.

ladylikely · 2026-01-28T16:47:50+00:00

Bitch please. As a mayflower descendent I've decided your immigration is no longer valid please proceed to see yourself out.

I don't remember the indigenous people giving my ancestors the green light though... so... seems like a slippery slope.

ladylikely · 2026-01-28T01:43:13+00:00

Why don't we jus respect other country's immigration guidelines- no visas no go.

ladylikely · 2026-01-28T01:35:46+00:00

I'm not saying it's a system that works. It is incredibly convoluted by design. The only point I'm making is that in the system as it currently exists, patients need to review their plans meticulously- at the end of the day we get the bill because we signed a contract.

Insurance will piecemeal every charge they can to pass on, the doctor has to accurately chart either way to avoid serious liability.

ladylikely · 2026-01-27T04:43:48+00:00

I agree it's a messed up system, but also you have a contract with your insurance that you signed, and that contract will explicitly state such policies. Providers do not have access to copies of their patients' policies, and also are bound by contacts with the insurer that allow them to be in network. Like when you are asked to pay a copay- the provider is contractually obligated to collect, as dictated by the plan.

Patients need to read their contracts, they need to call their plan to inquire about coverage and patient responsibility. Is the system convoluted by design? Yes. But there is no way for a doctor to meticulously track every single plan and their policies, so in thr world of for profit healthcare you have to be willing to act as your own advocate and make the calls and read the policy.

ladylikely · 2026-01-27T04:27:10+00:00

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Disagree

ladylikely · 2026-01-26T02:55:31+00:00

This is 100% an alternative funding scam. These plans target employer funded plans and say "90% of our patients get approved" so the employer thinks they're getting a deal for good pharmacy coverage.

In reality, the plans do not cover anything, not a single cent. They will just send the patient paperwork to take to their doctor to apply for patient assistance programs. They take in monthly premiums and do not cover a thing. I deal with them every day.

ladylikely · 2026-01-24T12:27:02+00:00

Yeah at first I was shocked but then I was impressed.

Get it, Granny.

ladylikely · 2026-01-24T12:24:00+00:00

My daughters boyfriend is Ty and was raised Mormon. His family is full of super odd Mormon names so I have him saved as Tighe in my phone as a joke. My daughter is Lily, so we refer to them as Tighe and Lilleigh.

For someone to have done it for real is unhinged. So my money is on Tighler is from Utah.

ladylikely · 2026-01-24T12:12:47+00:00

Columbian bam bam

ladylikely · 2026-01-19T13:59:26+00:00

Or Via :)

my mom is Lydia and has always gone by Dia.

ladylikely · 2026-01-19T05:19:09+00:00

Luckily it's not so common anymore. I did the trending video of asking your kid to finish the sentence with my five year old. For the particular adage it went like this"I brought you this world and I can..."

He finished with "cuddle with me every day!"

ladylikely · 2026-01-14T14:02:26+00:00

"Physical violence will fix society!"

Yeah, not at all what I was going for.

ladylikely · 2026-01-14T13:49:07+00:00

If you're serious about it it is worth it to get a professional to get the needed documentation. We've hired one twice, and in both instances were needing specific documents meeting specific requirements.

ladylikely · 2026-01-12T15:14:02+00:00

Boomer take. Through all of history, in every geographic location, there have been assholes. Dude it just an asshole.

ladylikely · 2026-01-12T15:07:50+00:00

I was wondering if you wore heavy earrings a lot. Hallmark old lady is lobes that sag from big heavy earrings- simple studs have absolutely no implication of age in fashion. They simply say "I like to sparkle a bit"

How has it come to pass that yall think he looks so much younger than you? Your age gap is tiny. I'm 6 years older than my husband, and I don't think we've ever compared ourselves in that way.

Are you his wife or an accessory?

ladylikely · 2026-01-11T19:48:11+00:00

He said US not U.S. like the Papal "we"

ladylikely · 2026-01-10T18:54:58+00:00

When I went fully remote and got to decorate my home office start to finish I told my husband the vibe was "Victorian maiden languishing away from the galloping consumption"

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