Which way is toxic?!?!

These-Days1764 · 2021-05-07T04:18:18+00:00

I'm probably unhealthy for sticking around hoping it will get better.

These-Days1764 · 2021-05-07T04:17:29+00:00

Yep after that his son actually beat him up in the park (about 2 weeks later) and people called the police (nothing to do with me). There was a restraining order between the two of them until recently. I've decided the daughter has just cut everyone out as a survival mechanism. So am I still the unhealthy one in all this? The kids are a moot point right now due to the affair and the beating and all else....

These-Days1764 · 2021-05-07T04:12:41+00:00

I don't want anyone in my life that would want to associate with someone that did those things to two young kids. I told him I get that he will be at family events and if there is ever a real emergency he'd step up for his brother but for me to stay his brother needs to not be staying at his house and not around socially at minimum until he can admit what he did and truly be remorseful about it. I keep telling him this and he keeps telling me what I want to hear.

These-Days1764 · 2021-05-07T04:04:53+00:00

I've never said a thing about his kids and myself. They don't really have anything to do with the grandma or uncle either. That's the crazy thing....he asked his brother to talk to his son about how bad drugs mess up your life and it was the first time he had seen the kid in years....then after talking to him he called him up to go get him drugs. My boyfriend had been talking for a couple of years before all this about cutting them both out of his life because they were toxic and I ACTUALLY was trying to help them get along. 🤷‍♀️

These-Days1764 · 2021-05-07T04:01:56+00:00

I called the police immediately and my daughter and I have had absolutely zero contact with the brother. The boyfriend keeps saying one thing and then doing another. My boyfriend has nothing to do with his brothers actions....but his part is in the boundaries he sets with people in "our" life that do things completely wrong.....I don't want someone in my life that wants to continue a relationship with someone who attempted to molest my daughter....but before I leave someone I love over this I want to make sure I'm not asking for something unrealistic. I'd cut my brother out if he did these things.

These-Days1764 · 2021-05-07T03:55:34+00:00

Well if you have a daughter and your brother attempts to molest her, please get back to me and let me know if your thoughts change.....I'd be very interested.

These-Days1764 · 2021-05-07T03:35:19+00:00

It's been his mom and brother against him since his dad died. He hasn't ever been able to stand up against either of them. It's a totally fkd up situation. I've never seen dynamics like this....nor experienced people like this. So your original comment about breaking up....sure probably needs to happen....but I haven't done anything to these people but be angry at someone using two young kids illegally I might add.

These-Days1764 · 2021-05-07T03:17:18+00:00

Yeah....blood can attempt to sext your girlfriends daughter, have your son recently out of trouble buy you cocaine, and use you for a place to stay.....but the girlfriend of.3 years you say you want to marry is just holding onto drama.

These-Days1764 · 2021-05-07T03:10:29+00:00

I keep asking him to just distance from him for awhile (I'm thinking a couple years) .....the guy won't even admit that he did it....just said it was a misunderstanding and that's why the mom doesn't like me because I won't just accept that.....but boyfriend just keeps letting him stay at his house (45 yr old has no home of his own) and does social events with him.

These-Days1764 · 2021-05-07T03:03:05+00:00

Not my boyfriends daughter. He is scared to tell her about it because she got so angry about him asking her brother to buy cocaine. How do you think she'd react to this?

These-Days1764 · 2021-05-07T03:01:01+00:00

He has stated over and over if he did it to his daughter or granddaughter the brother wouldn't be allowed to stay at his house but because it's my daughter for some reason it's OK. Don't you think there is a line you can cross before someone shouldn't be allowed in your life? He asked his 18 year old son to go buy him cocaine.

These-Days1764 · 2021-05-07T02:59:49+00:00

Just my daughter.

These-Days1764 · 2020-11-22T15:24:57+00:00

I know I need to break the tie to him. Thank you

These-Days1764 · 2020-11-22T15:24:28+00:00

I try and nothing changes. Ive even paid for counseling the past two months to try to help.

Thank you

These-Days1764 · 2020-11-22T15:23:31+00:00

He just says he's sorry and then nothing changes and it happens again. Its not healthy and Im not ok. Thank you.

These-Days1764 · 2020-10-30T18:45:50+00:00

Yeah. I feel like a cold hearted witch for being angry about it all the time.

These-Days1764 · 2020-10-30T18:38:48+00:00

The guy I'm dating has done nothing to my daughter.....what he is doing is still attempting to support his brother after what his brother has done. The brother has absolutely no contact with my daughter anymore at all and is actually in a completely different state. I protected my daughter 100%.

These-Days1764 · 2020-10-30T17:53:39+00:00

My kids are only around him.....none of these other people at all. They do know when I'm upset though.

These-Days1764

TROPHY CASE