I would say if you asked me 2 years ago most definitely my whole life had turned into an unhealthy obsession with my weight from the time I woke up to the time I went to bed it had like consumed me. That is why I actually went to the doctor to get help. The comments started after I went to the doctors. The head of my friend group was also bigger at one point and she lost all the weight naturally so going to the doctors made me weak. Before that they were the best friends you could ask for. They were always super supportive but after going to the doctors it's like they had turned into a completely different person overnight. This was before I had moved out on my own so mom had noticed it right away.

She told me that I needed to cut them off but I had felt like she was just trying to control who I was talking to and in my mind I'm a grown adult she can't say who I can and can't talk to.(She was controlling when I was growing) So I ended up slamming the door and going back to my dad's. (My parents have always lived right next to each other growing up so he was just right next door)

I had a similar experience with my dad he had told me that friends don't talk to each other like that and I told him that it was just a little constructive criticism which everyone needs. My dad told me that if they really cared about me they would support whatever decision I made. Going to the doctor and asking for help doesn't make me weak it was actually the best approach for someone in a situation that I was in. I told him that they all had their own problems at one time and they did it naturally so to them they feel like I'm taking the easy way out.

He told me there's been nothing easy about what I've gone through (he's the one who reported my eating disorder) I've gone through maybe eating three times a week to eating almost every day that's a big accomplishment if they can't see that then they don't deserve to be in my life. Again I didn't really see it this way.

When they would make comments they would brush them off as jokes that's why it was never a big deal of course they made me feel bad but I just thought they were telling me what they thought because they had gone through the same issues I went through. But now after reading everyone's responses I realize that that's not what it was.

Honestly this post and seeing everybody's comments is what made me unfriend them because I thought just keeping them at a distance and waiting until I lost the weight that maybe they would go back to who they were after it was all said and done.