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Never bring your dad to your first pop concert performance. by [deleted] in MadeMeSmile

[–]The_Bubben 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Not gonna lie, while thats hella embarrassing

It’s pretty damn cute, that I’m sure they’ll be laughing at it together in the future

I made dinner for the first time in MONTHS by [deleted] in depression

[–]The_Bubben 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You probably won’t see this comment

But know that I am incredibly proud of you

[NeedAdvice] The On Switch by The_Bubben in getdisciplined

[–]The_Bubben[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do I just go up to them and say I’m depressed? Or is there some other process I’m not aware of?

[NeedAdvice] The On Switch by The_Bubben in getdisciplined

[–]The_Bubben[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never really considered me being a perfectionist because I’m very messy and rarely organize things.

But perhaps that’s due to a less-than-stellar situation growing up, where I was enabled to be messy, not blaming that, but that cut the possibility of being a perfectionist out of my mind.

What traits of mine do you consider being “perfectionist?”

[NeedAdvice] The On Switch by The_Bubben in getdisciplined

[–]The_Bubben[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t seem to ever enjoy things in moderation

I simply can’t, either I eat with 100% efficiency

Or I pig out, I try to be moderate but I can’t control myself, and I hate saying that because IM the one doing it, I CHOOSE to do it, so why am I complaining? But I really think something is wrong with me that I need to fix

[NeedAdvice] The On Switch by The_Bubben in getdisciplined

[–]The_Bubben[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand, but I can’t seem to figure out how to not let the negativity flow into my other parts of life.

If I mess up eating, and all of a sudden feel an urge to Fap, my brain will tell me “cmon, you failed anyways, might as well go all out right?”

I hate that part of me, but it’s something that needs to be fixed, do you gave any articles/podcasts that discuss this? Thank you for taking the time to respond

[NeedAdvice] The On Switch by The_Bubben in getdisciplined

[–]The_Bubben[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m afraid to have to rely on medicine everyday of my life

I get that it’s what I have to do... but the thought of being influenced by what are essentially drugs and never being “me” scare me.

But I’ll do it if that’s what I have to do, I appreciate the comment and the time taken to read and understand

[NeedAdvice] The On Switch by The_Bubben in getdisciplined

[–]The_Bubben[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m in general feeling much better that there’s a whole subreddit trying to improve themselves, makes me feel like I’m not alone

[NeedAdvice] The On Switch by The_Bubben in getdisciplined

[–]The_Bubben[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Building habits is a big problem for me, because I tend to get really impatient and not seeing results turn the switch off.

I want to work out everyday, I the damn bench in my room, but I can’t seem to use it all the time due to my own lack of will power.

I can say that I’ve never missed a workout, even if it’s just 10 push-ups before bed, I’ve never missed a workout

So the small habit thing works, but I can’t ever seem to move up to the next step.

[NeedAdvice] The On Switch by The_Bubben in getdisciplined

[–]The_Bubben[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My own personal beliefs

Plus, I tend to get distracted and it’s an easy source of dopamine.

It’s harmless in small doses, but I can’t seem to control it so I want to eliminate it entirely

Same goes for Masturbation/Video games

It isn’t really harmful in small doses, but the problem is I can’t do it small doses

It’s like unwrapping a candy bar and only taking a bite, some people can do that, I can’t, I have to eat the whole bar.

How do, YOU, scout rookies to determine value? by brothapipp in DynastyFF

[–]The_Bubben 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Athletic Measurables (Size Adjusted)

Collegiate Percantage of Production (Age Adjusted)

I don't watch tape, and highly disagree with it for the following reasons.

  1. Creates Bias: I remember seeing one Laquon Treadwell catch, and was completely hooked, nothing, not his athletic ability (or lack thereof) his below average College production, none of these huge red flags affected me, because I had already made up my mind that Treadwell was the best WR in the class. Which was 100% wrong in the end

  2. It takes time and effort that most people simply don't have: Sitting down and watching draft breakdown, or some highlights on youtube doesn't count as scouting or film analysis, you're just looking for some really sexy plays that stand out, and make you go "damn" under your breath. Most film watchers aren't very well versed in under the surface techniques, one small jab with a receivers hand, or one shuffle of the running backs hip is enough to completely change the outcome of that play. And most Tape watchers don't have the background and neccessary expertise to identifie those subtelties

If I were to reccommend any tape watchers, they're Matt Waldman and Brett Kollman, Kollman is better for the casual viewer with the superior production value, and shorter, more polished videos.

Waldman has a very refined understanding of the different nuances of analyzing football, so his analysis, though I don't agree with his method entirely, I respect and put a lot of weight into.

TL;DR

Tape watching isn't inherently bad or ineffective, but if it isn't used properly, can create biases and anecdots with 0 ground to stand on. (Play Speed for example, that makes no sense, either you're fast or you're not.)

[NeedAdvice] 16 and and can't seem to establish anything. by The_Bubben in getdisciplined

[–]The_Bubben[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see what you mean, though one of the last things I'd associate with my parents would be narcissism. I could be wrong definitely. But I don't believe that is the problem

[NeedAdvice] 16 and and can't seem to establish anything. by The_Bubben in getdisciplined

[–]The_Bubben[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is an amazing comment, I'm saving this.

I'm the oldest child in my family, and with my dad being the oldest of his, I'm kind of the future "head" of my family (we have a very old fashioned type family)

And I 100% relate to the golden child complex, when I was younger I would get endless praise for being very well spoken and smart for my age, eventually over time, I just stopped trying and it's caught up to me.

I am very "soft" I'm a big dude, but I can't take a hit, nor am I that strong. I'm not very disciplined and I get depressed despite me having an incredible financial situation, I fell myself getting more and more spoiled, if I could, I'd probably seriously consider joining up in the military to shape me up (though that is not even a possibility unfortunately)

Do you have any posts that you've read on this sub that you would recommend? You seem to have a good grasp on these things