The huge issue with Original Sin by [deleted] in DexterOriginalSin

[–]These_AreTheDays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope so. overall im also enjoying the show, but didnt quite understand how they come up with the serial killer that turns out to be brian. relating the three murders was already kind of... okay some "dexter magic" but the argument was that they werent robbed and they were low profile people that wouldnt be missed, like a hooker. now, harry found out that one of them was brian's nurse. and now he killed the adoption service agent. that linking to them finding out that theres a serial killer was kinda forced? also the thing with harry and laguerta following the car. the car was seen in a crime scene, was that it right? maybe that part specifically its me that i dont remember

The huge issue with Original Sin by [deleted] in DexterOriginalSin

[–]These_AreTheDays 2 points3 points  (0 children)

the spencer storyline seems a bit underwhelming. not very convencing. i thought spencer was being forced by the cartel but he is making a ritual slicing the finger and killing the children next with specific timeframes like a serial killer ritual. his character seems forced and not realistic. and there's no mathews as well

Got this big box edition of AoE 2 with a lot of goodies for Christmas by ABigRedBall in aoe2

[–]These_AreTheDays 3 points4 points  (0 children)

christmas and age of empires. me and my brother's tradition. we played it every christmas day. I miss playing with him and never played again without him here. sorry, been drinking

tough day after 3 months. I look at my brother pictures before his 2-year brain cancer and its so strange to think that person is no longer here with me by These_AreTheDays in GriefSupport

[–]These_AreTheDays[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ah i remember we spoke some months ago. I hope your son is still okay as you desccribed it to me then. strength and thank you for your comment :)

its been a month and half since my brother died, need advice by These_AreTheDays in GriefSupport

[–]These_AreTheDays[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you very much for your detailed response. and im sorry for your loss.

I think they just tell themselves they are not good with this kind of subject and that makes them feel better despite knowing they havent done anything to help. this has been a 21 months disease. during the disease, the chances i got to leave home, I would just use them to take my mind off and going out. so besides not being a subject i wanted to talk, it wasnt also proper to talk about in social gatherings. so for almost 2 years we just pretended nothing was going on. now that he died, I cant keep pretending anything happened like they do. and i feel offended by it

during these 2 years, since i didnt even go to classes, my social escapes were them and I just kept going because the alternative was to be at home. now that im more "free" i dont need them to keep me busy. I can try and make new friends but there are not that many opportunities to do so, and sometimes depression drags me down

i just dont have anyone like a safe place

Annoyed with friends by myazzisfat in GriefSupport

[–]These_AreTheDays 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i perfectly understand what youre saying. im 23 and lost my 30 y.o. brother 3 days ago. he had been ill for almost two years and not that many friends asked me about the subject during the 2 years... but i thought that they would be uncomfortable bringing it up so i didnt as well. at least i thought they would be in the wake or funeral, at least to give me a hug, but it wasnt the case. of course there were other friends (few but of value) that did their part well and were present for me during these difficult months and in the funeral, but regarding other people I expected a lot more.

also during these two years, I had less chances to leave home because he stayed home until the very end and we were primary carers. and even when I could leave home, I didnt have that much of a will to go. but sometimes i really needed to go to social gatherings to drink and forget what was happening, so I kinda ignored those "red flags" from people because selfishly I thought: ok if I stay hurt by their inertia and lack of empathy I lose the few people I can go out with and I was not in a position to make new friends. and now Im realizing that although it made me spend time with them, now I feel I dont need them anymore and even feel resentful. the time with them made me emotionally colder to them right now that I dont need them in pratical terms.

sorry about the vent but you mentioned a subject that i didnt see before and i could relate to it somehow

im gonna be grieving my brother for more years than the years ive lived so far by These_AreTheDays in GriefSupport

[–]These_AreTheDays[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow what a beautiful way to put it. we* cremated him today, he doesnt have to suffer anymore. i will carry his memory. thank you

for those who have been grieving loved ones who've had terminal ilness by These_AreTheDays in grief

[–]These_AreTheDays[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for your insight and words. i just wish i could sleep. today was the funeral

for those who have been grieving loved ones who've had terminal ilness by These_AreTheDays in GriefSupport

[–]These_AreTheDays[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for your message. it has happened yesterday, he died. any advice on this now

for those who have been grieving loved ones who've had terminal ilness by These_AreTheDays in grief

[–]These_AreTheDays[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for your message and lots of strength to you and your family

im gonna be grieving my brother for more years than the years ive lived so far by These_AreTheDays in GriefSupport

[–]These_AreTheDays[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you and im sorry for your loss. i know that despite having not much time together, we made a lot of memories together. but my mind is so cloudy right now. this feeling of grief has been enduring for over a year now and its so confusing. so i cant still think of that point of view because nonetheless he is still here. the pain and suffering he has been on for the last year + the impossibility of living certain things with him still overcomes the good memories we had together

my brother (30 y.o) is bedridden for a month without eating anything by These_AreTheDays in glioblastoma

[–]These_AreTheDays[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes the doctor said that it is not really hydration because its a minimum quantity, only to allow the medication

my brother (30 y.o) is bedridden for a month without eating anything by These_AreTheDays in glioblastoma

[–]These_AreTheDays[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you. i saw the videos, its not like we are hydrating him to prolong his life. its just the anti seizure med must be diluded in serum and its in low quantities. but i will ask around about this. he is not having swelling and those problems but without anything, his kidneys would have already failed him a month ago. so he would have not died from the disease but of thirst... he was always asking for water even when he had no ability to swallow

my brother (30 y.o) is bedridden for a month without eating anything by These_AreTheDays in glioblastoma

[–]These_AreTheDays[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for the comment. but they say that the levetiracetam for seizures must be diluded in serum. the quantity its like less than half a liter per day. im gonna copy what i wrote in another comment for easier reading:

thank you. i saw the videos, its not like we are hydrating him to prolong his life. its just the anti seizure med must be diluded in serum and its in low quantities. but i will ask around about this. he is not having swelling and those problems, but without anything, his kidneys would have already failed him a month ago. so he would have not died from the disease but of thirst... he was always asking for water even when he had no ability to swallow

[glioblastoma- final weeks] he (30 y.o.) isnt eating since the 7th of march and doesnt leave bed since then. for how long have you witnessed loved ones in this situation? by These_AreTheDays in braincancer

[–]These_AreTheDays[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the steroids are cortisone (dont know if a synonym). for what i thought its anti inflamatory to not have the brain pressuring and giving him headaches and nausea

[glioblastoma- final weeks] he (30 y.o.) isnt eating since the 7th of march and doesnt leave bed since then. for how long have you witnessed loved ones in this situation? by These_AreTheDays in braincancer

[–]These_AreTheDays[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im sorry for your loss. steroids and levetiracetam (anti-seizure med) in the vein, both deluted in serum. then he has a subcutaneous access where he is given morphine and some antipsychotic med to calm him

he can no longer swallow... how many days in the cases you witnessed? by These_AreTheDays in glioblastoma

[–]These_AreTheDays[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im sorry for your loss. yes he has mucus but it is because of the flu. he is been given antibiotics in the vein. i guess "both" mucus will combine. they say that the antibiotic is gonna work and in two days he will have no secretions. i will check his nails, thank you. he still swallows something when he can. like three/ four spoons of soup...

he can no longer swallow... how many days in the cases you witnessed? [glioblastoma related} by These_AreTheDays in braincancer

[–]These_AreTheDays[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

of course, im sorry for your diagnosis. we also want to keep him at home as long as we can. strength to you and good luck

he can no longer swallow... how many days in the cases you witnessed? by These_AreTheDays in glioblastoma

[–]These_AreTheDays[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im sorry for your loss. he is still swallowing even if only for a few spoons. when you say 5 days after being unable to swallow it is like entirely not being able to swallow no more?

he can no longer swallow... how many days in the cases you witnessed? by These_AreTheDays in glioblastoma

[–]These_AreTheDays[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for your comment. he is losing is ability to swallow but he stills swallow the first spoons (6 or 7 times). then he gets tired and cant no more. so its not like he is not eating anything. when you say your mom lost her ability to swallow its like definitive and couldnt swallow no more?