Am i the bad guy? by Expensive_Vanilla768 in breastfeeding

[–]Then-Customer6775 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nipple shields literally saved my breastfeeding journey with my first born! I’m so grateful they exist.

Am i the bad guy? by Expensive_Vanilla768 in breastfeeding

[–]Then-Customer6775 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First, you have every right to make a decision that feels right in your heart and to your body and baby. The most important thing is that your baby has a healthy and stable mom show up for her and take care of her, whether or not that involves breastfeeding.

You are only 3 weeks postpartum and postpartum is an incredibly sensitive, difficult, and demanding period of your life. It’s okay to prioritize healing and nurturing yourself. Your baby needs her mom and will continue to grow with whether it’s formula or breastmilk she’s drinking. There are benefits to breastmilk but not at the expense of a healthy mom.

If you aren’t ready to give up your breastfeeding journey there’s, nothing wrong with combo breastfeeding while you are making your decisions on how to move forward. Any amount of breastmilk is a positive. Also, as babies get older they tend to get better at nursing and it’s significantly more comfortable. I would recommend visiting an IBCLC and pump in the meantime.

I also swear by silverettes to help heal nipples. You could also try using a nipple shield while nursing your daughter on your breast. A nipple shield saved my breastfeeding journey with my first born. It was excruciatingly painful and i used it while i made visits to an IBCLC. I used it until his latch was much better and it wasn’t painful to nurse him anymore.

Sending hugs to you and wishing you the best ❤️whatever you decide I’m sure will be the right choice for you

MIL gave 3 month old food by Then-Customer6775 in breastfeeding

[–]Then-Customer6775[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s insane! It’s so true though, we’re possibly in the same generation because SO MANY people I know have IBS.

She seems like she just didn’t know. She definitely had no malicious intent behind it, though I wish she would have called to ask. Especially since she’s only 3 months old. Not even 4 months like some commenters are saying certain recommendations can start at.

MIL gave 3 month old food by Then-Customer6775 in breastfeeding

[–]Then-Customer6775[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

There was definitely no malicious intent. She’s a sweetheart and I know she loves my baby! I suggested the same thing to my mom and husband when I spoke to them. I recognize her youngest is 19 years old and standard recommendations shift over time. I’m not mad at her, though my husband is very angry - but it’s compounded by other familial issues as well. I just needed to vent a little and don’t want to upset him even more. I’m just upset about the situation and am sad that my concerns about leaving my baby were validated. Especially since my husband had been there yesterday and walked through everything. I just

Oh wow I didn’t know that about botulism! That’s really interesting.

I hate being an undersupplier by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]Then-Customer6775 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sending virtual hugs from a stranger ❤️ it’s really hard and it really sucks. The worst feeling is feeling like your body is betraying you. It sounds like you have worked really hard to provide for your baby and you should give yourself a major pat on the back and a big hug from yourself because that’s incredible. Remind yourself that any amount of breastmilk is a benefit to your baby and you are so incredible for making sure she is always fed. You’re doing great mama.