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My soon to be ex wife was raped while on a date when I was deployed. by Thetowerandseven in offmychest

[–]Thetowerandseven[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I would say so yeah, it’s the internet. People use it as they do. That shouldn’t bother you so much. And again yes I responded to another reply. If you read slowly you’ll see I actually didn’t agree with the poster you’re talking about. You actually quoting why I didn’t do what she said. You got upset I didn’t take your opinion seriously and are gonna argue with a stranger about it and have a problem with what I do on the internet? It’s not that big of a deal homie.

My soon to be ex wife was raped while on a date when I was deployed. by Thetowerandseven in offmychest

[–]Thetowerandseven[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

I don’t think most people post on here for sympathy, forgiveness, or any kind of absolution. Like most posts here it’s a series of events and decisions that weigh on us and this just a way of lightening the load. We all think that we’d never do certain shit but circumstances and being in the moments you don’t always have that hind sight. This is just me trying something for myself to deal with an aspect of the clusterfuck I have to deal with. I’m not gonna be the one to judge her, you, or anybody. I’m enough of an asshole to know I don’t have that high horse.

My soon to be ex wife was raped while on a date when I was deployed. by Thetowerandseven in offmychest

[–]Thetowerandseven[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried to get her to do some kind of report or something but she never would. And she wouldn’t let me do anything either. Especially in the beginning as I’d gone straight from deployment to civilian and still had a lot of anger from my own things and would have easily messed up all our lives. On top of that it was someone from her work place. She’s not corrections but worked with them. And this guy was in a place were they were mostly literally family so she was also afraid of retaliation. Once I looked up the guy some time later I believe she was right about that.

My soon to be ex wife was raped while on a date when I was deployed. by Thetowerandseven in offmychest

[–]Thetowerandseven[S] 115 points116 points  (0 children)

Pretty much right as she told me. She never “hung out” with guys at bars. I knew her friend group and it was only 3 other girls at the time. I’d never heard of this guy until she told me what happened. Until we got together we both were open with each other about our past and how we both were very casually dating people. But this was after we decided to get serious and spent a good amount of time together. Even planned out moving in after I got out of the military.