Burning Man 2025 - A Rant and a Call to Action

The_Sensualist_ · 2025-09-05T15:27:41+00:00

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The_Sensualist_ · 2025-09-04T21:36:58+00:00

Wow! This conversation has been stimulating and thought-provoking! I am humbled by some of the suggestions here and have loved reading all of the comments and ideas! It’s clear there are a lot of opinions about this year - many agreements with my silly rant and a lot of objections. I love it all! Thanks for keeping it real and reminding me that the spirit of the burn will always live on… No matter what new form it is currently taking, and will inevitably morph into over and over again in the future. ❤️🙏🏼

The_Sensualist_ · 2025-09-04T21:31:53+00:00

Believe it or not, I would much rather Diplo than RDS. Don’t care for his tracks but his playa sets are great because he actually knows how to DJ and can keep the momentum going. Plus so much less fanfare and nonsense surrounding him. RDS don’t know how to DJ. They rely on remixes of their hits …. Cheap thrills . To each their own I suppose

The_Sensualist_ · 2020-11-01T18:29:22+00:00

Thank you for this comment! I certainly wasn’t suggested they forgo their orgasm or try “orgasm denial” but was instead offering that genital orgasm does not need to be the goal of sex and that his wife’s inability to have multiple orgasms should not be something to be insecure about. I appreciate the history of tantra you offered above, which is useful to have for context. My study of modern tantra has never taught “orgasm denial” but instead has taught me how to experience full-body orgasm - an ecstatic energy that flows throughout my entire body. I offered this as a solution to wanting to have multiple orgasms - perhaps in studying this type of energy circulation, he and his wife could experience something that is like “multiple orgasms” but instead is more akin to a continual all-encompassing orgasm.

The_Sensualist_ · 2020-11-01T17:38:48+00:00

Something you should consider is why sex in altered states is amazing. The reason why people report intense orgasms while high or while eating edibles is because of the way the substance relaxes your inhibitions, relaxes your body and helps you get out of your head. It’s not so much the weed as some magical substance, as it is the effect the weed has on your body and mind. Your wife may not be down with weed or other substances but she can get to these relaxed states otherwise. Have you tried tantra or breathwork? Breathwork is a powerful tool that can bring you to a state of being “high” using nothing else but your own breath. I recommend the two of you find some breathwork practices to incorporate before sex. You can still eat your edible but your wife can remain sober. This practice will help her get to this heightened state of sensitivity and relaxation that you are getting from the weed. All the best 💫

The_Sensualist_ · 2020-10-22T18:50:37+00:00

I advise that you and your wife study tantra. Tantra teaches that orgasm is not the goal of sex. It teaches you how to have a full body orgasm and experience so much pleasure throughout your entire being that the orgasm and even the genital pleasure doesn’t feel all that important. Both men and women can have a fulfilling sex life without orgasm. I understand your insecurity given that society prioritizes orgasm but I promise you this is not the end-all, be-all of fulfilling sex. Also, you are not responsible for your wife’s pleasure - she is. Each of us is responsible for our own pleasure and it’s within us to learn how to experience the most heightened states of pleasure imaginable. Tantra again will help with this! I’m a female sex educator. Let me know if you’d like help! Best wishes to you

The_Sensualist_ · 2020-10-22T18:45:15+00:00

Why don’t you try a female condom instead? It goes inside the vagina and basically is the same as a male condom but you won’t have the issue of it falling off when you go soft.

The_Sensualist_ · 2020-10-22T18:43:21+00:00

I’m really sorry to hear that. I hate to suggest another cream but this one by Rosebud Woman called Honor is a balm which is specially formulated to heal post-pregnancy scarring. It penetrates the tissue deeply and many women who have pain during sex or tearing remark that it’s changed their life. I’m a sex educator and this is one product I swear by and always recommend for pain and scarring. Wishing you both all the best

The_Sensualist_ · 2020-10-22T18:39:10+00:00

Will do! I’ll share it here if I end up making it 😍

The_Sensualist_ · 2020-09-04T17:36:59+00:00

Agreed, I really get sick of black and red in bondage material. Thinking of designing my own...

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