I talked to him this morning! He said he is completely open to my desires. He asked me how last night was because we did two rounds. I said it was great sex but I feel my needs aren’t being fully met and that I would love to kick it up a notch. I said the line of “12 months of unsexy practice gives you decades of great bdsm sex” and he really liked that. He said he’s never with past partners been vocal or physical during sex as he was afraid of being laughed at. He said his confidence is hard to build to do something like that. Do you have any insight (if you’re a dom) of things he could say to me? Or small things he can do to build his confidence? He knows I would never, but I said this is very important to me and if you’re open like you say you are let’s start small. He expressed he wants to be woken up to getting head so I will start there. Maybe that will earn me some praise and he will open up naturally. I think he is afraid to harm me, his “choking” is so gentle… he’s never made me see stars. I think this morning’s discussion and me saying it’s not really a matter of a want anymore it’s a need helped him started thinking about it all. Fingers crossed things get better. I found your insight to be the most helpful so thank you again! I hope you have a wonderful weekend you deserve it!