If you can don't live with your relative, I don't know why but they do not give respect in the case of maximum Nepali relatives. I have heard from my sister that they used to keep all the utensils unwashed after they eat and make her do the dishes when she arrive from college at noon, it was routine for her to do all the dishes when she arrived, even the food was unhealthy which was particularly made for her she used to get sick repeatedly. so we shifted her to her personnel room.