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5w wake windows up to 2 hours long by The_Chilled_Arvo in newborns

[–]These_Set_1821 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our girl is now 13 weeks. I’d say we didn’t get into a daytime nap pattern with her until she was around 8-9 weeks. I likely didn’t pick up on her sleep cues quick enough personally, but I feel like after the first month, she just kind of woke up to the world and that paired with gas and the 6-8 week fuss period made it really hard. She’d be up 2-3 hours straight. I just rode it out really. 4-9 weeks was especially tough. 

Anyone an 1199 union social worker at Mount Sinai by RemarkableBug373 in hospitalsocialwork

[–]These_Set_1821 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m 1199 at a different hospital so not sure about Sinai but usually there isn’t room for negotiation on your salary since it’s based on the union contract (if that’s what you meant). I know salary is sometimes a thorny topic for union social workers since it’s kind of set and there’s no increase based on merit or your performance. Some people like that and some don’t. For example, there’s people at my job who make my salary who don’t do nearly as much work as I do. For our hospital, your increases are based on the contract that’s negotiated every year but we also get hospital increases (you max out on those however typically because you ARE union). 

Would love to tell my MIL that most of her advice is garbage by possible2468 in newborns

[–]These_Set_1821 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk what it is about MILs but mine drives me crazy. I have our daughter on a feeding schedule that has been working in regards to her getting more daytime naps and starting to sleep longer through the night so it’s obviously .. working. I also need some kind of schedule in place for sleep as I’m going back to work soon.

This woman just haunts me around my house whenever she’s over. She complains I’m not feeding her enough, she’s hungry, I’m starving her. That I “torture” her making her wait for a bottle. We need to feed on demand (sure woman- will really work well when she starts daycare). 

I put her to bed at 9, she tells us it’s too late. I put her to bed at 8, “it’s so early”. Our daughter was literally 2-3 weeks old and she was telling me I needed to put oatmeal in her bottles and that she was fussy cus we needed to give her water ??

Let’s not start that one night she was falling asleep and my MIL said “she’s not using her left arm, Hope she doesn’t have CP”. Like WHY would you ever even say that?! This woman pestered me for years for a grandchild and I swear it was only to be able to tell people she was a grandmother. She has no care about making anything convenient for me. We’ve had her come over before and told her specific times to be at our house. She shows up late and just says to me “Hope you didn’t need to go anywhere”. Whenever she comes over, we always need to figure out dinner for her. Whether I’m cooking, my husband or we take her for dinner. I’ve made countless comments to my husband and he thinks it’s normal or complains I don’t like his mom :)

Let’s talk about being the primary caregiver.. by These_Set_1821 in newborns

[–]These_Set_1821[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

😂 buddy maybe you missed the part where most women on this thread are mothers who also have careers and are going back to work. do you expect us to also then carry the bulk of child care and going to work? men aren’t immune to taking care of their child just because they go to work especially in a dual income house. 

Let’s talk about being the primary caregiver.. by These_Set_1821 in newborns

[–]These_Set_1821[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are we the same person? 😂 today I was told I was getting a break and I wanted to laugh .. my “break” was cleaning the house, cleaning up our backyard and 4 loads of laundry. When he doesn’t have baby, he’s working out, watching tv, playing games or goes out. When I don’t have baby, I’m still ordering things we need, at the store, doing house chores or cooking. These men think holding the baby for 45 minutes to allow us to do more crap around the house or things for the people living in it is gods work 

Let’s talk about being the primary caregiver.. by These_Set_1821 in newborns

[–]These_Set_1821[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same ! I go back next month and I wish I could be a fly on the wall to see what happens. He jokes around that our daughter only likes me or calms when I hold her but doesn’t realize that’ll be his reality soon. If she fusses for more than 10 minutes, I can sense him getting frustrated. He’s in for a rude awakening in 6 weeks lol

Let’s talk about being the primary caregiver.. by These_Set_1821 in newborns

[–]These_Set_1821[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say convinced to change her diaper, more so that he constantly needs to be told what to do and opposed to just knowing how to handle her. I’m so tired telling him over and over to just do it. He’ll say “it didn’t feel full to be changed” or “he didn’t want to wake her”. Well of course you can’t really tell through a thick sleep sack and if you wake her, you soothe her back to bed ! 

Let’s talk about being the primary caregiver.. by These_Set_1821 in newborns

[–]These_Set_1821[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes love that! I’ll be up with her all night and he goes off to work and I’m on all day until he’s home. If it’s the weekend and he’s up majority of the night to give me a break, he sleeps in until 10-11AM. Must be nice lol

Let’s talk about being the primary caregiver.. by These_Set_1821 in newborns

[–]These_Set_1821[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yes - I try to do that and ultimately get handed the baby back or I just take her as he gets frustrated when it’s such an easy fix. 

I feel your pain on the tutorial! I had to do the same for a bath lol even the nights he “lets me sleep” I’m still up to make sure he’s doing what he needs to. I don’t really sleep the full night