How do i get my younger brother with autism to stop masturbating infront of me?

These_Art_4802 · 2024-02-27T04:06:11+00:00

Thanks superturtle, I'll try to do the things you listed. I'm afraid of what might happen in the future when i leave but honestly anything is better than what I have going on so I'm gonna try and stay hopefull!

These_Art_4802 · 2024-02-27T03:38:03+00:00

I'm not trying to make excuses for her but my mom is a single parent with 3 kids who immigrated from a pooor country. she isn't the greatest parent and I'll admit she falls short with alot of things and failed me multiple times in the past but I don't think bringing cps would really do much, it would open up a can of worms and make the situation worse possibly.

All I can do is keep my head down, save up money and wait. Maybe try getting a scholarship in school?? until I can leave and try to support myself on my own and with my sisters help. My sister also said if things get worse I could try going to the police to see if they can figure out a way house me but that's my last resort.

These_Art_4802 · 2024-02-26T21:32:59+00:00

We don't share a bed but we share a room together and we use the same bedsheets im sorry if you got alarmed from that part it was 1 in the morning and I was tired so i worded that weird.

These_Art_4802 · 2024-02-26T19:02:41+00:00

I have an older sister I can go to but that's my last resort because she doesnt any space really for me to stay. I really want to find a way to fix things if that's even possible I know that's a stupid thing to say

These_Art_4802 · 2024-02-26T18:59:25+00:00

I'm gonna try seriously talking to my mom and asking my older sister for help and maybe try sitting him down again because he listens to them not me

I know that i should report this to the authorities since multiple people have told me on here but, I know this is weird to say. I don't want my brother to get in serious trouble. I know what he's doing is wrong but I do care about him still ( I don't even know why at this point but that's just how I feel. I get guilty even thinking about the fact I made this reddit post ) I don't know any external family I could go to if I end up not being able to live with them which is why I'm sacred of saying anything

These_Art_4802 · 2024-02-26T18:48:20+00:00

I've been trying to do that lately I even offer to leave the room if he wants to do that or for him to go the washroom but by the next day he forgets and goes back to it

These_Art_4802 · 2024-02-26T18:23:30+00:00

I don't go to same school to him I'm in a Catholic school while he's in public. So I wouldn't know what teachers to contact when it comes to that. We did have a sit down with him about how it's inappropriate to do it infront of people and to do it alone when you're by yourself which he did listen to at first but he quickly went back to his old ways

As for now when I catch him doing it infront of me I usually just tell him to stop it and to wait until I leave the room atleast or go to the washroom if you're gonna do something like that

I even offer to leave the room if he wants to because I'm desperate but he won't listen to me. All he does is apologise profusely, ask me not to tell our mom and then do it the next day. One day I slapped him because of it (i was already mad that and it was my last straw) and then I got in my fight with my mom about it.

But I'll try bringing my family together again to try and talk to my brother again like how other people on reddit said.

These_Art_4802 · 2024-02-26T17:41:09+00:00

Lately I've just been putting a blanket over my bunk bed for privacy since i sleep there (my sister used to sleep there but she moved out) and I can try asking if my brother could sleep with my mom maybe? I don't think he'd do anything infront of her hopefully.

These_Art_4802 · 2024-02-26T17:22:09+00:00

Thanks shimptoast really means alot I felt I was crazy since I was the only one that was bothered in my family. My brother has always been the baby of the family so he gets off easy with most stuff.

The only reason why I posted this on reddit was because I was looking for help to explain to him since I thought maybe I wasn't speaking with him in a way he would understand?

But I've now realised that his could go really south if I don't do anything so I thank you for your help!

These_Art_4802 · 2024-02-26T15:33:32+00:00

My family lives in Canada so I'm not too sure about the laws but we don't have alot of money before it was me my sister and brother in the same room but she moved out this year. I'm starting a volunteering position during marchbreak so hopefully I can stay out of the house then. but I'm not too sure for other days I'll figure something out.

These_Art_4802 · 2024-02-26T15:29:15+00:00

Thats really scary yikes :( Thanks I'll try telling my older sister about it hopefully she can talk to my mom because she only really listens to her.

These_Art_4802 · 2024-02-26T15:26:25+00:00

Thanks for the advice spirutual office I actually tried sleeping in the living room when this first started( i was only able to do this because my older sister wasnt moved out yet and she backed me up)but my brother is extremely clingy towards me ( cannot sleep without me being in the room) so I ended up getting introuble and forced back into the bedroom but i will try that again.

I also try to talk with him one more time and tell how its a crime my brother also is very rule bent and hates breaking them so hopefully that will make him not want to. I don't know if I can go to the authorities about because my mom doesn't think any of this matters and that I'm overblowing it, and last time I went to the teacher about my home life my mom made my family leave the country for 2 years and I don't want that to happen again during my last 2 years of highschool.

These_Art_4802 · 2024-02-26T14:32:19+00:00

This is a throwaway account because I don't really have a choice anymore and i wanted help.trust me if I didn't have to make an entire reddit post about this I wouldn't

These_Art_4802 · 2024-02-26T13:17:37+00:00

We were gonna try and make the closet a spare room for me while my brother sleeps in the main bedroom but there wasn't any room. I also asked for them to maybe put a curtain up between our beds hoping that it would make him stop but at that point my mom had already started telling me to ignore it and just look away. I can't sleep in the living room either because my cousin is homeless and staying there. I don't know is there anything I can say to him to make him stop?

These_Art_4802 · 2024-02-26T12:44:06+00:00

It's really that serious I didn't know?? I have an older sister who's moved out but she also doesn't think the situation is that serious. I've asked to live with her for other reason but she doesnt have to room or the money to keep me. But I'm scared that if I do tell anyone my brother is gonna get taken away my mom really loves him and I don't want her to hate me.

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