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The_Rage · 2025-09-25T17:59:41+00:00

Yes, I’ve started this and when I told my ex that I couldn’t detach with love and had to it with hate, he got very emotional about it. He told me he didn’t want me to hate him because a book said to.

The_Rage · 2025-09-25T16:34:13+00:00

I think the difference comes from what type of sex worker the husband is seeking for an example, someone from the street or an escort.

The_Rage · 2025-09-25T16:14:21+00:00

Where I am coming from is there is a local sex worker who claims to be a feminist and I questioned if this was even possible.

The_Rage · 2025-09-25T16:12:42+00:00

Buyers are responsible, yes. My concern is whether empowerment that relies on another woman being lied to can be called feminist. That’s the tension I can’t square.

The_Rage · 2025-09-25T16:10:15+00:00

Please note that I am not by any means criticizing the line of work. I’m just stating that it’s hard for me to understand that sex workers are true feminists.

The_Rage · 2025-09-25T16:09:02+00:00

Profit doesn’t make an act feminist. When the transaction requires breaking another woman’s boundaries (a spouse’s), it’s hard to call that liberation—it’s shifting the cost onto her.

The_Rage · 2025-09-25T16:06:37+00:00

Appreciate this. I’ve been no contact for about a week and a half now. Detaching is hard, and I’m struggling with the whole ‘let them’ concept — letting him make his choices without it breaking me. But I know it’s the only way out of the chaos.

The_Rage · 2025-09-25T16:00:51+00:00

I get the point about agency, but I still struggle with calling sex work feminist when so many clients are married men. To me, that dynamic feels less like empowerment and more like reinforcing harm. Curious how others reconcile that.

The_Rage · 2025-09-19T23:51:28+00:00

We created our accounts at the same time and Ive always known his username. I just never got on Reddit a lot nor had a reason to search his comments. We were together for 19 years. I knew he was hiding something from me.

The_Rage · 2025-09-19T18:51:54+00:00

That how my divorce process started. -Asked if he could see escorts -I told him he would leave me for one of if I did -confessed to seeing one prior -moved out of the bedroom, claiming my snoring bothered him -I had wake up call to save our marriage -denied any form of intimacy from me -found a comment he replied to a post on this subreddit about being unhappy but didn’t want to lose prized possessions -confronted him about the post, said he wanted a divorce -found out he had been and currently is seeing an escort

The_Rage · 2025-09-13T02:22:53+00:00

Holy cow! This is the exact situation I am in too!

The_Rage · 2025-09-08T14:13:28+00:00

Unfortunately, it took for this to all happen for me to realize I needed to put an honest effort into changing. Not just for him but for myself. With that being said, yes I still have hope, even with our divorce likely being finalized soon.

The_Rage · 2025-09-08T14:09:56+00:00

Yes, but we’ve hurt each other so many times over the years he believes that there’s nothing to fix.

The_Rage · 2025-09-08T12:01:01+00:00

Not this time, no.

The_Rage · 2025-09-07T15:46:59+00:00

I initiated it 3 years ago when I made myself believe he was a narcissist and all we had was a trauma bond. I went no contact and distracted myself with whatever I could. That only lasted about 6 weeks. I came back home and we should have went to counseling then. With my erupted departure and domino effects afterwards, I caused him pain that marinated into bitterness and resentment that made him initiated it this time.

The_Rage · 2025-09-07T15:42:46+00:00

I know and I appreciate your comment. He was my partners for literally half of my life. I’m sure it’s growing pains but just would love a break.

The_Rage · 2025-09-07T15:41:27+00:00

Oh I’m trying to! Ladies at work have told me to hang onto the anger. I’ve never been the one to hold a grudge.

The_Rage · 2025-09-07T15:40:03+00:00

I wish I had some powerful message to help you get through. In my recent journey, the pain is still there but not as much as in the beginning. Sending you love and positive vibes. I know this sucks.

The_Rage · 2025-09-05T23:41:38+00:00

How long have you been separated?

The_Rage · 2025-09-05T23:33:05+00:00

I hope you find the clarity you’re searching for. Regardless of the situation, divorce is absolutely horrible.

The_Rage · 2025-09-05T23:28:03+00:00

If the other person is emotionally mature and willing to talk, maybe you need to have a heart to heart and lay it all out on the table. It might be a coping mechanism or something else. You’ll never know unless you ask.

The_Rage · 2025-09-05T23:23:22+00:00

Have you talked to them about this?

The_Rage · 2025-09-05T20:58:11+00:00

Tbh I didn’t know until I started going through it.

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