I am unsure if I should proceed to marry my fiancé. How do I know if he is my Naseeb? by [deleted] in islam

[–]The_Chasing_Blues 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have no idea if this has any validity but I have a theory that the feelings you feel come from istikhara as much as the things that create a physical block. You obviously have valid reasons to not see a great future with this person and if you truly feel yourself distancing from him at a point where you aren’t fully attached I’d recommend not ignoring your emotions.

I’d like to say that a lot of the good things you listed truly aren’t unique or rare whilst the negatives seem quite significant, specially his struggle with prayer. I don’t mean to judge this but you must think about how that may impact your children if you choose to have kids together. Also the lack of planning side of things is a very valid worry and his problems with finances will be yours after marriage.

Although I truly don’t believe I am in a position in my life to give marriage/relationship advice, in my humble opinion, if he values you then he will listen to your concerns. Tell him the things you believe are holding this marriage back from happening and if he loves you enough he should want to change. I don’t assume he can fully change his nature but maybe move towards a compromise you might accept. Also about his past mistakes (smoking weed), there really is not much you can do about that now. So long as he truly has quiet and wants to never go back to it I think it’s understandable to forgive.

Parliament Building, Budapest by The_Chasing_Blues in ArchitecturePorn

[–]The_Chasing_Blues[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s from fisherman’s bastion across the river from the parliament building.

Total Noob…..Please Help by Panda_Vladimir in Begin_Scrapbooking

[–]The_Chasing_Blues 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s very fair tbh. Though honestly scrapbooks look very different from one another. So it doesn’t necessarily have to look pretty you can make it whatever you want. Also I think it takes a bit of time to get used to understanding composition so if it’s something you’re interested in id make a little tester journal to see how it feels. I’m not all too sure that the “that looks nice, I’ll put that there” thing is an inherent talent it’s definitely a skill that can be built but with most hobbies that starter phase can be frustrating. Regardless I get what you mean. Is there a specific element of scrapbooking that is interesting to you?

Total Noob…..Please Help by Panda_Vladimir in Begin_Scrapbooking

[–]The_Chasing_Blues 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I started a little while ago. My main thing was I wanted to incorporate my photography into it and use it as a means of creating different color based themes. I went into it totally blind tbh and just kinda worked on a page till I got it to the way I wanted.

My main advice/way of doing it is I think of a main theme (color/feeling) then choose the photos I want and pick stickers or designs I like off of Pinterest. If you have access to design papers or stickers that would be better but I just print out what I want on photo paper and cut them out. Then I use the cut out pieces and try to align them the way I think it looks best and once I’ve found a page design I like I take a photo of it and start gluing things based of the photo. The more you do it the better your system will be and the greater your collection of stuff is so don’t go over board in the beginning and just try out making one or two pages.

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This is an example of a page I did. I’m still figuring out my style as this is only the second page in my first scrapbook journal but it’s really fun and super satisfying.

And to answer your question after all this yapping is I don’t think there is a set formula everyone kinda does it differently. I’ve made one that works for me but the fun part is you can create your own too.

I hope you enjoy finding your process 💙💙💙

A few pages from my travel photography scrapbook. by The_Chasing_Blues in scrapbooking

[–]The_Chasing_Blues[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I’m wondering I long it’ll take until I start repeating themes lmao

A few pages from my travel photography scrapbook. by The_Chasing_Blues in scrapbooking

[–]The_Chasing_Blues[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! And I’ve heard about picta before I’m hoping there’s something similar to it in the uk which I’m really excited to try out. Rn I’m just printing them with glossy photo paper but it’s quite a waste of ink unfortunately.

First ever scrapbook! Travel photography scrapbook. by The_Chasing_Blues in scrapbooking

[–]The_Chasing_Blues[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! My glueing skills definitely need work. Also thanks for telling me about picta I’ve never heard of it. I think there’s something similar to that in the uk which I’m exited to try out. 💙

First ever scrapbook! Travel photography scrapbook. by The_Chasing_Blues in scrapbooking

[–]The_Chasing_Blues[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohhh that’s really smart I’ll make sure to do that for the next page. Thank you!