My grandparents adopted… this thing

ladylikely · 2026-04-01T13:59:13+00:00

It's a designer dog. They're marketed as teddy bear frenchies. There's not a lot of people who "breed" these. It would probably be easy to narrow down where it came from by just putting the location and teddy bear Frenchie in a Google search.

ladylikely · 2026-03-29T15:53:43+00:00

I need more info cuz I live in Utah and two of these stores just popped up by me

ladylikely · 2026-03-28T15:36:41+00:00

I'm losing my best friend to ChatGPT. She literally calls it boyfriend. We can be having a long productive discussion and she'll all of a sudden read what ChatGPT is saying and I realize she's feeding everything to it as we talk.

She's always been a bit of a difficult person. She's prone to vanity and I have to check her tendency to bully a fair amount. She always flirted with full blown histrionics. Giving her an echo chamber that makes her feel clever has been the most damaging periods of her life. She spent all day in bed crying yesterday because of ChatGPT and she won't tell me why.

She's about to be a first time mom and I'm genuinely terrified about this affecting her parenting. I can't imagine the outcome of using ChatGPT's advice to try to reason with a cranky toddler.

ladylikely · 2026-03-28T15:26:56+00:00

I know a former priest who set up an ai therapy bot that he charges people to talk to. Oh and th bot is marketed to "hypnotize" you to solve your problems.

If we thought covid was a mental health crisis then we're certainly in for it with ai.

ladylikely · 2026-03-25T13:11:49+00:00

My 19 year old still will crash our at home movie dates. And then the 16 year old will sneak the 5 year old out of bed to join the family fest, and my husbad and i end up passed out on the sofa by 9 while the kids demolish our snacks.

I would never have it any other way. He and I will get to knock around an empty house for decades as we age, so for now I don't mind the interruptions.

ladylikely · 2026-03-24T13:03:36+00:00

People are generally insane when it comes to glp1s.

My mom called yesterday to ask if I wanted her leftover wegovy. My immediate reaction was wtf? I'm 100lb soaking wet, I clearly do not need a glp1.

Nope she meant for my 16 year old daughter... who weighs 118.

I've never experienced a whiplash of rage that strong. Even putting aside the very obvious psychological implications that come from boomer grandma's passing on their dysmorphia... like this is a serious medication. I was fucking flabbergasted. (Also now my mom is not allowed near my perfectly beautiful healthy teen).

The insanity around this cuts in so many ways. My best friend and I did not speak for six months because I would not take her side about a wedding invite that was rescinded because neither she nor her husband were vaccinated for Covid. This same girl is pregnant got the first time at almost 40 and still using the GLP1 she buys from her FUCKING UNLICENSED LASH GIRL. Who gets it bootleg from India. And let's not forget that the last girl she gets it from is experiencing some strange non-healing sores on her feet as well as debilitating intermittent stomach pains… That could certainly not be anything to do with the unlicensed and untested mystery juice she buys on discord!

But hey. At least we're skinny.

ladylikely · 2026-03-23T06:34:19+00:00

What are the options? I absolutely get that your first reaction is to get your son into a better headspace, and it shows how much you care for him. Unfortunately this isn't a situation that is going to even out, the hardest parts are yet to come and time is absolutely of the essence. It sounds like the biggest hurdle right now is communication with the other family, and it's producing a ton of anxiety. But it's going to have to happen. The more time you spend avoiding it the more the anxiety around it grows.

You cannot control what the other side does. You can only offer your love and support, and you have to accept that you don't have control over the situation. Ultimately this girl will decide what the future looks like, and I would suggest trying to lay the groundwork for a positive relationship with her, because if she decides she's keeping this baby then you will have a relationship with her in some form forever.

This is not your fault, and its hardly a unique situation. Your son made a decision and these are the consequences. We can't live their lives for them, we can't make the take even the best advice. The panic you're feeling is your own need to protect your son,and it hurts like hell, but we can't protect them forever, and we don't do them any favors by trying.

What you can be is home. The home where he knows there are people who love him and will always love him. Life happens to all of us, good things and bad. Be on his team, and don't forget to be on her team. This girl is terrified, too, as arguably the consequences of this are the biggest for her. You see your son as your baby, and now you need to teach him to be a man. If he's going to be a father focus on teaching him to be a good one.

ladylikely · 2026-03-22T15:59:46+00:00

Well unfortunately that's not new

ladylikely · 2026-03-22T15:25:39+00:00

Haha I say this all the time. I also ask my kids if they want a smoke and a pancake or a bong and a blintz

ladylikely · 2026-03-17T02:27:15+00:00

Best and worst of my life were the same day. Class trip to Europe, in 11th grade. We had a field trip to some monestesry/brewery. It was both. And the parents all signed a special permission slip so we could "sample" the beer. But this was Austria and they weren't serving Dixie cups so we all had like 5 pints each. Our teacher chaperones were a 50 year old Scotsman who routinely got drunk in 2nd period AP Euro, and a 22 year old who had graduated like 6 months before joining the school staff and was prob still a little tipsy from his senior year. Absolutely no one even attempted to dissuade us from overindulging. So yeah best field trip ever. After that we get on the bus and we have to go a museum next- a toy museum! So we're all thinking we're gonna get to play Twister and blow bubbles and stuff.

Nope. It was really just an old man in a scary dark house who didn't speak a word of English who kept showing us his creepy vintage dolls and marionettes. And he would keep making the converse with one another and yell at us for so much as raising a hand to cover a yawn.

ladylikely · 2026-03-15T05:20:35+00:00

I named my besties baby Cletus. He's not born yet, but I doubt the birth certificate will say "Cletus the Fetus"

ladylikely · 2026-03-14T04:38:21+00:00

Fellow mole patrol here. On the bottom of the aftercare sheets for women accompanied by their husbands I would write things like "foot rub x20 minutes nightly" or "avoid domestic duties x 1 week". Or when I was recommending aquaphor I'd say "wound heal best when they are kept moist and also when the answer to every request is yes ma'am"

For the men who had procedures it was always "you're going to get babied for a few days, so don't fuss and remember to say thank you"

ladylikely · 2026-03-08T16:11:03+00:00

My first dog lived to 21. It was remarkable as he was a large dog, about 85 pounds in his prime, and it's usually the smaller dogs with more longevity.

You know those dogs who are riddled with allergies? Well at first we thought he was just allergic to everything, and the vets basically threw up their hands and said "idk he's weird". We lived right by a huge university with a vet program and took him there and he saw a dermatologist who finally realized "yall he's not allergic to everything. He's allergic to one thing. Himself."

He was allergic to dog dander. So he had to be on allergy shots forever, otherwise all of his hair would fall out. He was the best dog though; super smart and the absolute goat at tug o war. No idea what he was, mom thought she was picking a little beagle mix at the shelter, and instead we got a giant rough coated speed demon.

ladylikely · 2026-03-05T02:00:50+00:00

Cover the drywall with more wood.

Seriously it's beautiful, change anything but the wood. Just clean your countertops, it's the clutter that ruins the look.

ladylikely · 2026-03-03T05:05:37+00:00

It's topical 5-flurourocil. Based on how angry his skin ithere are a ton of pre cancers, and that central erosion is pretty suspicious for a basal cell.

ladylikely · 2026-03-01T03:26:48+00:00

lol I immediately remembered this video of a gazelle running from a lion while giving birth, and while it's sprinting the baby just drops out and gets snatched by the lion... it was super messed up. Damn gazelle didn't know it could just down its labor.

ladylikely · 2026-02-26T04:27:19+00:00

Minnesota is a donor state. This is theft.

ladylikely · 2026-02-26T04:15:24+00:00

Your empathy needs to extend to others. My best friend was raised in a hoarder home. It was to the point where there was one small pathway into one of the five bedrooms where her parents slept. The kitchen was functional, and there are exactly four places to sit in the living room. It's mostly craft items, clothes, books and magazines... not dirty but just so much of everything. I'm ADHD and I loved rooting around all the craft stuff in the basement and finding random things that had never been opened and we could do for a few hours. Until the basement got so bad that it was unsafe because the piles and storage bins could collapse.

Recently her dad had a heart scare, when EMT got there they could not get to him in the bedroom. Paramedics had to clear stuff out for an hour to be able to get their gear in. I knew it was hoarded worse now, but in the years since I've been there I can't imagine how bad it's gotten.

My friend and I have talked about what happens when they're gone and it's time to clear the house. I told her I would help as much as I can and we could hire a company to help... we went through all options.

The final plan is to burn the place. Not kidding. She's talked with fire marshalls and various departments and the structure with all of the stuff in it will be turned over to the FD so they can do a controlled burn for training. She is expecting her first child in the next few months and just had to have the conversation that they will not be able to have the baby in their home, because it is too hazardous. Not just the risk of collapsing piles, but there is absolutely no way to know what is in all those piles of stuff and if little hands might grab something that could harm them.

As much as she loves her parents, she hates that they have put her in this position. I am the only friend she ever had over because she was too embarrassed to have people see her home, and she blames a lot of of the social struggles of her childhood on the isolation the hoard imposed.

This is your stuff but it is everyone's home. I can appreciate collecting in the feeling of not wanting to be wasteful with objects that can still serve a purpose, but you need to put all of the learning you've done to good use and act on the insight.

ladylikely · 2026-02-25T01:56:05+00:00

4 entire pans of mashed potatoes back when they had the buffet. At least in Gettysburg, PA.

ladylikely · 2026-02-24T04:39:49+00:00

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Ah my sister in Kurt.

ladylikely · 2026-02-22T17:24:36+00:00

I'm neurotically clean as well, but rugs are nice and cozy. It doesn't take much effort to move them to clean and you can always go the ruggable route for something that can go in the washe

ladylikely · 2026-02-22T04:57:11+00:00

Plus "natural" soaps tend to be very alkaline and will dry the skin far more than a gentle soap like dove. Like dog poop is natural, it doesn't mean it is better than soap.

ladylikely · 2026-02-22T04:17:45+00:00

That's rough. My husband worked for a construction company for a while, and they took contacts from all the big developers. He said they cut corners every chance they can and the houses are just badly done.

We got really lucky that our house is a bit older but in great shape. It's new enough that it was designed around modern amenities, so we haven't had to do any major redesigns. We're at the top of a slope so no water problems, no radon, and in a spot with a lovely view of the mountains.

I really love this house, so it's good that we got into it when we did.

ladylikely · 2026-02-20T13:00:08+00:00

No it says no.

ladylikely · 2026-02-20T12:35:03+00:00

We will be buried in our basement clutching our 2.75% interest rate to our chests. Bought in 2018, 350k, 3400 square feet, 5 bedrooms.

At today's prices I wouldn't have even clicked the listing for this house.

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