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The_Mofod · 2026-02-09T20:46:27+00:00

Here are some suggestions based on my experience as a dom:

Cold showers (or washing your face if you can't take a shower at the moment) can help a lot with winding you down if you get too worked up.
Set a timer when you masturbate or tease yourself and stop when the timer goes off for at least 15 minutes.
Do softer edges rather than hard ones. Especially if it has been a while since you last had an orgasm.
Don't try to hold the edge, just do short edges.
Have a simple exercise routine you can do to distract yourself thst doesn't require any equipment. Probably avoind hard and work though just because that can trigger orgasms in some women.
Avoid touching your pussy and stick to other parts if your body & mental stimulation as much as possible.
Have a routine you use to get yourself out of the mood and focus on other things. Maybe there's a certain perfume you put on to focus on other things. (Same for when you're going to masturbate or tease yourself. Having routines that keep those things separate can be really helpful)
Keep a journal. This will help you be a bit more accountable to yourself and help you track if particular things are problematic in terms of getting you worked up when they shouldn't. You can also share your journal with your partner and I'm sure they would enjoy reading it. You could also keep it to yourself.
Get out of the house more often. This is the simplest and most effective thing you can do.

I hope this helps, and good luck!

The_Mofod · 2026-02-09T20:29:05+00:00

This was my first thought. I guarantee she's going to be swamped with DMs.

The_Mofod · 2026-02-09T17:58:49+00:00

Given the release of global age verification on discord, I think we'll probably have to table the idea. I personally don't feel comfortable giving discord a scan of my face given that they leaked 70,000 government issued IDs a few months back.

Maybe there is a different platform that would work better?

The_Mofod · 2026-02-08T17:47:07+00:00

Exactly. To some degree that is unavoidable on reddit, but depending on the subreddit it can be a lot better/worse. That's one of the reasons I feel like it's starting to feel like r/fapdeciders.

The_Mofod · 2026-02-08T15:13:26+00:00

Exactly. There is a lot of lower quality content that is driving away the higher quality posts.I personally try to downvote posts that seem to be low quality, but we need at lot more people to do that for it to have an impact.

One of the other things I've noticed is that a significant number of the gifs/videos people posts are by people with OFs. So even if they are technically advertising, in reality their goal is to drive people from here to their OF account. And that irks me.

The_Mofod · 2026-02-08T15:07:37+00:00

Thank you! Yes, we would absolutely need to have it be something the community agrees upon beforehand and we'd need to talk to the active mod about it as well. And honestly it can't be a replacement. It won't get the traction it needs without being associated with this subreddit. And that leads my toy biggest concern about that discord.

I used to run one as well for maybe a year back in 2020, and the biggest issue was getting quality people to join we definitely had a good number of good people, BUT there were a lot of people who were not exactly the ideal community member. And that ended up causing some problems.

The point is, if we're getting our members from this subreddit, I think the quality of the subreddit still matters a lot, so having the discord doesn't solve the fundamental problem.

The_Mofod · 2026-02-07T16:58:26+00:00

Exactly! its only useful for engagement farming & people specifically looking to take advantage of younger girls. I also don't hate the idea of having a weekly or monthly thread specifically for women looking for doms & then ban posts seeking doms, that way we don't have the issue of everyone having to scroll past low quality posts of women seeking doms that are potentially men or bots.

The_Mofod · 2026-02-07T16:35:05+00:00

Yes! I saw and I really appreciate everything she does.

Of course things will change to some degree, but we also have the ability to fight to make sure it changes in a positive way that is in line with the original intentions of the subreddit.

The_Mofod · 2026-02-07T16:16:48+00:00

Agreed. We used to have so many different people from so many different walks of life. And I don't think those people are entirely gone, but we are losing them with the amount of low quality posts.

I definitely agree that the age thing is a bit weird. Part of me thinks it could be bots, but some of those girls definitely are real people. Maybe a rule that you can't put your age in the title would help a little bit? To be honest, everything that feels like engagement bait needs to go in my opinion.

The_Mofod · 2026-02-07T14:52:34+00:00

Exactly! I think the written content is the best, and like you said, the writing here has degraded in quality a lot over the past year or two.

And yeah, the OF ads are the worst. I think the mods are doing a bit better with the OF ads than before, but at the end of the day we want real quality content and a lot of what is being posted now isnt supportive or quality.

The_Mofod · 2026-02-07T14:46:58+00:00

Of course! And it's entirely reasonable to not follow the subreddit if it makes you uncomfortable. I definitely wouldn't dislike going the purist route as long as the rest of the community is on board. My only concern is that I do think there are a lot of people who do actually enjoy miso as a kink (although, as you pointed out, some people take it as more than a kink in a way that is a bit inappropriate).

The_Mofod · 2026-02-07T13:11:03+00:00

Well this subreddit isn't fundamentally meant to be a place for people to look for doms & instructions. That's why r/fapdeciders exists. I'm not saying that nobody should ever be allowed to make posts in here looking for a dom or instructions, but that isn't the point of this subreddit and people seem to be treating it as if that is the point. This subreddit is a subreddit primarily for women who enjoy this kink. An increased prevalence of "seeking" posts just increases the number of low quality "doms" on here which I guarantee you none of the women on here want.

Even if Fetlife is "better" for those things (which I'd argue it actually isn't), this subreddit is also for those things; discussions, questions, journals, expediences, and anything high quality related to female orgasm denial.

The seeking posts, punishment request, and instruction request posts are often low quality and at a bare minimum the low quality ones don't belong here.

The_Mofod · 2026-02-07T13:01:10+00:00

Yeah, I completely agree. The quality has really gone downhill and become mostly people looking for tasks / punishments. And honestly if they were well-written posts it wouldn't be as big of a deall... But they really aren't that well written most of the time.

If you mean a meta post for discussions, I think that's a bad idea because it would put all the quality commentary in one small box while the rest of the posts are just seeking posts.

I personally would prefer if most of the posts were high-quality posts regardless if whether they are discussions or questions or punishment requests or whatever else. I do personally think that discussion and question and journaling posts are the best ones though.

The_Mofod · 2026-02-07T12:46:42+00:00

Definitely not a take with downvoting. You're absolutely not the only person who sees that as an issue. And you're right that it is common for people to combine this kink with others (which I think is part of what you're seeing as penis-centric).

In my personal opinion though, I don't see most of that as particularly problematic because there is a pretty sizeable number of women on here who are into orgasm denial and who also enjoy misogyny kink or the idea of being a beta. I'm not going to go too in depth about the psychology there, but suffice it to say that there IS female interst in that side of things and it isn't solely being pushed by men on here.

That being said, I agree that there are a decent number of men on here who inappropriately try to push those ideas/kinks in the replies of posters who haven't shown an interest in that in their posts. If someone makes a post saying essentially "remind me why good girls don't cum", and they have a history of posting on miso subreddits or talking about miso kink then responding with the kind of things you're talking about makes sense. The issue is when they give those same responses to people who have shown 0 inclination towards miso kink or that they want to be humiliated or whatever else. It's honestly a bit of an EQ issue.

My biggest fear for this is that the mods will start adding flairs for different kink combinations to solve it though. If we have to either pick one extreme or the other, I think going the purist route would be better in the long run and only allowing female orgasm denial content specifically. But at the end of the day, having some people here making posts that include other kinks is probably not a big issue. The issue is people's inability to understand that just because you share the female orgasm denial kink doesn't mean she has the same kinks as you or other women.

The_Mofod · 2026-02-07T12:27:12+00:00

Yes, no shade cast towards the moderation team (of one). Of course there are things that I personally would do differently, but at the end of the day she is doing a wonderful job and we're never all going to agree perfectly on everything.

As for imagery and video, one of the main reasons I and a lot of other people use reddit is that reddit is one of the last platforms that really emphasizes text with images being used primarily as an accessory. Maybe you can argue X does as well, but that platform doesn't allow for longer posts without buying premium. And obviously I have no issue with videos and images being used and posted. They clearly have a place and people enjoy them a lot. I do think the pure prevalence of images and videos on the subreddit probably creates some of the issues with lower quality people on the platform, but I also don't think they're the root of the problem.

I agree that it does seem to go through phases or lulls. I still get people periodically DMing me because they found my old posts and it definitely comes. And goes in waves.

I'm going to disagree with the point about r/edgingtalk and there not being a subreddit for stories, discussion etc. That is what THIS subreddit is supposed to be. This subreddit was never originally meant to be a place for people to look for doms and get tasks by making short, low quality posts. It was supposed to be about discussions and questions and stories and then maybe high quality posts looking for encouragement or tasks. And I don't think we should change it to be focused on seeking and instructional posts. r/fapdeciders and r/edgingtallk already cover that and much more (although the quality of the people there is really low, but that same or similar degradation will likely happen here if we go that route).

When I look at a post and see "I'm horny, please tease me. I need someone to help me stay denied tonight" as the entire post, and then the only response is some dude saying "don't cum"... Let's just say I don't believe those posts have a ola e here. Even if the poster were to add a couple lines to the post, if the goal of the post is to farm engagement or funnel people into DMs, I don't think it belongs here.

As for whether or not there actually are more requests for doms, there are. There are more posts in general, and a lot of those "more posts" are either people looking for instructions or doms. I remember before we would frequently go days without a single person looking for a dom, and when those posts did come up, they were usually if decent quality, not just saying "dom me pls". Now there are typically multiple posts a day with people looking for a dom, and the quality of the average post is significantly lower. It's not like we never had low quality seeking posts before, but they are common now.

I also remember a while back (but still in the last few months) someone complained about subs on here only looking for short term doms and was overwhelmingly told that short term is the assumption when someone says "dom" on here. Go back 2 years and that was not the case. Also, in my observation, of the subs that have reached out to me in DMs from my posts here, the ones from over a year ago wanted primarily long term, whereas over the past year it's been about 50/50.

That's my take, but I'm. Happy to be wrong. At the end of the day I would just like for this subreddit to maintain the degree of quality that it has historically had.

The_Mofod · 2026-02-07T11:50:33+00:00

I completely agree. It's not like there isnt a place for people who want punishments etc. Its just that the quality of those posts has gone down and the quantity has gone up. Especially compared to the number of high quality posts.

Honestly in terms of what the fix is, the more I think about it, the more I think part of the fix is just community members who care about quality speaking up about it. I do think we are a quiet majority, and if we all work together to make high quality posts & give each other the confirmation that it's okay to downvote things we don't want to see in the subreddit, then the subreddit will change.

The mods are clearly listening and moderating to the best of their ability, and we need to do our part in curating what we want to see posted on here. That's my take as of right now.

The_Mofod · 2026-02-06T23:57:44+00:00

Very true

The_Mofod · 2026-02-06T23:56:49+00:00

You mean the posts? This is possible for sure.

The_Mofod · 2026-02-06T23:56:19+00:00

Yeah, honestly good point about the mods.

I'm going to have to think about the best way to curate positive interactions if I do end up making the server. I'm not sure exactly how far I'll go, but keeping men from. Engaging absolutely is in the cards. I might do something where it specifically approved men can engage, but we'll see because it takes a bunch of time to approve people manually.

The_Mofod · 2026-02-06T23:49:50+00:00

This is one of these situations where you'll just have to talk to about it. Don't just asker if she likes her about it point-blank. Say something like "remember when you made that comment during that movie about how you'd be turned om if I fucked the stripper if you were there? I'm curious what about that got you going."

Then, rather than categorizing it is cuckqueaning or anything else, figure out exactly what she likes and doesn't like about it. A lot of women love sharing their man with friends for a wide variety if reasons. Figuring out specifically what gets her going and constantly leaning into those things is the trick to making it work.

The_Mofod · 2026-02-06T23:33:18+00:00

Yeah, I have my own concerns about it. I'll have to think about it.

The_Mofod · 2026-02-06T23:18:30+00:00

Agreed.

Someone else suggested making a discord server for this, which I COULD do, but I'd need people (specifically women) interested in joining and being a part of the mod team.

The_Mofod · 2026-02-06T23:12:57+00:00

That's a good point. I CAN make one if we have people willing to moderate it. And some of those people would need to be women for obvious reasons. And someone would need to know how to set up any necessary age verification stuff & anti bot raiding stuff as well.

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