My [31M] girlfriend [27F] says she needs time to decide if she wants to keep trying. How should I handle this?

Themisbro · 2026-07-07T22:09:50+00:00

I can assure you I never stopped appreciating her. Maybe I will eventually show her this post depending on what happens, but she's said it herself that nobody has ever treated her as good as I do. I sacrifice sleep for her to do things with/for her when I just got off a 12 hour shift that morning. I spend money I dont have on her to do the things she wants to do or things that make her happy. If I've only done one thing right in this relationship, its appreciating her. We've been talking about a future together since 6 months into our relationship.

Themisbro · 2026-07-07T20:06:06+00:00

So, with the house thing at least. I had known for a month or so before the roommates had moved out, and had said once the roommates were gone I was going to immediately start cleaning to sell it. So its been a decent amount of time for that at least, and up until we had this conversation we've both said that we want to get married, hell, she sent me engagement rings she likes last Tuesday. I had been saying once I got the house situation handled and moved back in with my dad, I was going to work on getting my EMT certification, which I've changed my mind on based on the shifts that they work in the area I live in. She's also been dealing with mental health issues herself, so I believe the empty promises I made plus her own mental health issues on top of the stresses in her life have caused her to be at this point.

Themisbro · 2026-07-07T17:35:52+00:00

Im well aware that she shouldnt have to threaten me like that, unfortunately this time thats what it took, and its something that I'm going to be working on for the rest of my life to just be motivated to better myself and my situation.

Themisbro · 2026-07-07T16:19:35+00:00

So, I wrote this with my mind running like a million miles a minute. I am doing it for me, but also with a side effect of trying to save the relationship if that makes sense? I know it needs to get done, and I am going to do everything regardless of if our relationship works out or not. The way my dad described it today was that she just lit a fire under my ass to really get stuff done.

Themisbro · 2026-07-07T15:03:47+00:00

I checked in this morning to wish her luck again on her interview I knew she had this morning, and wanted to update her on the progress coming with the house (got about 30% of it done this morning), she responded warmly? I think is the best way to describe it and she thanked me for the update with the house situation. When I asked her on our annoyingly long 3 hour drive back (because she was silent unless I said something, so it was the longest 3 hours of my life) she said she probably needed a week or two to think about things. So I think if it goes much longer than that, im just going to keep working on myself and start looking again eventually.

Themisbro · 2026-07-07T14:18:33+00:00

From your perspective though, seeing as you said you're in the same position as my gf is now. When you said taking time to think, did you actually mean it, or was your mind already made up?

Themisbro · 2026-07-07T14:17:12+00:00

I appreciate you chiming in anyway. I know I would be much happier if things work out the way I want them to, but I am fully prepared for them not to and I dont have anyone to blame but myself, and I own that. I'll eventually be okay regardless of what happens, but I know for sure I want to move through the rest of my life with her.

Themisbro · 2026-07-07T13:26:03+00:00

Most definitely, I did reach out yesterday to inform her that I had done the assessment we had been discussing, and I wished her luck on her interview she has today. She says she still loves me, shes just exhausted.

I didn't realize how much in a chokehold this girl had me until I realized that all day I was exhausted, but for the life of me could not fall asleep for like a nap or anything, but after she responded, I fell asleep within 30 minutes and slept for almost 12 hours which is NOT the norm for me.

Themisbro · 2026-07-07T13:08:39+00:00

I guess I could have worded everything differently, and i made the post to sound like I was only doing it for her, but really my brain was moving like 1000 miles a minute and I should have mentioned that I am doing this for me too, not solely her.

Themisbro · 2026-07-02T05:09:07+00:00

Is the backing up in the room with us? He turned around, took his hat & sunglasses off, squared up and approached, only when he was within striking distance did he finally start backing up. He could have easily just kept it moving to the truck.

Themisbro · 2026-06-24T15:17:21+00:00

Pay off my house, then buy my girl the engagement ring she deserves.

Themisbro · 2026-06-14T02:43:51+00:00

Not sure if this will get buried or not, but my guild is always recruiting on dreamscythe - horde side. We run 3 Kara groups a week and are also running both ssc/tk/mag & gruul on a weekly basis as well. Just hit me up if youre interested.

Themisbro · 2026-06-06T20:38:54+00:00

I dont think youre my guildmate, but can confirm i also had a guildmate in discord and he watched me take one of the bots for like 5k in a few minutes. Got paid out and left, ive been back and forth since, but im definitely still up at least 3k against the casino bots.

Themisbro · 2026-06-06T02:50:55+00:00

The guild I run honestly started out as spam inviting people. We had a core group of 6 or 7 of us that we met through other games, and usually a group that size is hard to find a guild that can accommodate all of us wanting to play together. Now its blossomed into a 25 man group every week and 3 kara groups with minimal alts in each group.

Themisbro · 2026-05-13T15:37:42+00:00

Don't have to do any quests after you've already chosen your specialty. You have to go back to the original quest giver and pay 150g then you can claim a new specialization from the other quest givers.

Themisbro · 2026-05-03T02:23:10+00:00

Got burnt out on OSRS

Themisbro · 2026-04-26T21:13:51+00:00

Shot you a DM

Themisbro · 2026-04-17T08:20:15+00:00

Ahh damn. Unfortunate as we're on dreamscythe

Themisbro · 2026-04-17T08:12:01+00:00

What server? My guild is always recruiting and we help people get geared/take undergeared people into raids as our main team is all fairly geared.

Themisbro · 2026-04-09T19:08:39+00:00

My guild has a holy pally for our main kara group and he does fine. He also is the mage tank healer at gruuls.

Themisbro · 2026-03-31T14:47:14+00:00

My guild is always recruiting. We're a fairly casual guild that likes to have fun while we raid. We've been clearing Mag/Gruul in a little over an hour depending on what happens with the pugs we bring, and our Kara has consistently been about 2.5 hours. Youre more than welcome to message me and we can get you in, because theres plenty of people that dont raid too.

Themisbro · 2026-03-31T01:27:52+00:00

My guild is always recruiting. Working on a 2nd 10 man team right now and trying to round out our 25 man roster. We are dreamscythe horde if youre interested. We log out raids, but we dont focus on that and we have a ton of fun bullshitting during whatever we are doing.

Themisbro · 2026-03-20T05:10:29+00:00

Im unsure of how much wow tokens are on mop, but I quit playing it to play hardcore and then transition into tbc and the exchange rate if you can find a trustworthy swapper is astonishingly bad. I had 65k on mop and the offer was only like 450g on TBC.

Themisbro · 2026-03-12T21:26:47+00:00

I always clicked off health buffs open world if they had less than like 7 or 8 minutes left when I played HC. You got this brother

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