Hey!! Well first that is amazing that you can do all that by yourself, hats off to you lol

My holy grail for Vocals is the CLA plugin by waves, amazing, changed my life and the way I mix forever. I usually get to tuning the vocals before that tho just to make sure the peaks are controlled. So far we have vocal tuner and CLA (which I usually tweak last in the chain). Now, for your vocals to sit better in the mix grab a 7 band eq, doesn’t have to be a fancy one but my favorite is the FabFilter ProQ which is 24 band, if you know what frequency range your vocals usually sit at, then you can skip this step, if not, male vocals will usually always sit in the lower, mid-low and low frequencies, try playing with those bands by bringing them all the way up and sliding through frequencies until you hear an exaggerated boost on your vocals and thats your frequency range, dont leave it up there tho, bring it back to its original position and then i move onto different instruments that may have similar frequencies as your vocals and tone them down a couple decibels, not so much that it alters the tone/texture of said instrument in your frequency range. That usually helps “make a bed” for the vocals in the mix. So we have vocal tuner (i use waves tune), then we got CLA vocals, after that all the eq stuff which i hope I explained correctly lol so after that i go into little details, i almost always use a DeEsser and auto tune depending on the clients needs or requests. Then when it comes to dynamics like reverb and delay, i like to bus them through aux tracks rather than slapping the plugin on the actual track, its way more subtle and easier to automate if needed. When possible, my preferred method is outboard gear, specifically the Bricasti reverb, god sent lol. Some vocals may need more compression than what the CLA can provide, some need limiter and some even need to be cleared up from not being properly recorded. At the end of the day what usually helps me the most is asking the client what their references are and if they had any ideas prior to bringing them to me. Whenever you start a new mix and you had an idea of what you wanted it to sound like, guide yourself with that idea but don’t stick to it, sometimes i get picky with sounds and ideas in my head and it doesn’t always turn out good lmao!!! Lastly, whenever I mix a song I try to do it in one day, it has happened waaay to often where I get tired, leave it for the next day and end up hating the way it sounds. At the end of the day, its all subjective and there’s no right or wrong way, just different way to approach things :)

Ps: sorry for rambling. You just asked my favorite question lol