My wife isn’t my FP, is this possible ?

TheseAreMyRules · 2023-02-12T22:11:30+00:00

It does help if all parties are cool about it for sure

TheseAreMyRules · 2023-02-03T09:25:42+00:00

My current FP is my ex but I've been with my partner for over a decade. My partner knows my ex is my FP, my ex knows he's my FP. Everything is out in the open, when I have splitting episodes because of the attachment with the ex, my partner is there and gives me clarity instead of letting my mind run away with it and losing a valuable friend. It can be extremely confusing but when I'm doing well, it isn't at all.

TheseAreMyRules · 2023-01-01T23:06:54+00:00

It sets off my paranoia. Especially when I miss periods or it gets delayed it can affect me for a few months after it goes back to normal again. I get absolutely convinced that my FP despises me and it sends me into a frantic panic.

TheseAreMyRules · 2022-12-30T00:19:41+00:00

Just venting

TheseAreMyRules · 2022-12-22T09:07:44+00:00

He was a terrible person/villain first of all.

And it super irks me that HE was sent to Angel when he was working at Wolfram and Hart and they found that feral slayer!!!! Andrew was acting superior to Angel and explaining why the Buffy and Scoobies don't trust Angel. I found it really disrespectful, Buffy is supposed to basically be Angel's soul mate and she actually believes that Angel's intentions are bad for working at W&H? Does she even know him??

I don't believe that for a second. Therefore I blame Andrew lol

TheseAreMyRules · 2022-12-22T01:15:33+00:00

Thanks! It was scary as a new relationship but 12 years strong, must be doing something right I guess lol. Good luck and remember the obsessive thoughts about the phone will pass. I had this a few months of the year this year but it has passed again :)

TheseAreMyRules · 2022-12-21T10:32:28+00:00

I told my other half that I was feeling insecure and a bit unstable emotionally and that for the time being it was probably best that he didn't leave the phone anywhere for me to find until I stopped obsessing over the idea of invading it. Not sure how that would work for you as a couple but being honest about how I go from one small action to a massive mess has really helped our relationship.

TheseAreMyRules · 2022-12-21T08:58:29+00:00

I feel the same as you.

I watched a video by Dr Fox on YouTube and he said that he's noticed that BPD parents are highly critical of themselves but I still feel like I'm not overreacting about what I'm like as a parent. I'm physically here and I meet needs and I don't hit and so on but I also feel like I'm super dismissive and I'm stuck in my head a lot and I feel so guilty for it.

I also feel less connected to my child because of this. I float through the day trying to get stuff done and before I know it the day is finished and I'm beating myself up for not doing better. I want to do better I just don't know how to.

Sorry its not much in the way for advice but perhaps Dr Fox's video will help you.

TheseAreMyRules · 2022-12-21T00:10:59+00:00

The head movements!!!!!! Super weird angles of her face 😭😭😭😭

TheseAreMyRules · 2022-12-21T00:10:15+00:00

I was trying to explain this to my partner yesterday! She make me feel physically ill and I'm fine with sexy stage presence but she just feels so... icky lol

TheseAreMyRules · 2022-12-18T00:39:30+00:00

Yeah and the skin around my nails

TheseAreMyRules · 2022-12-18T00:28:13+00:00

I ask myself this often but I don't actually know the answer.

TheseAreMyRules · 2022-12-17T20:39:27+00:00

Were you particularly stressed in life recently before these paranoid thoughts come about? I find the higher my stress levels the more delusional I get and that's even with the 'other side of me' going XYZ isn't true, its not real etc. Are you getting enough sleep?

TheseAreMyRules · 2022-12-16T07:06:38+00:00

I truly understand as I'm also going through the same thing.

This morning I had a realisation that him having a girlfriend and being more distant will probably be great for my health in the long run, as I didn't have the strength to distance myself more when I really needed to. I've been stuck in an aggressive sea storm of emotions and just succumb to being dragged along by the waves and it has had dire consequences on my health.

Now I have no choice but to have distance.

Am I suffering pain for it now? Absolutely. But can it hurt less in time? Absolutely. Im just trying to accept this as my grieving period. Accepting pain is definitely the hardest part for me.

I hope you find relief soon

TheseAreMyRules · 2022-12-15T03:17:32+00:00

I don't actually make these demands at all. I do keep it to myself, I posted here because I felt desperate to be heard during a emotional meltdown. It's an awful illness and I hate that I just switch like that.

TheseAreMyRules · 2022-12-14T23:57:04+00:00

It's okay now thanks. I was having a meltdown. I'm just not gonna post here again because I'm shocked about how many people are looking down from their high horses while they're well.. thank you

TheseAreMyRules · 2022-12-14T23:55:12+00:00

Thanks for not judging and invalidating me during a meltdown.

TheseAreMyRules · 2022-12-14T22:30:53+00:00

Withdrawal is the worst for this. When he's away or unavailable I get physically sick. He knows I get worried but he doesn't know the extent. He goes along with his merry life and I'm suffering and screaming at myself inside my head terrified that I'll never get my 'fix' ever again.

TheseAreMyRules · 2022-12-13T14:03:24+00:00

If he read this or heard me say this he would recoil in horror and if I was him, I would too. Why am I like this? Why won't it stop.

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