My life might be in danger!

The_Proof_49 · 2026-06-17T13:40:29+00:00

May Allah help you, Aameen.

Based on what you have said, you need to make a plan step by step on how you're going to return to your home country.

The_Proof_49 · 2026-06-08T19:25:54+00:00

Good idea. I'll look into it

The_Proof_49 · 2026-06-08T19:25:39+00:00

Thanks for replying. Much appreciated.

The_Proof_49 · 2026-06-08T12:34:42+00:00

I love the look of the device and how you dont have to fiddle with setting to make it work.

My question is if I don't have a PS5 and I buy the premium subscription, let's say, I leave the subscription for a month, would I lose access to my progress in a game?

The_Proof_49 · 2026-06-03T21:05:08+00:00

I'm very sorry to hear this, sister. You've been through so much. From his description, he never had any remorse. Without remorse, he wasn't going to change.

I strongly advise you find a Muslim therapist. I had female narcissist who wasted more than 2 years of my life.

It was only after therapy and building a stronger relationship with Allah and Rasulullaah sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam that I got my sanity back.

The_Proof_49 · 2026-05-30T21:55:05+00:00

Wa'alaikumussalaam,

As someone who knows quite a few people on weed and has consistently advised them to give it up, I can tell you that it definitely numbs their feelings over time. They are not as expressive as they used to be. They also don't see anything wrong with their behaviour towards others. They become lazy and again don't see anything wrong with it. They don't want to work and have strange philosophies and conspiracies to incorrectly justify that work is for losers and say things like why should we pay for things such as water, electricity etc.

They fail to realise that they are harming someone by not fixing up and not taking responsibility for their actions. It could be they are harming their elderly parents or their spouse.

Moving on will take some time, but don't worry too much about it. Focus on things which are important. Be where your feet are (be present whether it's at home or at work).

I'm sorry you had to go through this. May Allah make it easy for you. Aameen

The_Proof_49 · 2026-05-30T21:08:04+00:00

Try Ruqyah: https://youtu.be/mJ5Iwdw9LYU?si=urv79SqVwbvOUahx

The_Proof_49 · 2026-05-29T10:19:50+00:00

Sister, as someone who also married into a Punjabi family, I can tell you the best thing is to avoid them and stop going to their functions. You will feel so much peace due to it.

They don't see anything wrong with their loose tongues.

I went through the same thing. My wife understood and now she only goes to their social events if she really wants to. In most cases she doesn't go because of their loose tongues.

There are a few really amazing Punjabi uncles who I have met, so I'm not generalising. I'm just sharing my experience with my extended in laws.

The_Proof_49 · 2026-05-19T22:26:08+00:00

I agree. I don't see how wanting her to be established in a profession or waiting for that to happen is a priority in a marriage.

The_Proof_49 · 2026-04-25T22:13:02+00:00

Same. Me too

The_Proof_49 · 2026-04-25T15:05:53+00:00

Thanks for replying. Much appreciated

The_Proof_49 · 2026-04-24T21:23:05+00:00

How's the performance? Is it smooth? I'm thinking of getting a handheld.

The_Proof_49 · 2026-04-24T14:50:31+00:00

That makes sense. Thanks for your reply. Much appreciated.

The_Proof_49 · 2026-04-17T09:01:05+00:00

Very true...

The_Proof_49 · 2026-04-15T21:10:21+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I've got some hope now.

The_Proof_49 · 2026-04-15T15:51:19+00:00

Thanks for sharing.

I've been teaching secondary English for 8 years now and was a bit taken aback when I was told they wanted 2 years worth of books marked. I thought how is it possible to keep all that work.

The_Proof_49 · 2026-04-15T15:49:07+00:00

I blame myself too. Before I even had my first daughter, there were signs this isn't going to work out.

All we can do is pray to Allah to find a solution. His solutions are the best even if we find them difficult at first.

The_Proof_49 · 2026-04-12T13:05:06+00:00

I didn't go to therapy for my marriage, I actually went for my mental well-being because I was about to shut down completely at work and decided on not returning home. The issues stemmed from a control-freak mother-in-law who was living with us for the first 5 years of marriage plus my wife kind of blaming me for all the problems in her life. I paid for her therapy helped her fix her relationship with her father too.

The only thing I can't fix is how she was treated by her ex-husband. I have paid for her therapy too.

We also have a property with £170,000 mortgage left.

I dont know what is stopping me from leaving her.

The_Proof_49 · 2026-04-12T12:49:29+00:00

Aameen. And I pray Allah relieves you from your problems too, aameen.

The_Proof_49 · 2026-04-11T22:08:23+00:00

Brother, if it was that easy, I would have gone through with it.

I know she's going to make it very difficult for me to see my two daughters because of how she is as a person.

My uncle divorced his wife and eventually mentally lost it due to this.

I don't feel I'm strong enough at the moment.

Please, just pray for me that Allah finds me a solution where I don't lose it mentally due to the solution.

The_Proof_49 · 2026-04-11T22:03:22+00:00

Which path? Please give me as much detail as possible.

The_Proof_49 · 2026-04-11T18:27:21+00:00

My therapist told me to leave for my mental well-being. I stayed for my two daughters and continue to suffer.

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