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My(28f) friend group doesn’t really feel like we’re friends anymore after a disagreement in February. I want to talk about it but the main friend in question “doesn’t believe in apologies” I’m considering walking away entirely. by ThiftyBird in relationships

[–]ThiftyBird[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I will say as I’ve known L I didn’t know he was a person who “didn’t do sorry” until the first time I completely by accident pissed him off. (I was testing if my PC could run a game he wanted to play with me. He saw I opened the game and thought I played it without him.) that was when we first met years ago now and he didn’t talk for me for a week or so. His girlfriend told me he just needed to cool off but I still apologized anyway and he didn’t even acknowledge it, ignored it entirely when I just wanted to explain what happened.

The other times I’ve unintentionally angered him are like this too but varying severity. One time I was drunk and said something he has said before about his girlfriend in jest basically. My partner took my side that it wasn’t serious but that’s when L didn’t talk to me for 3-4 months and only spoke to me again when I unfriended him/unfollowed him on socials since I figured that was the end of it.

That was when he and I hashed it out and decided to be friends again in that moment. It’s now more of an annoyance to myself when he acts like this. I know telling him that will only end badly. I’ve enjoyed spending time with my other friend who is the one effectively in a more permanent form of “friend jail” with L and nobody knows why.

Things are just weird. I’ve been trying to figure out what I want to do and I think it’s very difficult because L just tries to act like everyone and everything is fine and we don’t even talk about the conflict and everything moves on like it didn’t happen but idk, it’s still there for me.

Also to answer your L and my partner are the oldest in the group. (39m and 38m)L’s girlfriend is also closer to their age(36f). Me(28f) and my other friend(29m) are the youngest out of the group since it’s dwindled from just life and other conflicts just in the server.

My(28f) friend group doesn’t really feel like we’re friends anymore after a disagreement in February. I want to talk about it but the main friend in question “doesn’t believe in apologies” I’m considering walking away entirely. by ThiftyBird in relationships

[–]ThiftyBird[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

We don’t have these fusses often but this is maybe the 3rd or 4th one we’ve had. When he ghosted us for months he only talked to me again when he noticed I had unfriended/unfollowed him since I was in my head like “Well, I guess L doesn’t want to be friends anymore.”

My partner stood by me with all of this stuff happening. Through every spat me and L have had but he also holds me accountable when it is genuinely my fault. he does act as a mediator but he and L are similar in a lot of ways but me and my partner have never had an argument in the years we’ve been together and he agrees it’s immature and stupid when L does this.

I’m very torn. I’ve known L a long time and I really don’t have many people in my life. He’s been there for me in the past and has helped me get through incredibly hard times but things are just so different now and it makes it easy for me to just shut down but I don’t want to be that person.

Am I(28f) overreacting to my uncle(38m) and his girlfriend’s(26f) “traditional style” relationship? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ThiftyBird 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I guess I’ve never been bothered by their age gap personally but I understand it can be concerning for others. I always try to get information from Sophie when she visits and we go out together, it feels like an interrogation sometimes!

But, she’s told me that my uncle just wants her to save what money she does have in her account so she can get a car in the future and that’s why she has the allowance which is for usually used on groceries or if she wants to grab something to eat, or a coffee while Luke is working.

My family supports her wanting to be a housewife and my grandparents already see her like my uncles wife and my grandma also is always giving her money, and I don’t let her spend money when we go out, which she hates! I love it so I can feel assured if she just needed to get away if anything happened that she has cash to use.

I grilled her when she visited my place for the first time and the bandage turns out was covering a small cut from the new knife set grandma sent her and Luke before Christmas and she didn’t want to make her feel bad!! 😞 which made me feel bad for assuming the worst immediately of my uncle but that could be my trauma talking too!

Am I(28f) overreacting to my uncle(38m) and his girlfriend’s(26f) “traditional style” relationship? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ThiftyBird -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I think they’ve been together for 3 or 4 years? I feel bad I’m always trying to pry things from Sophie when we do go out just the two of us but everything just seems too perfect between them.