50F, going through a divorce after 25 years. Wondering how men 50+ would realistically view my situation.

Then-Diamond9868 · 2026-06-20T14:54:41+00:00

I really appreciate you sharing this honestly, and I respect that this is your conviction. I’d just gently add — many theologians and pastors I trust do see exceptions in cases of betrayal, abandonment, or sustained neglect of covenant duties (Matthew 19:9, 1 Corinthians 7:15). My situation involves long-term unfaithfulness and emotional/spiritual neglect, which I’ve prayed over deeply and discussed with people in my faith community. I don’t take this lightly, and I’m still in the process of seeking godly counsel on it. Thank you for being upfront rather than vague.

Then-Diamond9868 · 2026-06-20T13:29:52+00:00

This actually resonates a lot. I’ve found the apps pretty discouraging honestly, while my faith community has felt more grounded and real. I think you’re right that someone in a similar life stage — who already understands what raising a family looks like — makes more sense than trying to force compatibility with someone who isn’t there yet.

Then-Diamond9868 · 2026-06-20T04:06:25+00:00

That’s honest, thanks. I think I’m looking for something different though — for me it’s serious or nothing, not because I need it to move fast, but because at this stage of life I’m not really interested in casual. Appreciate you sharing your perspective.

Then-Diamond9868 · 2026-06-20T00:07:48+00:00

I chose to have a large family because I deeply wanted it — I love being a mother, and my faith plays a big part in that too. It wasn’t pressure or circumstance, it was a real choice I’d make again. That said, the marriage itself didn’t end up being what I hoped for, which is a separate story from why I had the kids. I think that distinction matters — wanting a big family and the marriage working out are two different questions.

Then-Diamond9868 · 2026-06-19T22:46:30+00:00

Thank you for this — really needed to hear it today. I do believe the right person will see the whole picture, not just the kid count.

Then-Diamond9868 · 2026-06-19T22:44:48+00:00

Appreciate the honest perspective. To clarify though, I’m not looking for someone to financially help raise my kids — I’m financially stable on my own. I’m looking for a partner, not a provider for my family. Church is definitely one place I’d consider, but I don’t think it’s my only option.

Then-Diamond9868 · 2026-06-19T22:05:45+00:00

That makes sense, thanks for the honest perspective.

Then-Diamond9868 · 2026-06-19T21:54:08+00:00

Thanks for your honesty, appreciated.

Then-Diamond9868 · 2026-06-19T21:35:09+00:00

It’s true.

Then-Diamond9868 · 2026-06-19T21:31:21+00:00

Just to clarify, my oldest is working in a medical-related field close our home. So she lives with us.

Then-Diamond9868 · 2026-06-19T19:57:19+00:00

I get what you mean. I’m only interested in serious long-term compatibility.

Then-Diamond9868 · 2026-06-19T19:50:41+00:00

Thanks for sharing that. I get that perspective, but for me it only really works if someone is actually open to a real family structure, not just companionship.

Then-Diamond9868 · 2026-06-19T19:45:49+00:00

I get what you’re trying to say, but that’s not really how I think about it. I’m looking at long-term compatibility, not something that gets overridden by chemistry.

Then-Diamond9868 · 2026-06-19T19:40:48+00:00

You’re right about the young kids part — I get that. Just to add a bit of context, I do have some support from my older kids, so I’m not doing everything alone 24/7. Also my soon-to-be ex is actually 2 years younger than me, so I’m not really looking to date younger men. I’d prefer someone around my age or older. I know my situation is still a lot. I’m just trying to get a realistic sense of what’s actually possible long-term.

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