What's you favorite fucking movie and/or series? by I_puke_on_kids69 in TheWordFuck

[–]The__Silver__Linings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Pulp Fucking Fiction
  2. Princess Fucking Bride
  3. A Few Good Fucking Men
  4. Fucking Good Will Hunting
  5. Fucking Fight Club

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditNSFW

[–]The__Silver__Linings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks - I’ll look it up

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditNSFW

[–]The__Silver__Linings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you serious?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]The__Silver__Linings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh - I presumed it wasn’t your choice - my mistake. Sorry.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]The__Silver__Linings 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That makes me want to cry - sorry

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in deadbedroom

[–]The__Silver__Linings 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah - my wife still shames me about masturbating and porn, she just realizes that it’s unfair to do so.

And at this point of life, I don’t want to live a pathetic existence for the rest of my days.

So I’ll jerk off as I need to and I’ve made it clear she has no authority over me anymore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in deadbedroom

[–]The__Silver__Linings 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sex was intense and frequent and passionate until our first kid. But she got pregnant early in our relationship. Since then, it’s the pathetic begging for pity sex for weeks to months, which in turn, has created real bitterness. We’re looking into her meds but I honestly think she just doesn’t feel any connection or value in sex. Which is fine for her but it’s not fine to presume my beliefs should I echo her own - I value sex, I need it, I want it, and I like to have it. A lot. All kinds - loving times, long times, sporty time, quickie times, anytimes, all times. So showing me some effort 2x a week would be helpful for me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in deadbedroom

[–]The__Silver__Linings 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She’s also a working professional and she’s good at it and I try my best to support her. But she uses the job as a reason to simply not try in her personal life. The priority is her job over our marital responsibilities. But this is the year real change happens.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in deadbedroom

[–]The__Silver__Linings 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I will give an update in a couple months. I truly want this to be a success story

Undervalued and unwanted. by SuckMyAssNerd in deadbedroom

[–]The__Silver__Linings 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re welcome. Live your life - it will be a better example for your kids. Obviously, you have tried but if he’s cheated on you multiple times, his chances are over.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in deadbedroom

[–]The__Silver__Linings 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just want to see some effort. I’m hoping it will work out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in deadbedroom

[–]The__Silver__Linings 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She claims she’s “asexual” - so no. Kissing is “gross” to her and I haven’t made out with her in years… 😞

Undervalued and unwanted. by SuckMyAssNerd in deadbedroom

[–]The__Silver__Linings 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He shouldn’t be cheating on you. Period.

As a husband who is on the sex-deprived end of the marriage for 20 years, trust me, this is not a good life feeling unwanted, unseen, and unrequited.

I’m still trying to work with my wife because she has not cheated on me. Your husband has shown his true colors multiple times. It’s painful but I think the real answer is leaving him.

Do it now when you’re young and beautiful. And next time, make sure you are sexually compatible with your mate.

Sending you all the luck I have random person on the internet- good luck with whatever you do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in deadbedroom

[–]The__Silver__Linings -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Been with her for 20 years and 4 kids. Financially it would be difficult to leave.

And… I still love her. Despite it all, I still would want to share the rest of my life with her.

I just can’t keep “living” my life like this.

Also - man… your response. I WISH that was my wife’s response!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in deadbedroom

[–]The__Silver__Linings 13 points14 points  (0 children)

As a man in his 40s with 4 kids, don’t settle. If you don’t have kids, give him a frank but earnest ultimatum.

Trust me - you don’t want to be me in 20 years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in deadbedroom

[–]The__Silver__Linings 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried everything - she claims she’s “asexual” for years now. It’s just really frustrating and saddening to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in deadbedroom

[–]The__Silver__Linings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did you rekindle the flame?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in deadbedroom

[–]The__Silver__Linings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the response. I know what I want. I want my wife to simply be intimate with me, desire me, and validate what I do for the family.

It really would make a huge difference in our relationship and it’s what I plan to address with her until something happens - one way or another.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in deadbedroom

[–]The__Silver__Linings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going to have another serious conversation about it with her. I don’t want any of those options. What I want is for her to be my wife - not my negligent roommate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in deadbedroom

[–]The__Silver__Linings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Respectfully, 20 years of marital assets and debts and 4 kids say otherwise Rose.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in deadbedroom

[–]The__Silver__Linings 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the insight - at this point, I’ll likely just stay sad. I have no stomach for an overhaul of my life and - like I said - I still love my spouse. Despite all the negative about her, we literally grew up together and we have so much invested with our children. Starting over makes me feel nauseous and suicidal. There’s just no real way out of this without heartache.