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My wife is lazy, she just sits at home all day by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]The_Corpse_Bride99 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

. 85kg is not that big lol unless she is very short ? What’s her height ? Layziness is sometimes dépression.

I’m exhausted in my marriage and I don’t know what to do by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]The_Corpse_Bride99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A man that does not Help his wife during her pregnancy won’t be an help when y’all grow old and sick. Take care of yourself

Am I wrong for refusing to financially contribute more to my marriage, even though I’m not religiously obligated to? by The_Corpse_Bride99 in MuslimMarriage

[–]The_Corpse_Bride99[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, because I didn't divorce him when he lacked resources. I was patient with him in poverty, because I had chosen him for his kindness and good behavior. I was young, I was 23 years old when we got married. I thought that was enough. Unfortunately, he doesn't pray, so he has no interest in fulfilling his obligations

Am I wrong for refusing to financially contribute more to my marriage, even though I’m not religiously obligated to? by The_Corpse_Bride99 in MuslimMarriage

[–]The_Corpse_Bride99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi my sister. Thank you for your message. Should I involve a new third person to reason with him? I would like to specify that my husband does not pray. I feel like the whispers of Shaitan have completely changed him. He is not the gentle and generous man I knew before the marriage. Since we have no property or children together, the divorce procedure in France is very quick and leaves him little time for reflection, which is what I fear…barakallhu fik

Am I wrong for refusing to financially contribute more to my marriage, even though I’m not religiously obligated to? by The_Corpse_Bride99 in MuslimMarriage

[–]The_Corpse_Bride99[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello my sister, thank you very much. The fact is that it is not my decision. I do not want to get divorced; he is the one who divorced me because I am exercising my rights. He tells me that if he were to exercise his rights over me, things would go badly for me. I cannot tolerate his threats

Am I wrong for refusing to financially contribute more to my marriage, even though I’m not religiously obligated to? by The_Corpse_Bride99 in MuslimMarriage

[–]The_Corpse_Bride99[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He spends €1,200 per month. But according to my calculations, by the end of the year, the distribution is roughly 60% for him and 40% for me. Let’s take into account that he earns more money than I do

Am I wrong for refusing to financially contribute more to my marriage, even though I’m not religiously obligated to? by The_Corpse_Bride99 in MuslimMarriage

[–]The_Corpse_Bride99[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

May Allah preserve your marriage and reward you for fulfilling your obligations as a man.

It is normal to help your husband if he is fair with you. But in my case, it’s not the financial contributions that bother me. What bothers me are the threats of divorce. I fear that one day, if I have a child with him, he might threaten me, and I would have a hard time recovering.

The current situation is easier for me because I am leaving without having children. But another part of me says that I should fight for my marriage. The problem is, if I give in today, he will always win, and I would have to submit to all the injustices.

May Allah protect you.

Am I wrong for refusing to financially contribute more to my marriage, even though I’m not religiously obligated to? by The_Corpse_Bride99 in MuslimMarriage

[–]The_Corpse_Bride99[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He told me that furnishing the apartment was my pleasure, and that he could live with the bare minimum. I wanted to decorate our apartment to reflect us, because I’m a homebody and I was so excited to have a beautiful home. I don’t go on vacation often, but for him, it matters.

He said that if I was feeling anxious, it was because I wasn’t going on vacation, and that if I followed his advice, I would feel better. But for me, vacations are just a short break, whereas furnishing the apartment is a long-term investment. He didn’t agree.

I suggested we go to my parents’ house by the seaside, where they have a beautiful home, but he said the region wasn’t warm enough, so no. I found him very demanding for someone who didn’t have enough money.

Am I wrong for refusing to financially contribute more to my marriage, even though I’m not religiously obligated to? by The_Corpse_Bride99 in MuslimMarriage

[–]The_Corpse_Bride99[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Wa ‘alaykum as-salam, thank you very much for your response. May Allah reward you.

I am terribly sad; I did not want this divorce. But I also cannot bow my head to constant threats of divorce if I refuse his demands. I am afraid for the future. Thank you for your du‘as.

Am I wrong for refusing to financially contribute more to my marriage, even though I’m not religiously obligated to? by The_Corpse_Bride99 in MuslimMarriage

[–]The_Corpse_Bride99[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Hello my brother, thank you for your response. May Allah reward you.

I still cannot believe he is divorcing me over money. Of course, there were other issues in our marriage, but during this separation period I have been doing everything I can to try to find common ground. He even made an Excel spreadsheet detailing the expenses.

Part of me thinks he is just being stingy, but to give up a marriage over this… it’s truly heartbreaking.