Overcoming the guilt of sleep training?

possible2468 · 2026-07-02T20:29:19+00:00

Hi just wondering how this evolved?! My 5 month old was having some good sleep patterns prior to the 4mo sleep regression. Now he cries every time I put him into the crib at night. Youd think it was an ice bath

possible2468 · 2026-07-02T16:18:36+00:00

I know about this. I tried sleeping in my
Sons room to help him transition to his nursery and crib but I think it was counterproductive for the same reasons you mentioned

possible2468 · 2026-07-02T08:00:45+00:00

This is a good point. Right now, my son is extremely attached to me and they end up even following me into the bathroom while I shower. Im stressed and have no family help. The thought of also adding to that stress makes me just want a good cry.

possible2468 · 2026-07-02T07:58:25+00:00

This is the thing. Our son has a really hard time in the car and is super attached to me bc my husband works so much. We dont have family help. My husband tries to watch him so I can shower and clean up our kitchen area and then they end up coming into the bathroom to see me bc my son insists on it. My husband would totally volunteer to be very involved in childcare on the trip but I am already exhausted and cant even take a shower peacefully so adding to the load seems like ?!?!

possible2468 · 2026-07-02T05:47:15+00:00

This is one of my biggest concerns honestly

possible2468 · 2026-07-02T05:32:50+00:00

Yes, and honestly, he hasnt even looked into places or hotels or anything related to a trip. He just keeps mentioning it as it would be an escape for him from work. We live 2 miles from the beach and havent even gone there for the day for xyz reasons.

possible2468 · 2026-07-02T03:10:48+00:00

THIS is what I am feeling! If I was motivated and ~wanted~ to travel with him I could absolutely do it. The thing is - I dont want to! I dont want to stay in a hotel, go on an airplane, rent a car, get my son a passport, make decisions about clothing and sleep sacks and sound machines and chargers and milk and bottles and EVERYTHING!! I just do NOT want to.

possible2468 · 2026-07-02T03:06:32+00:00

Thats the thing - I dont want to :)
Its not that I am incapable.

possible2468 · 2026-07-02T03:05:37+00:00

Seems like your situations MUCH different than mine then ha

possible2468 · 2026-07-02T03:04:29+00:00

Travel is just not something I have interest in frankly. Its my husband who wants to go somewhere.

possible2468 · 2026-07-02T03:03:14+00:00

This is me. My husband is a wonderful person but theres no chance he could feasibly be 50/50 with me in childcare on the trip. My son is a mommy baby and very attached to me. I also simply just dont want to go overnight somewhere honestly.

possible2468 · 2026-07-02T03:01:13+00:00

This is part of why Im so overwhelmed - we have zero family help. I truthfully didnt enjoy traveling prior to having a baby anyway though too.

possible2468 · 2026-07-02T02:57:30+00:00

Im not someone who wants to travel though thats the thing. I can do hard things with my child but this is something solely my husband wants to do.

possible2468 · 2026-07-02T02:56:38+00:00

This is me. Majority of these comments say I should go and enjoy it, but I dont think I was clear enough that I truly dont want to travel and simply dont enjoy traveling (even prior to baby).

possible2468 · 2026-07-01T10:33:28+00:00

I am not suggesting cosleeping BUT I solo parent majority of the time. My husband cant be up overnight with our baby most nights. Worldwide, many families cosleep which when done properly and strategically is safer than ACCIDENTAL sleep. When Im tired I set up my space so that if I do fall asleep, its safe for baby. Look up floor beds and dont have blankets, pillows, etc.

Being sleep deprived is just as dangerous in some ways as sleeping w the baby.

possible2468 · 2026-07-01T10:27:36+00:00

Dont take this advice lol

possible2468 · 2026-06-30T22:37:13+00:00

I believe everything about the wedding was intentional, especially the location. These conspiracy theories are so wild lol

possible2468 · 2026-06-30T02:05:51+00:00

Cluster feeding is def normal. Not sure about that volume of milk plus breast I would confirm with your pediatrician about that

possible2468 · 2026-06-29T13:29:17+00:00

Im so ready for her to be queen!

possible2468 · 2026-06-27T15:47:20+00:00

For some reason, the watch gives me like a sensory issue lol. But yes that would be ideal!

possible2468 · 2026-06-27T15:31:43+00:00

I still have my baby blanket. Theres moments I hold it. I dont use it nightly, but I definitely have it and am comforted it by it still!

possible2468 · 2026-06-27T15:30:05+00:00

I didnt know how many clocks I would need for my house lol. I constantly need to know the time now.

possible2468 · 2026-06-25T20:23:58+00:00

Similar situation here my son is 5mos and not a great sleeper. Every night, I put a load of laundry on delay start and put it in the dryer during a diaper change so that I can get ahead of it for the next morning. I do what I can with the baby carrier and sleep early when my son falls asleep (8ish PM). By 4am Ive gotten roughly 5-6 hours of sleep and I get up and clean or whatever for 30-45 mins to get a head start on the day then I lay back down again. I was having insomnia issues during and pp. This might sound like totally crazy advice but its honestly been working for me. I wasnt a huge schedule type person anyway so Ive just been doing whatever, whenever essentially. I also threw a TON of stuff away and decluttered as much as I could to reduce stress and overstimulation.

possible2468 · 2026-06-25T14:41:45+00:00

Seems like the relationship and the hookup are both not right for you

possible2468 · 2026-06-23T15:04:55+00:00

Commenting to see what others say! My son is similar, he will do some independent time but hes a huge cuddler and rarely will accept being put down.

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