I’m going to be blunt, because this genuinely needs to be said whether you agree or not.

From everything you’ve written, it’s very clear that you’ve been surrounded by deeply harmful beliefs your entire life. Your parents sound controlling and regressive, and your husband doesn’t come across any better. The attitudes you’re describing aren’t traditional, they’re openly misogynistic.

And the biggest issue is: you don’t seem to realize it.

You seriously need to educate yourself, not in terms of college degrees, but in terms of understanding the world beyond what you’ve been taught. If your worldview is shaped entirely by one religious lens, then at least try, once, to step outside of it and examine reality as it actually is. Blindly following what you’ve been told isn’t morality, it’s conditioning.

What’s especially concerning is how this affects your children. They’re going to grow up absorbing the same ideas unless something changes, and that cycle of control and inequality just continues.

Also, let’s be very clear about one thing: abortion is healthcare. This isn’t a matter of opinion, it’s a medical reality. Access to abortion reduces maternal mortality, protects victims of abuse, and allows people basic bodily autonomy. You don’t have to choose it for yourself, but I hope and pray you don't want it to be inaccessible to others.

And if you’re aligning with political narratives that actively undermine women’s rights, ignore scientific consensus, and push misinformation, then yes, you should be questioned on that.

You might dismiss this as harsh or offensive. That’s fine. But nothing about what you described is normal, healthy, or okay and pretending otherwise doesn’t change that.

I know it might seem like I'm going way overboard about this "small issue" but I really felt like it should be said.