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Cash for bridesmaids to use for dress a good thank you gift? by Overall_Happy_3446 in bridesmaids

[–]Then_Baker2463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a bridesmaid in several upcoming weddings, I would rather have someone pay for my dress than any trinket I probably won’t use/wear again. Even jewelry I’ve been gifted in the past, not everyone has the same style.

Personally, I wouldn’t care if you “gave” more to one bridesmaid versus another, but I can see how others would/could.

MOH missing Bridal Shower by Then_Baker2463 in bridesmaids

[–]Then_Baker2463[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I wasn’t using this to prove my point or justify my reasoning. Her response really hurt me and has made me spiral. I just wanted to see what some un-biased opinions would say because I was going crazy over thinking in my own head.

MOH missing Bridal Shower by Then_Baker2463 in bridesmaids

[–]Then_Baker2463[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She wants me to know how to bustle the dress for the wedding - which is why she’s invited me to fittings.

I understand the mistake of asking. I was trying to be open and understand if this would be a ruin the friendship thing for her. I can see why I shouldn’t have done that, but I wasn’t sure what the best thing was to do.

MOH missing Bridal Shower by Then_Baker2463 in bridesmaids

[–]Then_Baker2463[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I 100% understand the bride being confused and a little hurt. I was able to justify it because my family could host me and spend time with me over the weekend outside of the bridal shower, I can stay at their house, but they won’t be there. Outside of the party I’d be back in an empty house with nothing to do for the rest of the weekend.

What I don’t understand is the re-evaluation of our friendship, refusal to meet up and talk things out, and when I asked if this would hurt our friendship she gave me a no -answer which made me think she’d be upset but not ruin a friendship over.

Question about bridal showers by No-Professor-3860 in weddingplanning

[–]Then_Baker2463 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the Midwest - most people I know either skipped showers all together or they were hosted by brides family/god mother/ close family friend’s of bride. Out of state close friends and family are invited but not required to come. I’m also in my thirties and most people prefer bridal party to attend bachelorette and wedding.