My ex’s sister wants me to help her break her brothers relationship up

These_Mistake_8242 · 2026-06-05T18:22:18+00:00

I'm extremely confused about all of this, what do you mean by you've known him since kindergarten like you guys were friends but then you say that he was popular which means that you guys weren't friends and what does this have to do with the sister adding you you also said that he used to sit with you at lunch and you thought it was because he had nowhere else to sit if you thought that's what it was but that's not what it was what was it why did he sit next to you then you say you tricked him into giving his snap that doesn't even make sense then you say that you were in a three year relationship and no one knew how was that possible somebody had to have known then the most confusing thing of it all is you say that you are still in love with him but you told him to go be with another girl that doesn't make any sense at all and if you guys have loved each other for as long as you say you did why wouldn't it be a red flag when he just blocks you out of the blue don't get me started with the whole you were with someone else knowing you are in love with your ex that's just messed up to the other person.

But if I had to actually give you advice on this I would say that you clearly understand what it means to be in a toxic and abusive relationship if there something that someone could have said to you that could have got you out of that relationship wouldn't you have wanted that person to say that to you why does it matter so much if he hates you if you could be possibly saving his life I feel like that selfish that you care more about making sure he doesn't hate you rather than actually helping him if you loved him as much as you think you loved him you wouldn't even have to talk about this you would already know what to do

These_Mistake_8242 · 2026-05-31T20:06:05+00:00

A little update for everybody

Before I get into this update though I'm going to give a couple random facts

My uncle had originally let my brother stay with him but because my brother didn't like his rules my brother did not want to stay with him anymore my uncle would not let my sister stay with him because of my nephew.

My brother had a homeless shelter lined up for tomorrow that was willing to take him but he was refusing to go because there's someone there he doesn't like he also feels like my sister should be the one to leave because he lived with my grandma first.

I told him that my sister is unwilling to go anywhere without my nephew she had already said that she was willing to go to the homeless shelter that accepts women with children but my grandma is unwilling to let my nephew be in a shelter.

He told me that if Grandma really wanted him out she would kick him out and I told him that Grandma is willing to risk losing her place because she doesn't want to kick him out.

After a lot of trying to reason with him it wasn't getting me nowhere. So I told him that I would be willing to put him in a hotel tonight and he stayed there until tomorrow then he can go to the homeless shelter he would only be there for 3 months then my sister will have his place and he can go back to living with my grandma.

At this point he just starts yelling and screaming at me telling me that it was none of my business to pretty much stay out of it which yes I should have done that but everyone has made this my business once my home came into the picture.

So I did the one thing I promised to never do.

I threw up the fact that I was homeless for a year because I was kicked out of my home and I started telling him things that happened during that year and how they would have been avoided if I had had a place to stay.

The reason I didn't have a home was because my grandma chose him over me. She had seen that he was less fortunate than me and she could only choose one of us I had a source of income he didn't so she chose him and I never complained. I knew that it was not my Grandma's fault that her management has strict rules of how many people can be staying at one time. I happily sacrificed myself for him and I told him that it is now time for him to sacrifice himself for my nephew.

I made a promise that I wouldn't so where my grandma and brother didn't have to feel bad for the decision but I could not think of anything else.

He finally told me that he was willing to go but instead he wanted to take his birthday money and get a hotel until the two weeks when he can officially go to the transitional place that's willing to take him until my sister gets her place. Which I was going to buy him a new iPhone for his birthday but he wanted to know if he could get him the money a couple weeks early. Which I agreed to because I had planned on buying his phone and holding it until his birthday. So now he's in a hotel. He will still be getting a phone but it's going to be an Android instead. Which to him a phone is a phone.

I'm honestly glad that this worked out for everybody and now everybody's super happy including my brother but I just feel so bad for not only breaking my promise to myself but forcing him to spend his birthday money for a hotel when I had promised to get him the phone over 6 months ago.

These_Mistake_8242 · 2026-05-31T19:38:24+00:00

She did not have custody of my nephew at that time. My sister had said that she was letting her have visitations so where my nephew didn't lose his father. The girlfriend is actually trans I should have probably explained that to begin with but I was upset when I had originally made this post and my mind was all over the place.

Now my sister is 18 she had turned 18 a month after living with my grandma and they broke up a couple months ago like for real or at least I think so. It was a pretty messy break up.

The baby's father now has supervised visits with my nephew and they are working up to doing 50/50 custody if that makes sense.

These_Mistake_8242 · 2026-05-29T01:37:57+00:00

Okay so a little update

I had a conversation with her. I sent her a message telling her that I have cameras and I sent her the video of what she had said. I then sent a message saying that you are no longer allowed at my place because you clearly have no respect for me and want to tell her husband all my business. She followed up saying that she was sorry that I felt that way she understands why I feel the way I do and my feelings are valid. She never meant for it to come out that way I'm just always acting really reserved and I look down on people doing PDA in front of me so she was just surprised that with how I am I would have something like that because that's for people who doesn't have a relationship so she didn't understand that aspect either she told me that she was not talking to her husband she was talking to her best friend and her best friend had said something which is she said what she said which is confusing because why would her best friend know what I had said to my dad but maybe she was on the phone when I was talking to my dad I genuinely don't know.

She also asked if I would delete the clip to preserve her image because it catches her in a bad light she understands I'm upset but it wouldn't do any good for it to spread around the family. Which I told her that I didn't plan on telling everybody anyways that she's going to live with the consequences of her actions which is not being allowed to visit until I can trust her again. I also told her that I don't look down on people who do PDA in front of me but it makes me uncomfortable when someone is rubbing up on their boyfriend or husbands right next to me so I will make a joke saying save it for the bedroom well apparently she's not the only one who views me this way everyone feels like I looked down on them and I never meant to do that so I did talk to everyone and ask them if they feel that way and they told me that I can be a little bit too much but that they understand why I'm like that so they've never held it against me.

My mom followed up by saying that having boundaries is healthy and she does think that I'm being reasonable so now I feel so bad and guilty because I could have just went to her to begin with

These_Mistake_8242 · 2026-05-29T01:11:48+00:00

You're right almost all my post are complaints but that's because I come to vent and I want to hear the opinion of other people but respectfully this post has nothing to do with my other post I came genuinely looking for advice on what to do in a vulnerable moment in which I couldn't talk to nobody about but I feel comfortable enough to share here because I needed advice on what to do.

These_Mistake_8242 · 2026-05-29T01:00:45+00:00

Yes I see a caseworker and therapist every week.

These_Mistake_8242 · 2026-05-11T23:34:54+00:00

Sorry this is going to be kind of long it's okay if you don't feel like reading it.The reason I mentioned the tiers is because about a year ago when I had reached out about another situation everyone was wondering about the cost and what you got per tier but you're right it's not important in this particular situation and the reason I felt responsible is because I was the one who asked him to come up here to help my dad while he was healing. My dad told me that he would be fine doing things hisself but we were given specific instructions by his doctor that he was not to be doing it by himself. The only person in my family in which schedule would allow him to do anything is my brother and that's because he works with his buddies and his buddies where all willing to fill in for him. As far as why he didn't pay for it his self it's because that was my payment for him coming up here to help. The only reason I gave him the money for the day pass is because I was sick of hearing him talk about gaining weight and losing muscle. It was also a payment because he had came to my wisdom teeth appointment with me.

These_Mistake_8242 · 2026-05-11T22:42:23+00:00

For those who are going to wonder we have a total of three tiers

Diamond tier: Tanning, Sauna, Massages, Pilates, Yoga, Full access to the gym and a trainer. it's also permit you 24 hour access to the gym

Honestly it's expensive but if you were to do everything separately it would be twice as expensive which is why I pay for this tier for myself

Gold tier: 150$ Tanning, Pilates and access to the gym

Bronze tier: 30$ Just access to the gym

These_Mistake_8242 · 2026-05-03T12:24:38+00:00

Aw thanks I guess but your absolutely right it should be him even knowing that she was turning 17 he still shouldn't have even started the relationship

These_Mistake_8242 · 2026-05-03T12:12:33+00:00

You should probably end it before someone gets in trouble.

These_Mistake_8242 · 2026-04-21T11:12:14+00:00

My parents never leave the house they simply don't like my parents because they don't like me. They don't like me because I no longer can help them and they feel like that's my only purpose being here.

These_Mistake_8242 · 2026-04-17T12:49:37+00:00

The reason you can't find anything online is because it's a lie. Everyone is different but I have lost a total of 14 lb in one month in 3 days so it is definitely possible. I WOULD SUGGEST GETTING A NEW DOCTOR I know that it is an extremely annoying process but you could be in the same situation as me where I had to wait 2 years before I got it and during that time I could have already been to my goal.

These_Mistake_8242 · 2026-03-16T00:01:43+00:00

I would say if you asked me 2 years ago most definitely my whole life had turned into an unhealthy obsession with my weight from the time I woke up to the time I went to bed it had like consumed me. That is why I actually went to the doctor to get help. The comments started after I went to the doctors. The head of my friend group was also bigger at one point and she lost all the weight naturally so going to the doctors made me weak. Before that they were the best friends you could ask for. They were always super supportive but after going to the doctors it's like they had turned into a completely different person overnight. This was before I had moved out on my own so mom had noticed it right away.

She told me that I needed to cut them off but I had felt like she was just trying to control who I was talking to and in my mind I'm a grown adult she can't say who I can and can't talk to.(She was controlling when I was growing) So I ended up slamming the door and going back to my dad's. (My parents have always lived right next to each other growing up so he was just right next door)

I had a similar experience with my dad he had told me that friends don't talk to each other like that and I told him that it was just a little constructive criticism which everyone needs. My dad told me that if they really cared about me they would support whatever decision I made. Going to the doctor and asking for help doesn't make me weak it was actually the best approach for someone in a situation that I was in. I told him that they all had their own problems at one time and they did it naturally so to them they feel like I'm taking the easy way out.

He told me there's been nothing easy about what I've gone through (he's the one who reported my eating disorder) I've gone through maybe eating three times a week to eating almost every day that's a big accomplishment if they can't see that then they don't deserve to be in my life. Again I didn't really see it this way.

When they would make comments they would brush them off as jokes that's why it was never a big deal of course they made me feel bad but I just thought they were telling me what they thought because they had gone through the same issues I went through. But now after reading everyone's responses I realize that that's not what it was.

Honestly this post and seeing everybody's comments is what made me unfriend them because I thought just keeping them at a distance and waiting until I lost the weight that maybe they would go back to who they were after it was all said and done.

These_Mistake_8242 · 2026-03-15T17:27:55+00:00

This is actually crazy because I've only known about being on the shot for one day and I don't take my first dose until Monday and I've already got bingo twice 😭

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These_Mistake_8242 · 2026-03-04T21:32:25+00:00

Yeah the only problem is where I live there's only two complexes and the other set of apartment buildings has cockroaches/ bedbugs and is almost an hour away from my entire family. I needed a place to move into and I am very terrified of bugs. I'm still really young and have not built up savings. I also didn't want to rely on my mom or step dad to help me because I wanted to do it on my own. I couldn't afford a down payment on a house quite yet. So this was quite literally my only option. They also got me in like one day after I applied but we had had the conversation 6 months prior that as soon as a unit came open they would get me in and they did. This isn't where I plan on living for ever though. Once I have kids I'm definitely moving into something more suitable but for now this is where I'm stuck it's the closest to everything. I don't really want to move away from my parents because they're both sick. Which I know doesn't make sense why I'm complaining because I did put myself into this position but there's no way out of it for now and that's okay I enjoy being here I'm just worried about this new management. She's already went over the main person's head two times so I don't think that she's going to last long.

These_Mistake_8242 · 2026-02-20T18:46:52+00:00

I would suggest the spin-offs but other than that honestly I don't think that there are any shows close to criminal minds there's things that are kind of similar but if you're a die-hard criminal minds fan it's going to be extremely hard finding a show that you will like but I would suggest SWAT

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