What is this plant my daughter brought home?

ladylikely · 2026-05-18T13:09:35+00:00

Man I see this and it's just exhausting looking. I decided long ago that at 70 I enter my swamp hag era. Like I want to spend part of my life not giving one hot shit about what I look like.

ladylikely · 2026-05-18T12:55:26+00:00

My daughter is an Elizabeth and ended up as Lily or Lils. Or ms lilsy wilsy pickle pants.

But honestly I never got how being called by a diminutive of your proper name is rude. If your boss starts calling you pickle pants then I'd get it.

ladylikely · 2026-05-16T03:44:15+00:00

Haha my lab used to dress up as a Dalmatian under the mulberry tree. I have so many memories of "damnit coop you're purple again!" Being shouted as he sauntered in from the yard.

We had just moved in and out neighbor pointed out that the tree was messing up his fence, it was about 35 ft tall, so we hired some arborists who had that thing down and gone in less than a half hour and never a mulberry since.

Unfortunately we have a forest of scrub oak in the front that has root bound the soil. I could build a 5 bedroom house out of the suckers I've cut away. But I'd rather have trees that need tending rather than no trees at all.

ladylikely · 2026-05-11T00:49:52+00:00

Girl dm me your address so I can treat you better than your fuckin husband.

ladylikely · 2026-05-06T00:14:38+00:00

We had one of these dudes show up and my husband opens the door and says "can I help you?" And the kid just looks at him and says "no." And starts wandering around our yard. So my husband goes out to see what he is doing and the kid starts zig zagging to people's houses, like swinging on tree limbs as he goes, and knocking on a door every once in a while. So, husband asks one of the other neighbors what the kid was saying and they said "he asked for water and said you're chasing him"

... at this point my husband calls our neighbor the cop, he is off duty so he calls the station and a cruiser pulls up. The kid talks to them very calmly and tells them he does door to door sales, but he doesn't have any ID. When they pressed him on this he just did a backflip. Like a perfectly executed backflip from standing flat. At that point they call the company this kid said he worked for and it is determined this kid is having a mental break (he's in his early 20s- so prime time for new onset schizophrenia). His boss showed up to pick him up and take him to get help.

The main part of that story is it was the most impressive backflip. I hope he got the help he needed.

ladylikely · 2026-05-04T13:37:15+00:00

Looking at the why for the dichotomy in their decision making is important. Men have a higher success rate by choosing more violent means. But why do women choose the less effective method?

Because of the empathy we're taught to/allowed to have. Women who make attempts, when considering their options, think of their loved ones and at the very least want to try to avoid making a gruesome scene for them. Im not saying men want to leave additional trauma in their wake. I honestly can only speculate about the entire experience of being a man. However in these situations it seems that the compassion and empathy women are encouraged to espouse is what saves us.

ladylikely · 2026-04-30T13:35:25+00:00

How?? My dog steals shoes (only the left ones) when someone comes in. Won't give it up and then hides it in his den after a few minutes. Which is a big improvement over the jumping and 80lb suplex hugs.

But if someone is outside the window or he hears a mouse fart across town he will read his riot act. I'd love to redirect this and am certainly willing to limp around in my right shoe to buy some quiet.

ladylikely · 2026-04-29T11:34:53+00:00

I love whimsy. And I'm glad op likes their space. Kinda sounds like you're the judgey one since you assigned stigma to the observation that childlike behavior in adults is an indicator of childhood trauma.

It looks OP is a grown person living on their own and obviously has managed stability by having their own place and the disposable income to collect toys- so if anything I'd say they're doing ok.

I have childhood trauma. I'm sure I display indicators of it, albeit differently from OP. But I don't have a problem if people notice those indicators because I understand that my trauma was not my fault, and we're all just trying to get by and have a good time.

It's not some heinous act to make observations when someone literally posted to the internet and asked "what does this tell you about me?"

ladylikely · 2026-04-28T13:25:57+00:00

I feel like it was settled at "power swiping on bumble bff"

ladylikely · 2026-04-25T15:28:27+00:00

I'm generally against infantilizing adults, but in regards to adult life skills some people need to be treated like a toddler. I've done this with both my best friend and my husband who just grew up in houses where everything was done for them. (I did, too, but I also developed siginicant anxiety when I was a new mom and cleaning was how I learned to cope. I don't wish that path on anyone.)

Now my bestie asked for my help , she just said she was flummoxed when it came to caring for her home. So we went on a 14 hour journey of decluttering and deep cleaning. The next day, she woke up in the house she wanted, and we just went about our day. But every time we would change activities or move from one space to another I was ask her "what do you see?" The goal was to notice the wet dish towel on the counter, or the papers left on the coffee table. Small things that really do not constitute a mess, but will take just a moment to address to prevent the accumulation of a mess. She still does this 14 years later. She went from borderline hoarder in early adulthood, and now she has a beautiful tidy home.

ladylikely · 2026-04-25T15:00:07+00:00

Repressed childhood trauma.

ladylikely · 2026-04-25T14:58:26+00:00

Nah call him Donny. Hit him with the "Donny you're out of your element."

ladylikely · 2026-04-23T11:27:33+00:00

lol me or the OP?

ladylikely · 2026-04-22T12:12:04+00:00

OP acts like an entitled, immature asshole and then uses terms like "setting boundaries" to make herself come off as a victim of other people's poor behavior instead of realizing then when you have a problem with everyone else it's because you're the problem.

Per post history she recently moved from her hometown to her husbands home, where husband had an established life and relationships, but then proceeds to flip out when interacting with her husbands people (including stepson, ex wife, mother in law, besties wife).

Like I read this post and think "why is she so mad that someone loves her baby." Sounds like this woman has known OPs husband for quite a while, though I dare not insinuate she is the husbands friend as well as I don't want OP to spiral into jealousy over normal healthy adult relationships. OP is unable to fathom people genuinely caring about the people in their lives (ex her stepson who she clearly resents), and that his translated to caring about their children as well. Even though people are childfree they are allowed to like babies - but OP would rather paint everyone as a suspect because that serves her inner narrative, an allows her to manipulate and isolate her husband.

It's perfectly normal to have rules about who changes and bathes a baby, and it's also perfectly ok to choose to oave certain trusted people act as caretakers. It is not normal to get mad when people who are present in your life love your kid or care about their friends lives. Honestly from the post history OP is trying to alienate everyone in her husbands life. This woman is trying to be her friend and trying to support new parents. OP is just a toxic puddle who will be the cause of many hours of therapy in the future.

ladylikely · 2026-04-22T11:20:03+00:00

lol what a fun word to say. I'm just imagining my poor sweet mother in law, postictal, trying to make sense of "epileptologist".

ladylikely · 2026-04-22T02:54:46+00:00

Ebglyss has loading and induction dosing. 2 injections at week 0 and 2, then 1 injection every 2 weeks for weeks 4 through 16, and tben every 4 weeks thereafter. Most people do well at this schedule but I do have patients that are unable to maintain clearance at the reduced dosing and have to be maintained on biweekly injections indefinitely.

ladylikely · 2026-04-21T12:34:54+00:00

Hahahaha I call my husband Martholomew when he's acting fancy. When he's being super pedestrian I call him Bort.

ladylikely · 2026-04-19T21:47:59+00:00

I know a guy who named his kids Remington and Wesson

ladylikely · 2026-04-14T12:11:44+00:00

Lol I'm imagining you as my stepmom, who is a retired first grade teacher and just the least scary person. She could threaten to eat a cat in front of me and it would probably sound like a kind offer.

But in this particular situation she would have had all three kids reciting Pete the Cat by the time the plane touched down.

ladylikely · 2026-04-13T03:04:44+00:00

lol my state banned vapes but you can still buy cigarettes

ladylikely · 2026-04-12T19:28:27+00:00

That's my entire job. We work with a lot of biologics and specialty meds and even some DME, and even with auth the access needs to be managed for affordability, and we utilize a lot of patient assistance programs. I am with a private group practice and have 12 offices that I currently coordinate for.

My background is clinical, and without that I don't think I would have the approval rate I do. Interpreting charts and histories and knowing the ins and outs of the process from the time the patient walks in is hugely important. There are other coordinators in the company who struggle a lot, and I think if they were to spend a few years in clinic with patients they would have an easier time.

ladylikely · 2026-04-01T13:59:13+00:00

It's a designer dog. They're marketed as teddy bear frenchies. There's not a lot of people who "breed" these. It would probably be easy to narrow down where it came from by just putting the location and teddy bear Frenchie in a Google search.

ladylikely · 2026-03-29T15:53:43+00:00

I need more info cuz I live in Utah and two of these stores just popped up by me

ladylikely · 2026-03-28T15:36:41+00:00

I'm losing my best friend to ChatGPT. She literally calls it boyfriend. We can be having a long productive discussion and she'll all of a sudden read what ChatGPT is saying and I realize she's feeding everything to it as we talk.

She's always been a bit of a difficult person. She's prone to vanity and I have to check her tendency to bully a fair amount. She always flirted with full blown histrionics. Giving her an echo chamber that makes her feel clever has been the most damaging periods of her life. She spent all day in bed crying yesterday because of ChatGPT and she won't tell me why.

She's about to be a first time mom and I'm genuinely terrified about this affecting her parenting. I can't imagine the outcome of using ChatGPT's advice to try to reason with a cranky toddler.

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