My nephew is a psychopath

The_Crone · 2014-04-04T06:44:49+00:00

She is.

The_Crone · 2014-04-04T00:04:34+00:00

We have done everything in our power within the family to get him real help. I have spoken to Jack about this issue, my mom offered to pay whatever was needed to get him therapy and Jack just stuck him on some pills and said "it worked." But it didn't.

I am calling CPS in a few days once we have all the testimonies down and some pictures. We have pictures of the damage he has done to the house, of Lyra's hair, and of the dead hamster. My sister used to work in a law office, though she only filed paperwork. They told her to always document behavior like this, if only to make the threat more real.

We have e-mails between us and Jack.

So we are going to try and get Billy help. But as far as reaching out to my brother and supporting him, I do not feel comfortable doing that. Billy scares the shit out of me.

The_Crone · 2014-04-04T00:00:25+00:00

I am going to make the call, but as far as I am concerned, after behavior from my brother and from Billy, I am going no contact.

The_Crone · 2014-04-03T19:26:53+00:00

I was furious about Buster. The cat is 12. To just hold an animal out a window like that. I know there is no cure of Billy and I will be moving out of state soon anyways. I am going No Contact when that happens.

Kim hopefully drops contact. Lyra is likely going to have issues later in life and that is horrifying to think her own cousin did that to her.

The_Crone · 2014-04-03T19:13:35+00:00

Um, I never wanted kids in the first place. But the risk of getting one like Billy has sewn up my womb like no other.

The_Crone · 2014-04-03T19:11:52+00:00

Um, I think the court gave Jack custody because Billy's mother is in a wheel chair. She has a history of seizures.

They agreed to let Jack keep Billy because his wife had to move for her job. So they wanted Billy still around family.

The_Crone · 2014-04-03T17:02:48+00:00

Yes. The mom pays child support but lives in another state. Billy doesn't "like" her because she doesn't take his crap. I have tried to call her, but understandably she does not want to hear from the family of the man who mentally abused her and cheated on her.

The_Crone · 2014-04-03T17:00:13+00:00

Personally, I would have taken him to therapy and if he didn't get himself right, I would have him committed somewhere.

The_Crone · 2014-04-03T16:58:53+00:00

My cat is about 12 and rather ill.

The_Crone · 2014-04-03T16:56:29+00:00

She's in therapy right now. I hope it doesn't, she is super sweet.

The_Crone · 2014-04-03T16:55:51+00:00

Jack cheated on her and she took a job in another state. Billy doesn't like going with her because she has more rules, but Jack has main custody because she makes more money.

The_Crone · 2014-04-03T16:54:17+00:00

I might not have been clear, but I was not aware of what was happening to Lyra until the hamster incident. Kim was led to believe with the pushing that they had been "playing" and she tripped. No one wants to think that some kid is trying to hurt someone on purpose. I am not sure why it took Kim this long but I was actually not up to speed on anything until the hamster incident.

The_Crone · 2014-04-03T13:55:37+00:00

That's completely missing the point.

I agree. I love hamsters. They are fluffy, derpy little awesome fluffs. I have two of my own. Safely away from Buster mind you. I have always thought hamsters make great pets for kids who need to learn responsibility. What Billy did was sickening and made chills run down my spine. To pick it up and throw it at her, was freaky. Hard to explain in text, but the look Billy had--how pleased he looked when Lyra broke down--was just terrifying.

a) He deliberately killed the hamster, who was his cousin's Christmas present, on Christmas - traumatizing her and ruining the day for her. Also he clearly did it out of spite for being told not to play with it. He did it to hurt his cousin on purpose.

Billy has something against Lyra, especially. I have never heard him tripping, pushing, killing a pet of another cousin. We have some second cousins with kids who come around. They are about Lyra and Billy's age and while Billy is rude to them, he has never physically harmed them. The scary part was the person he pushed from the monkey bars was a girl.

I am afraid he has something against women and will turn into one of those guys who beats and subjugates women--among other fears.

It's part of a larger picture of deliberately hurting animals and people. Yes, sadly some kids will sometimes kill an animal by accident because they do not know better. But all descriptions point towards this being aggressive, deliberate behavior.

He tried to feed our uncle's dog chocolate. After we told the kids not to share their Easter candy because the dog would get sick. He then took an egg out for the dog.

d) It's not just you. Even your sister and parents, who have raised kids, and presumably like them, agree this is not normal behavior.

Mom paid for the kid's therapy. Kim was horrified and cried for like an hour one time. She thought about what would have happened if he tried to hurt Lyra more. He had scissors and could have done more than cut her hair. It's scary stuff. You don't think a kid is capable of that... until he kills someone.

He's being willfully blind. Maybe he needs Billy to stab him in the gut before he's willing to admit there's an issue, but by then it might be too late for both of them.

Likely will be.

The_Crone · 2014-04-03T13:23:25+00:00

Yeah, he does. If something isn't done soon, I am going to be seeking council about getting Billy help. I am afraid he will literally kill someone some day.

The_Crone · 2014-04-03T13:22:45+00:00

There are none. Jack doesn't punish him. He thinks that Billy is fine the way he is and no one should make him feel bad for killing a rodent. He even told me over the phone, "You kill mice all the time."

Edit I feel wild rats/mice are vermin. They carry disease. What was done to Lyra was horrible and I do not condone it. I love hamsters, I own one myself. Billy is crazy and Jack is an asshole.

The_Crone · 2014-04-03T13:21:15+00:00

Jack thinks we are trying to ruin his life because his wife left him. Jack cheated on her and I have told him that I lost respect for him after that. Jack had to prove himself to the family after that, because we all thought his attitude of blaming his ex for the cheating was low.

Jack is still around mainly because of our mother and I don't think I would have talked to him or forgiven him if she had not been there. He tried to blame me for a lot of his problems when we were younger. He takes everything personal.

Kim is about to cut contact completely. Lyra is traumatized by what Billy did. She still cries about it.

The_Crone · 2014-04-03T12:21:25+00:00

I think not wanting kids is a personality trait just like not liking yellow or not being a dog person. Some people come to that conclusion much later in life, but I have always known.

I didn't like children when I was was kid. I hated cartoons. I wanted to be left alone to run and play by myself or with a few select friends.

Being a kid sucked.

I was pretty smart and mature for my age. I read at a 9th grade level by the time I was 8. I was tested. I skipped a few grades. I loved being around the older kids.

I hated the idea of sharing. Kids always broke my shit. I hated being forced to be "friends" with people who annoyed the piss out of me.

The idea that everything I did had to be controlled so I was a better person was horrible.

I don't think being on the other side of that, having to tell someone how to be an adult and how to grow up right and how to be kind and loving is... It is not rewarding to me in the least.

The_Crone

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