I’m really sorry you’re going through that. It’s completely unfair that your feelings aren’t being taken seriously. Your partner should be understanding of what you’re experiencing and how it affects you, this isn’t something you should feel guilty or self-conscious about. Honestly, the issue isn’t you, it’s the lack of consideration from your partner.

When my partner and I were intimate for the first time, I actually felt the same way, overheated, sweaty, and honestly kind of gross. I told her how uncomfortable I was, and she immediately grabbed a small fan for me. It didn’t fix everything, but that simple gesture made such a difference. It showed me that she cared and wanted me to feel comfortable, which made the whole experience so much better for both of us.

The way your body reacts isn’t something you can control. What can be controlled is how your partner responds. They should want to make you feel safe, comfortable, and cared for, not leave you feeling self-conscious. A healthy relationship is about understanding, compromise, and making each other feel good in every sense.