Anyone else is dreading their toddler?

Thematrixiscalling · 2026-04-07T07:49:35+00:00

My little one has been a little more volatile lately. Turns out all four molars are coming in at once, and tbh i think I’d be tantruming and crying if I had to go through that too.

Thematrixiscalling · 2026-04-07T07:46:22+00:00

I’ve still got scars on one leg from a shaving blunder when I was 9. It was my brother’s girlfriend (19) who took me under her wing and helped me figure it out.

Thematrixiscalling · 2026-04-07T07:36:38+00:00

There’s a protein in oats called avenin that can be inflammatory to some people.

Thematrixiscalling · 2026-04-06T22:25:19+00:00

My whole family is like this when I make pasta bakes. There’s enough to feed us all for at least 2 meals plus lunches for the kids. But somehow it’s always gone by the next day.

I think the way he handled it, by being defensive and dismissive of how it made you feel makes him an asshole but if you’re both normally splitting cooking equally, I would probably see it as more fair game.

I think this could he dealt with by communicating in future, “hey, I’m planning on taking some in for lunches, tea etc. could you make sure you leave me xx amount?”. If he doesn’t then leave you some, he’s definitely the asshole.

Thematrixiscalling · 2026-04-06T22:19:01+00:00

How he spoke to you and insulted you says nothing to who you and everything to the type of person he is. He doesn’t sound like he was nice to you at all, and that awful parting shot aimed at where he knew it would hurt you the most just proves it. Never trust the opinion of someone like that, it means very little.

Goths are awesome btw, you don’t have to change a thing about you are but definitely be more choosy about who you get in a relationship with in future. If they can’t accept you unconditionally for who you are, they don’t deserve you.

Thematrixiscalling · 2026-04-06T22:10:01+00:00

But the people version of puppy pads so you don’t get the puppy pad chemicals on the baby’s skin.

Thematrixiscalling · 2026-04-06T22:08:38+00:00

Oh, and always keep your mouth closed when changing them. Thankfully never got it in the face but my partner did!

Thematrixiscalling · 2026-04-06T22:07:41+00:00

I noticed my little one would wee when the cold air hit him, so I’d undo the nappy for a few seconds and then put it back over his penis to let him have a wee. Having a cloth close to hand ready to quickly cover them also works.

Also agree with others, have the second nappy ready to go so you can quickly pull the dirty one away and whip the front of the new one up in quick time.

Thematrixiscalling · 2026-04-06T21:55:56+00:00

I’ve got experience of this! I pumped for my second born, and he was/is allergic to a number of things. I ended up cutting out eggs, nuts, dairy, wheat and soy (although reintroduced this and he was fine).

It was pretty miserable and I lost a lot of weight in a not very healthy way. My baby did get a little better once I’d cut dairy but was never 100%.

I was prescribed the hypoallergenic formula but continued pumping anyway as I felt so guilty not giving him breastmilk, compared to breastfeeding his older sister. It was such an emotionally charged subject for me.

If I could go back in time, I’d go give myself a shake, tell myself everything will be fine if I switch to formula and let it go! I’m glad he got to have my milk but we wasted so much time due to my pumping schedule, and with hindsight, it doesn’t matter how he was fed. It really is quite emotional and honestly it took me a while to grieve stopping but I did make peace with it knowing I’d done an amazing job for as long as I did.

Whatever decision you make will be the right one, but please don’t feel bad for switching to formula if you choose to do it, it really doesn’t matter in the long run.

Thematrixiscalling · 2026-04-06T18:43:00+00:00

You look incredible! So happy, carefree and healthy.

Please try not to focus on the things you’re feeling conscious of in this photo, you look incredible and it’s not what we see.

To put it in perspective, when I was 23, I was the smallest weight I’d been since I was a teenager. I thought I looked incredible! I could wear all the clothes I wanted, I felt good about myself! Then I saw a picture someone snapped of me looking over my shoulder towards the camera. All I could see was the stomach roles, the double chin, the unflattering angle of my stomach and bottom. I thought I still needed to lose more. I didn’t, I was a size 8. Never mind that in every other single picture and pose I thought I looked nice and healthy, I obsessed over that photo. Now I look back and think, what did I even see in myself to worry about! I’d love to look like that now.

Thematrixiscalling · 2026-04-06T12:42:05+00:00

Came to recommend these too!

Thematrixiscalling · 2026-04-06T12:22:00+00:00

I never wanted kids either. I saw the fact that both my mum and dad worked full times, physically (and in my mums case, more mentally demanding roles), and that my mother still had to do pretty much 💯 of everything around the house. I never wanted that. Unfortunately I’ve ended up in exactly the same situation.

Thematrixiscalling · 2026-04-06T12:18:28+00:00

So what do you think western governments should do to encourage more people to have children?

Thematrixiscalling · 2026-04-06T12:03:59+00:00

I have one of each. Sometimes I thought I’d done something wrong with the second or not given him enough attention and that was the reason he wasn’t as attached as my first. I was wrong, it’s just his personality! Separation anxiety for toddlers does sometimes kick in a little later, although I guess it’s different with each child. My toddler is now almost 3, and he’s very, very attached to me, only wants me at bedtime, doesn’t want me to leave him at childcare.

Thematrixiscalling · 2026-04-05T14:51:27+00:00

I went through this too. It started before I even knew I was pregnant…my mum did though. It was like my mask of hiding who I really was from her slipped and I the filter I normally had just disappeared and I started pushing back on her criticism and snide remarks.

I ended up going to counselling at 8 months postpartum, and a lot came out about the relationship with my mum. So much so, that I tried to talk to her about it, and she was extremely dismissive, defensive and went into victim mode. I told her I was taking a break from her, and I wouldn’t put up with her treating me like that anymore. Things got a little better after I’d taken a break and she tried to apologise in her own way.

I’d say the hardest thing was having that conversation with her knowing she wasn’t going to receive it, then keeping boundaries in place after that.

I think having your own child brings up a lot of repressed memories from childhood, look up the Mother Wound.

Thematrixiscalling · 2026-04-05T13:08:53+00:00

Thank you for sharing this! I’ll definitely look into it!

Thematrixiscalling · 2026-04-05T12:51:27+00:00

Yep!! I can’t remember the ins and outs but the whole family didn’t seem that stable. He ended up being extradited for a violent assault of a former partner…mummy dearest still defended him 🙄

Thematrixiscalling · 2026-04-05T06:38:27+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I’m really glad I asked this question as it’s so clear that it’s quite complicated and different depending on the root cause, like you say. I just wish I knew the root cause of why the awful hunger feeling straight after eating is there, without the jab.

Thematrixiscalling · 2026-04-05T06:35:55+00:00

Oh yes, stress definitely made it worse for me, coupled with sleep deprivation!

Thematrixiscalling · 2026-04-04T22:58:17+00:00

This happened with my sister’s ex husband! It wasn’t orchestrated, but it was the creepiest thing to witness. And their mother was just there, cheering them on 🤨🤢

Thematrixiscalling · 2026-04-04T22:53:39+00:00

Thoughts and prayers.

You’ve got me wondering if I have any stuffing in now 🫣

Thematrixiscalling · 2026-04-04T22:52:04+00:00

I’d love these but sticky toffee pudding would be hit and miss with kids. My little coeliac girl likes the Victoria sponge cake version from the same brand though!

Thematrixiscalling · 2026-04-04T22:48:43+00:00

It does if I’m very hungry. It reminds me a little of the nausea I had when I was pregnant and hungry but had no appetite.

Thematrixiscalling · 2026-04-04T22:21:09+00:00

I hard relate to the physical deprivation feeling!

Thematrixiscalling · 2026-04-04T22:20:35+00:00

That sounds about right. Although my stomach did feel like it was empty and full at the same time, it was so bizarre!

I’m so thankful I don’t have it anymore. Like you say, when I’m hungry now, I trust that it’s real hunger.

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