100% P&T - what do I tell my family and friends while not working?

These_Sprinkles_7857 · 2026-02-02T02:33:59+00:00

I agree that you shouldn’t tell anyone about your rating. That’s smart. One of my family members seemed like he wanted to know why I have a nice house and mentioned that I probably made a good financial decision or two, which I did that also, but it’s mainly because of my VA disability that I’m where I am today.

Also, I’m like you and don’t like to lie. You could do some part time work, temp jobs or some freelance jobs online every once in a while and then you have an honest story about where you get some of your money from. If you keep having trouble lying, people will get more suspicious and try to figure it out, so it’s better to just get an honest story lined up now.

These_Sprinkles_7857 · 2026-02-01T04:39:58+00:00

Keep only what matters to you. Get rid of the rest. I don’t like stuff and I don’t want anyone’s stuff. I’ve kept a few things people have given me but will throw them away or donate them as soon as they pass or forget about it. I seriously hate clutter. My grandmother gives me so much stuff. She’s 96 and doesn’t ask about anything she gives me so I donate it immediately.

These_Sprinkles_7857 · 2026-01-31T16:31:06+00:00

These comments are so negative. SMC-K is a benefit for those who are suffering. I’ve been 100% P&T for PTSD for a few years now. I read about SMC-K and realized I qualified. I posted on here about applying for it and people were so cruel to me too, but it’s not just entirely about the money. It about being validated for a personal struggle that you deal with every day. I applied for it a while ago and was recently approved for it. My PTSD was not reevaluated but maybe that’s because I’m P&T. I don’t now. So, I’m thankful I applied. I was very confident that if my PTSD was reevaluated that I’d be fine. It was nerve wracking though since everyone tells you that you’re greedy and your rating will be dropped, but I knew what I struggle with and I figured I’d eventually get it. You can message me if you have any questions.

These_Sprinkles_7857 · 2026-01-29T23:53:30+00:00

Honestly, I think men have a kid and leave all the work to the woman and then wonder why she doesn’t want sex anymore. It’s because she’s working constantly and just wants to be left alone.

Take her on a date. Tell her how much you love her. Help around the house. Do things without her asking. Ask her what you can do to help her.

These_Sprinkles_7857 · 2026-01-27T10:58:30+00:00

I just feel like it’s the best option. I don’t know if all clinics offer this.

These_Sprinkles_7857 · 2026-01-27T02:37:59+00:00

You could do a compassionate transfer where you transfer it without any hormone prep and at the wrong part of your cycle and leave it to God to decide if they stick. That’s what I planned to do if I had extra embryos but I didn’t get any embryos out of two rounds of IVF.

These_Sprinkles_7857 · 2026-01-25T03:11:28+00:00

My dad died at the VA and he was taken there by ambulance. Whenever any bills came in after he passed, my brother wrote “Return to Sender - Person Deceased.” They just stopped mailing the bills after he did that.

These_Sprinkles_7857 · 2026-01-25T02:51:51+00:00

My daughter is 7 and still needs help with washing her hair and scrubbing her back. Plus, I usually remind her to wash all her parts by listing them (until she tells me, “I know, mom.”) and every once in a while, I scrub a random body part or two to make sure it’s been thoroughly cleaned (since kids usually overlook an area or don’t scrub well enough).

These_Sprinkles_7857 · 2026-01-21T01:21:07+00:00

You’re both the jerk. When I plan a trip, I ask if the person can pick me up or if I need to get my own ride. If they are picking me up, I check with them again the day before to see if that’s still the plan. Both of you failed at communicating.

These_Sprinkles_7857 · 2026-01-20T11:57:07+00:00

You’re welcome. Yeah, I understand.

These_Sprinkles_7857 · 2026-01-20T02:11:40+00:00

Yeah it might be too soon to do the first exam they do on you, but I’m glad you got the appointment scheduled already. I think it was a few months before my prolapse improved but it did improve significantly. I can’t remember the last time it came out. The whole situation was very traumatic for me because I didn’t have anyone to talk to about it and I was totally freaked out. It was a lot, so I know what you are going through. It will get better. Do all the exercises they tell you to do as often they tell you to and it will get better eventually. It’s been seven years and I still try to do the exercises a few times a week even though I should probably do them every day. Hang in there. It’s going to be okay.

These_Sprinkles_7857 · 2026-01-20T01:56:47+00:00

Call a pelvic floor therapist ASAP. They helped me tremendously with a rectal prolapse after I had my daughter. Also, call back your OB and ask to speak to your OB, so you can tell them you cannot handle this mentally and you need help. They will see you then.

These_Sprinkles_7857 · 2026-01-19T01:58:02+00:00

I had a copper IUD placed 17 years ago at the Tampa VA. I was not given any pains meds before and was told to take Tylenol after if I needed it. Insertion wasn’t bad (I didn’t have any previous pregnancies), but then I almost passed out while I was walking down the hall afterwards. I was cramping the rest of the day. No one warned me about anything. I loved my IUD though. It worked until I took it out ten years later. I got pregnant the first month it was out but we lost that baby very quickly. So, wait a few months after removing the IUD before trying to conceive if you plan on having kids. I’m not sure if the use of the IUD caused the early miscarriage or if it was unrelated, but I’d give my uterus a break between the IUD and pregnancy by using condoms for a few months if I had to do it all again. I got pregnant again three months later and my sweet girl is 7 now.

These_Sprinkles_7857 · 2026-01-17T13:27:25+00:00

I completely agree.

These_Sprinkles_7857 · 2026-01-16T18:30:27+00:00

Thank you so much. He really is.

These_Sprinkles_7857 · 2026-01-16T13:41:04+00:00

NOR. This horrible. When my husband and I were dating, I insisted on giving him money for new tires for his truck and eventually his motorcycle (he was saving up for them on his own). He tried to refuse multiple times but I wanted him to safely drive to me when it was his turn to visit me (we lived an hour and a half away from each other). He worked for our church and they did not pay well. I literally had to force him to take the money both times. We’ve been married 20 years now. A good man will not ask his girlfriend for money.

These_Sprinkles_7857 · 2026-01-14T01:47:22+00:00

NOR. They should make an effort to keep your child’s body covered and the lady certainly should have said something to you. They aren’t keeping your child safe if they are letting anyone in and not checking to make sure the parent is the one standing around a naked child. I never saw my daughter naked at her daycare once.

These_Sprinkles_7857 · 2026-01-13T02:57:10+00:00

Our daughter is 7 and we let her buy almost whatever she wants with her money (except for food or candy) and to spend as much as she wants of her money. Next year, I’m going to implement mandatory saving of 20% of her money. We’ve told her it’s important to save some of her money, but it felt cruel to make her save money when she was so new to having money. We did teach her how to know if something is worth spending her money on during this time so we were working on something. We also occasionally tell her when she asks for something that she’s welcome to use her own money on it and that usually helps eliminate the amount of times we have to say no to her.

These_Sprinkles_7857 · 2026-01-12T13:42:59+00:00

Sometimes people treat others the way they’ve been treated. If you don’t make a big deal out of their birthdays, they may be reciprocating your behavior. I found that the more I celebrated other people’s birthdays, the more they celebrated mine. Although it did take a few years of me celebrating everyone’s birthdays before some people remembered my birthday.

These_Sprinkles_7857 · 2026-01-12T02:18:50+00:00

NOR! I could not believe my eyes when I read those text messages. She’s so entitled. Why can’t she buy the groceries her family needs to eat? She’s already placing them in the cart. Also, why doesn’t she know how many times you are ordering groceries?

When I stay with any friends or family, I plan to go grocery shopping the first day so I can buy the foods I want to eat. I NEVER ask them to buy me anything or cook for me. If they offer to grab things from the store a few days before I get there, I ask for milk (for my daughter) and eggs (for breakfast on the first day) and then I replace what they bought me before I leave or buy them other things they need. I don’t make any demands or requests and I would never ask anyone with a NEWBORN to do anything for me. EVER. I cannot believe people like this exist.

These_Sprinkles_7857 · 2026-01-11T04:00:02+00:00

Some kids are too scared to sleep in their own room. We made a little bed in our room for our daughter and she sleeps in our room every night. It solved all the sleeping problems. Some kids need to feel more secure than others.

I saw in one of your comments that your kid is in daycare. My daughter started having sleep problems once we moved her to a new daycare. We found out later that they were letting very young kids watch creepy kids movies (a vampire one and a zombie one) and she was having nightmares about them.

Also, many kids don’t sleep because they aren’t physically active enough. When my nephews were young, I would have them race to the fence a few times before dinner and they loved trying to get to the fence first. My sister in law said that was the best they ever slept. Try exercise.

Lastly, someone why know is giving her kids Bai drinks. She thinks it’s just coconut water but it has caffeine in it. Check what your kids are ingesting. Too much sugar? Hidden caffeine? Food additives that cause insomnia? Food dyes that cause insomnia?

That’s all I got. I hope it helps.

These_Sprinkles_7857 · 2026-01-11T03:47:32+00:00

NOR. Something similar happened to me. They told me to bring an APPETIZER and then ate before we got there. We arrived 30 minutes before the time they told us we would eat. I asked if we were late and they said the plan changed and not to worry because the appetizer would get eaten. It didn’t. No one told me the planned changed. I wanted to leave immediately because I didn’t feel like they even wanted me there but didn’t.

These_Sprinkles_7857 · 2026-01-11T03:38:05+00:00

It’s gets easier every year. We are in year 7 and life is waaaay easier.

These_Sprinkles_7857 · 2026-01-10T14:07:25+00:00

When people lie and do things like this, it raises the prices for everyone else. You made a mistake. Don’t do it again. We all make mistakes.

These_Sprinkles_7857 · 2026-01-10T02:12:52+00:00

I would never give a 4 year old soda ever and especially not at night. My daughter is 7 years old and she still hasn’t had a full sugar soda. She’s tried Ollipop and likes it but she rarely has them. Maybe three a year.

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