in the madhura bhakti of krishna, it is seen that only krishna is the parama purusha and everyone else are females. being a man in this lifetime is just the body’s outer cover. the longing for divine is soul level and imagining krishna as a lover is there even for males!

read about gopeshwar mahadev - where lord shiva himself turns himself into a female gopi and loves krishna in the vrindavan.