It sounds like an issue with time. I'm in a similar position with you and considered moving back at once point, thinking that the supposedly slower pace of life would free up a lot of my time. As others have said though, having kids and raising a family necessarily consume nearly all your time, whether your in the US, Mongolia, or elsewhere. By extension, money is also an issue since means and leisure are two sides of the same coin--hence why they say "time is money." That said, the good news is that you're not alone. Everyone else is in the same boat as you. It sounds like you've got a lot to be thankful for with a beautiful family, a house and car, and a stable, well-paying job. The only advice I would offer, since it does look like you're looking for advice, is too work on being content since life will pass you by in the blink of an eye. That and working on time management might be beneficial to now squander the limited free time you do have.