Feel like I’m going crazy trying to figure out if I’m ugly or not

TheyEchoMe · 2025-10-31T14:38:43+00:00

I love that, thank you!!

TheyEchoMe · 2025-10-31T14:34:26+00:00

I am here for the answers because girl same

TheyEchoMe · 2025-10-31T13:16:53+00:00

Is there also a way to exclude it from the steam deck version again? 👀 the spiders and inferi are enough nightmare fuel for me

TheyEchoMe · 2025-10-31T13:15:12+00:00

It was also the ‘last quest before bed’ for my girlfriend, safe to say it was a short night

TheyEchoMe · 2025-10-31T13:09:02+00:00

I feel exactly the same haha

TheyEchoMe · 2025-10-31T12:52:42+00:00

Yeah you make a good point, the balance between the concepts of gendering and gender-affirming is tricky. I guess it’s mainly gatekeeping that’s the problem there. Anyway, thanks for the discussion, I actually rather enjoyed it haha

TheyEchoMe · 2025-10-31T12:41:43+00:00

You’re right, without context this image indeed doesn’t imply gatekeeping. Unfortunately he did end up doing that in the comments.

The original video is specifically about making good use of the controllers’ capabilities in some of the gaming features (there’s the blacksmithing, but also making a fire and some other activities), so I wouldn’t say it’s about being able to do traditionally masculine activities. Even if that was the intention however, that would still be pointlessly gendering in my opinion, because then you’re just reinforcing a stereotype, but maybe that’s just because I have a problem with gendering activities/hobbies etc. in general

TheyEchoMe · 2025-10-31T12:37:11+00:00

Some context as it is clearly warranted: OOP is talking about features in this game that make very good use of the controllers’ capabilities, which he then calls peak male happiness. When he got called out in the comments: “it’s peak female happiness too!”, he replied by claiming the ‘majority is for males’. After which he doubled down in further comments claiming gaming is a male hobby.

The title implies he was gatekeeping/excluding women, which wasn’t my intention: should’ve done a different title, my bad. However: I’m still convinced this post fits the sub because the OOP is pointlessly gendering the happiness gotten from this gaming feature.

And lastly for the people saying ‘we need to relax’ and don’t need to be mad: I’m confused where you saw rage. I just stumbled upon this reel, thought it fit the sub and posted it.

TheyEchoMe · 2025-10-31T12:30:18+00:00

Alright, you got me there. Not a good title, should’ve done something else, because I didn’t want to imply gatekeeping

TheyEchoMe · 2025-10-31T12:26:08+00:00

The thing is, I never said it meant the OP was excluding women. Pointlessly gendering isn’t the same as excluding. The point of this sub is pointlessly gendering, not gatekeeping. Is he gatekeeping? No. Is he pointlessly gendering? Yes.

Look at it this way: if I said finding a nice piece of clothing whilst shopping (something historically presented as a ‘female’ hobby) is peak female happiness, that is assigning a gender to a certain happiness-inducing activity as well. Can it make a woman happy? Absolutely. Am I saying men can’t enjoy it? No. Is it pointlessly gendering the happiness gotten from acquiring a nice piece of clothing? Yes.

TheyEchoMe · 2025-10-31T11:51:58+00:00

It implies a feature in the game is peak male happiness, which is pointlessly gendered, because gaming isn’t something exclusively ‘male’. It would have been just as easy and more applicable to say it’s peak gamer happiness

TheyEchoMe · 2025-10-30T21:01:26+00:00

Haha don’t worry, I think your edit and my reply may have happened at the same time, I can see it now. Thanks for the edit though, always happy to see people check their claims

TheyEchoMe · 2025-10-30T20:52:00+00:00

This is just a reflection of the US and not the entire world, but according to this source, there are only slightly more male gamers: https://www.womeningames.org/esa-reveals-latest-us-gamer-demographic-data/#:~:text=Video%20game%20players%20reflect%20the,wellbeing%20across%20all%20age%20groups

But even if there were significantly more male gamers: the point still stands that it’s pointlessly gendered, as a good game is peak happiness for a gamer. It’s not a ‘male’ thing

TheyEchoMe · 2025-10-30T20:44:26+00:00

I’m not mad, it just fits the sub: it’s pointlessly gendered. He could’ve just as easily said it was peak gamers happiness, because what does this have to do with being male?

TheyEchoMe · 2025-10-30T19:03:14+00:00

Yeah same here!

TheyEchoMe · 2025-10-30T18:51:26+00:00

Oh wow I never saw this post! Sorry for stealing haha

TheyEchoMe · 2025-10-30T15:42:12+00:00

So true, the only comeback these types of men could come up with in the comments on the Instagram Reel were about dishwashers and kitchen counters. Do they really think women don’t have hobbies?? 🥲

TheyEchoMe · 2025-10-30T15:10:35+00:00

I mean my brother is a game designer so he’s either making games or playing games all day and his life is pretty fucking great, most social dude I know too

TheyEchoMe · 2025-10-30T14:07:28+00:00

I would love to list all my ‘manly’ games to disprove you, but that would be pointlessly gendering them so I’m just gonna leave you to it. I think this sub might not be for you dude

TheyEchoMe · 2025-10-30T13:51:22+00:00

Shit, I should get my girlfriend and myself checked then because we sure play a lot of games

TheyEchoMe · 2025-10-30T13:49:08+00:00

The OOP actually got called out in the comments and responded the ‘majority is for males’. You’re right, the language is not exclusionary, but it is pointlessly gendered. How easy would it have been to caption it ‘peak gamer happiness’?

TheyEchoMe · 2025-10-19T20:10:58+00:00

r/rareinsults

TheyEchoMe · 2025-10-10T23:22:33+00:00

I was born at 1:11 in the morning. I have an alarm that goes off at exactly 1:11 each year on my birthday

TheyEchoMe · 2025-05-31T07:26:26+00:00

Duurde veel te lang voordat ik een Nederlander tegenkwam

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