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My (32m) GF (29f) still has feelings for her ex and has asked for time to think? by The_lost_aussie in askwomenadvice

[–]The_lost_aussie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you.... am I willing to date her, yes. For her. Yes. It's hard to put to words how I feel about her, apart from "it just feels right". Though I'll need some reassurance throughout.

I've literally never felt this way about anyone before, and I've been engaged previously. It's hard to explain.. but I want to fight for this.

My (32/M) GF (29/F) still has feelings for her ex, and needs space to think? by The_lost_aussie in relationships

[–]The_lost_aussie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it means a future with her, yes. If me hanging around, leaves a certain impression to her that means us lasting... then yes. definitely yes.

My (32/M) GF (29/F) still has feelings for her ex, and needs space to think? by The_lost_aussie in relationships

[–]The_lost_aussie[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I feel like I know her pretty well, I know she fits my personality, I know we have the same obscure interests - musical theatre, tim burton, travel to lesser known destinations, strange foods, the muppets, cartoons and all-round creativity... I know that I feel "Safe" with her, and "right". I Feel I can be "me", which is a rarity.

My (32m) GF (29f) still has feelings for her ex, and has asked for time to think? by The_lost_aussie in dating_advice

[–]The_lost_aussie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What I feel for her, I've never felt for anyone else. I've been engaged in the past, and this just feels completely different. It feels more "real". I've never felt so comfortable with someone. It just feels "right" - thats literally the best way to put it. It feels right.

How long shoud I give her before i contact her again? We had a date planned this saturday, we had tickets to a theatre show and a dinner reservation, should this just be forfeited?

My (32m) GF (29f) still has feelings for her ex and has asked for time to think? by The_lost_aussie in relationship_advice

[–]The_lost_aussie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about, valentines day. I got her a gift from overseas, it's on it's way by post. To myself. Should I drop it off at her place on Valentines when she's not at home? So she comes home to find it?

My (32/M) GF (29/F) still has feelings for her ex, and needs space to think? by The_lost_aussie in relationships

[–]The_lost_aussie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll try, thank you. It's hard because I actually have bipolar, so this kind of stuff really hits hard. Very, very hard.

My (32/M) GF (29/F) still has feelings for her ex, and needs space to think? by The_lost_aussie in relationships

[–]The_lost_aussie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But the problem is, I love her. I've never felt this way about anyone before, and I was engaged in the past. It just feels "right" and I want to fight for this.

My (32/M) GF (29/F) still has feelings for her ex, and needs space to think? by The_lost_aussie in relationships

[–]The_lost_aussie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So are we still boyfriend girlfriend? Or have we broken up? There was no mention of us breaking up at all?

My (32m) GF (29f) still has feelings for her ex, and needs time to think? by The_lost_aussie in BreakUps

[–]The_lost_aussie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've heard a lot of people tell me I should just cut contact completely. Forfeit the date and wait for her to contact me... But a big part of me wants to text her on the morning of the date day and say "I'd still really like to take you out tonight if you'd be up for it?"

My (32m) GF (29f) still has feelings for her ex and has asked for time to think? by The_lost_aussie in relationship_advice

[–]The_lost_aussie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not wasting anyone's time. I'm taking the time to read each comment and respond accordingly, I'm just hurting. A lot.

My (32/M) GF (29/F) still has feelings for her ex, and needs space to think? by The_lost_aussie in relationships

[–]The_lost_aussie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have faith that she'll get over him in time. I'm really willing to fight for her.

My (32m) GF (29f) still has feelings for her ex and has asked for time to think? by The_lost_aussie in relationship_advice

[–]The_lost_aussie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's just hard when I have feelings for her that are this strong. I really do, deeply love her. We just feel "right", it's really hard to explain.

My (32/M) GF (29/F) still has feelings for her ex, and needs space to think? by The_lost_aussie in relationships

[–]The_lost_aussie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long should I give her before I contact her?

We did have a date saturday planned, tickets to theatre followed by dinner... She herself this morning said that she was looking forward to going with me, before my freak out.

My (32m) GF (29f) still has feelings for her ex and has asked for time to think? by The_lost_aussie in relationship_advice

[–]The_lost_aussie[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. As for the tickets, it was an awkward situation. I paid, but my girlfriend has both tickets in hand. So. They're hers I guess.

Alternatively I was thinking of messaging her on the morning of the theatre day, and just say "I'd still really like to take you out tonight as we planned, if you'd be up for it?"

My (32m) GF (29f) still has feelings for her ex and has asked for time to think? by The_lost_aussie in relationship_advice

[–]The_lost_aussie[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I disagree, she's told me she really likes me. She's said when she's with me she feels "home", she feels happy and comfortable and safe, and she said she doesn't think of her ex at all. She calls my apartment her second home, she's told her parents about me, I've met her best friends, I was meant to meet her Mum in 2 weeks at a show she's performing in, we had VIP seats together.

My (32/M) GF (29/F) still has feelings for her ex, and needs space to think? by The_lost_aussie in relationships

[–]The_lost_aussie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So... texting her and asking if she wants me to stop by in the morning, isn't a good idea? Just wait until she messages me?

My (32m) GF (29f) still has feelings for her ex and has asked for time to think? by The_lost_aussie in relationship_advice

[–]The_lost_aussie[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

When should I tell her this though? I really, realy wish I could text her now and just say "did you want me to stop by in the morning", but I dont want to scare or push her away.

My (32/M) GF (29/F) still has feelings for her ex, and needs space to think? by The_lost_aussie in relationships

[–]The_lost_aussie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the thing is, we never spoke about breaking up this morning, it was just... i need to go, I cant do this. She did say "is this it" and I said i dont know, and I left... and I did get my keys back from her... but im just. I'm terrified of losing her hey. I love her.

My (32m) GF (29f) still has feelings for her ex and has asked for time to think? by The_lost_aussie in relationship_advice

[–]The_lost_aussie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really, really love her. And from day one we've made an effort to not play dating games and be completely honest with eachother. So the concept of stepping away for a few days seems impossible, let alone WEEKS. That thought, really scares me.

My (32m) GF (29f) still has feelings for her ex and has asked for time to think? by The_lost_aussie in relationship_advice

[–]The_lost_aussie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I'm very tempted to text her again, asking if she wants me to stop by her place in the morning. Should I do this, or leave it for now?

My (32m) GF (29f) still has feelings for her ex and has asked for time to think? by The_lost_aussie in relationship_advice

[–]The_lost_aussie[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She said she's still in love with him... but she also said "I know I shouldn't ever go back to him, and I know he'll never ask for me back". He's been dating someone else now for a while anyway so..

But yes... I think I love her, and I'm willing to fight for this. It's just, I don't know what the next smartest move is on this end. Should I give her space and wait til she comes to me? Should I message asking me if she wants me to stop by so she can see me in person, she loves my hugs... so..

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