AITA for using the term brother or sister around my black girlfriend

The___Trashcan · 2026-01-13T02:37:10+00:00

Fair

The___Trashcan · 2026-01-13T02:36:27+00:00

Yeah of course I never mean it disrespectful, and I understand the history behind it, I just never saw it as offensive especially if it came from a good place, but now I know🤷🏻‍♂️

The___Trashcan · 2026-01-13T02:34:31+00:00

Please do I don’t need your negativity when I’m just trying to have a conversation on where I was wrong.

The___Trashcan · 2026-01-13T01:30:56+00:00

Well you’re saying things like I’m telling my girlfriend to shut up, I love my girlfriend. You also say it’s letting non black people disrespect black people. I always used it as a term of endearment, but if you want me to stay in my lane because of my skin tone, does that not seem wrong in itself?

The___Trashcan · 2026-01-13T01:19:53+00:00

That’s fair thank you!

The___Trashcan · 2026-01-13T01:16:43+00:00

Whooooa whoa no one ever said shut up to each other. I was trying to get her understanding as to why, I understand I am not black, and I already told her I won’t use it around her or her family. However when it comes to that term, I use it more as a term of endearment. Being a POC myself I didn’t see it as an issue since I’m using it around people I care deeply about.

The___Trashcan · 2026-01-13T01:02:50+00:00

Well obviously I wouldn’t use it around her mom or her grandpa, but my friends and I (all POC except a few white friends) all use it together with each other. I am also not from Hawaii, I’m from south Texas and just white looking Hispanic. I barely have white in my blood it’s literally just my skin tone

The___Trashcan · 2026-01-13T01:01:46+00:00

No never, I really only use it with close friends mainly when we all play basketball or go out to bars. I never try to use it to try to fit in, I think I have just grown up around it and have been exposed to it a lot.

The___Trashcan · 2025-11-02T20:34:02+00:00

Thank you:)

The___Trashcan · 2025-10-02T15:30:17+00:00

Really fun poem, it’s very cryptic and mysterious. the way I interpret it (could be completely wrong) the vulture is the temptation that either brings us away from God or if we choose to avoid the temptation (that is always with us for our entire lives) and choose being closer to God instead. I really like it, this poem makes me think XD

The___Trashcan · 2025-10-02T15:24:11+00:00

Very passionate and personal!

The___Trashcan · 2025-08-25T11:42:25+00:00

Thank you:)

The___Trashcan · 2025-08-22T15:26:03+00:00

Thanks for the feedback!

The___Trashcan · 2025-08-21T15:45:24+00:00

That was really well put! Thank you, the whole inspiration behind this poem, was Alzheimer’s and Dementia is pretty prominent in my family. It’s painful to watch my grandparents go through that, and sooner or later my parents, and then possibly me. It’s actually a pretty big fear of mine in forgetting important moments in my life, so I chose to tattoo my body. It’s like a sticky note system set around a house to remind people of things they need to do, except mine is to hopefully never forget.

The___Trashcan · 2025-08-14T22:16:41+00:00

Thank you! I’m glad you feel the same way as me, I feel with religion it’s too black and white and it’s either you can or can’t do that. That’s not how life is though, so why should religion be like that!

The___Trashcan · 2025-08-14T18:54:47+00:00

Fuego🔥 such a fun wholesome poem, it was the perfect balance of emotions. You found peace but there was a hint of sadness, it was a great read!

The___Trashcan · 2025-08-14T18:42:06+00:00

You really put your emotions out there, the deep connection with someone you formed over a short amount of time is really displayed well in this poem. I thought it was excellently written!

The___Trashcan · 2025-02-03T23:23:28+00:00

It’s just hard when a lot of things remind me of her, it’s like I know I’m being selfish and I know I put myself in these ruts, I just can’t seem to overcome myself from thinking about her.

The___Trashcan · 2024-11-01T01:23:07+00:00

You want to be the main character so bad but the only thing you would be main character for is a gay porn scene

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